World’s oldest living married couple, Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher of North Carolina who currently hold the Guinness World record for the longest living marriage have teamed up to give secrets to lasting relationship.
101-year old Zelmyra and her husband Herbert, 104 recently took to twitter to reveal powerful relationship secrets
Read their take on finding love, pressing through tough times and many more.
1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.
2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime
3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.
4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.
5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Respect, support & communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart
6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!
7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!
Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!
8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.
11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.
12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win
13. Is fighting important?
NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!
14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else? We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day.
This year marks their 85 years of marriage.
Powerful tips!
Posted: at 19-07-2012 04:54 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
jossy4reall at 19-07-2012 08:09 PM (12 years ago) (m)
they tried..........., but wat advice can they give 2 todayz couple??.........cuz wat works 4 dem in dia own time cannot work in todayz marriage 4 eg: do they have BB to ping??......... I dont think so
Love or Hate me its ur Biz, I have more important things to think abt since u never gonna change me
Posted: at 19-07-2012 08:09 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
mallorca at 19-07-2012 10:08 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Quote from: jossy4reall on 19-07-2012 08:09 PM
they tried..........., but wat advice can they give 2 todayz couple??.........cuz wat works 4 dem in dia own time cannot work in todayz marriage 4 eg: do they have BB to ping??......... I dont think so
;DJossy u no go kill me 4 dis forum
HOPE IS MY ROAD,VICTORY IS MY DESTINY
Posted: at 19-07-2012 10:08 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Treasure2 at 20-07-2012 09:16 AM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: jossy4reall on 19-07-2012 08:09 PM
they tried..........., but wat advice can they give 2 todayz couple??.........cuz wat works 4 dem in dia own time cannot work in todayz marriage 4 eg: do they have BB to ping??......... I dont think so
A very good question........ .......Everybody dey ping now......
Posted: at 20-07-2012 09:16 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
yes now na gaga mode e dey now,a girl go dey struggle to eat three square meal a day,but na BB porsche,brazilian hair n co. she go dey demand from her boyfriend...while u go see a guy wey no get up to 300k for em account go dey wan wear expensive things like louis vuitton,D&G n co...to entice girls..
The difference between GENIUS and STUPIDITY is that, genius has it limits..
Posted: at 20-07-2012 09:39 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
Treasure2 at 20-07-2012 09:48 AM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 20-07-2012 09:39 AM
yes now na gaga mode e dey now,a girl go dey struggle to eat three square meal a day,but na BB porsche,brazilian hair n co. she go dey demand from her boyfriend...while u go see a guy wey no get up to 300k for em account go dey wan wear expensive things like louis vuitton,D&G n co...to entice girls..
Ask them again....They want to belong and that is what is destroying many people today.........Many has gone into crime to please whom they are not suspose to...........Many women have join prostitution to look like ministers when they are not up to a steward.......Who takes the blame......Old fashion......
Posted: at 20-07-2012 09:48 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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