How should I do it? (Page 2)

Quote from: myragonza on  2-07-2009 09:17 AM

Quote from: olomilove on  1-07-2009 08:31 PM

Hi Every Pal,

I would be pleased if you all could advice me on the best way possible to tell her that we need to stop seeing each other without causing her any headache.

We use to love each other before I left her seven years ago after a 3year affair and get married to someone else afterwards. I now have 3 children, all boys. I love my wife so much cause she is open, down-to-hearth, infact she possess all a man should dream of in marriage including beauty. I mean she is really beautiful!!!!

But over the last four years, I have been cheating on my lovely wife because my EX-GIRL FRIEND would not let me be. I am also personally finding it difficult to stop thinking about her. Something in me tells me I still love her and I can also see all over her that she loves me too despite me status. Quite honestly, she is not desperate for husband otherwise I would have said she is trying to hook on to me. She has suitors but would not let go of me. I can now see this as an impending Danger since I would never in my life take on a second wife and if I do not stop seeing her as soon as possible, age would no longer be on her side as she is now 30years old.

How should I go by it Plleassssssssssssssssssssssssssssss?

confess to ur wife

Thanks for wanting to kill my happy home.

Posted: at 2-07-2009 11:33 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

I sympathize with her! is just that she till loves you bcos three years good relationship can't be 4gotten by ladies, but you have to get out of it. be cos two wrong can make a right. Pls ! may i ask why u break up with her initial.

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Posted: at 3-07-2009 04:13 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

Devil don dey beat drum for U U sef follow dey dance. UR A MARRIED MAN & A FATHER for crying out loud. Be responsible for Ur actions at least.

Posted: at 3-07-2009 10:00 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

passing..............

Posted: at 3-07-2009 10:20 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Well, you have to always avoid any physical contact -- at all cost.

out of sight .. is probably out of. ..............

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Posted: at 3-07-2009 04:02 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Thanks Zarma,
You see everyone in life has got different ways of doing things. I must be honest that she is an absolutely wify material, but just one thing which I know might cause problems if I had not left her.

Whenever we were together then, irrespective of what we might be doing, my EX would never want any other person around even my own siblings and hers not to mention extended relatives. Because of this, so many people started keeping away from me. I on the other hand, I am a man of the people (I mean I am happy when I need to see people and they are there for me).  I tried to correct this and made her understand why we need people around us sometimes but she unfortunately was not seeing things my way. Zarma, quite honestly I loved this lady but I would not withstand my relatives not coming to my house because of my wife when I'm married. I want to believe you understand what I mean. We are Africans including her and we can not change that fact. Funningly after I had left her for someone else, she told me that was the reason why she never really wanted too much people around us (i.e she was feeling insecure) that someone will might snatch me away when influenced by friends alike.

Fish brained you would say, but this lady graduated 1st class in accounting and made me to understand that life is not how much book you know with her unchanged behaviour.

Trust me, that was the only reason and nothing more.

I must confess that I am a really really happy man with my family and that is why I have now finally decided to let go.  I must say that everyday when I wake up, I do say ''God Bless the Day I met my wife'' because she a perfect woman.

I would be meeting with my EX this weekend and hopefully we'll sort everything out finally.

Thanks to every pal who has contributed to this topic. I promise to keep you guys posted of the outcome.

Posted: at 3-07-2009 04:38 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

l don't know whats wrong with some men sef ? Phew!!!

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Posted: at 3-07-2009 04:48 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

EX after seven years and u cant break it up? am coming...

Posted: at 4-07-2009 02:05 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

@poster, u better tell her fast.
u just have to

Posted: at 4-07-2009 05:28 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

tell who? @ postman.... lol............ please dont tell your wife ooo... cos that's where ur home will start breaking...ok

Posted: at 4-07-2009 12:28 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac