How My Marriage Is Stable Despite Being A Famous Actress - Mercy Johnson Okojie

Published On: April 2, 2015, 12:27 pm
Author: kaygee
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Super star actress Mercy Johnson-Okojie has revealed more secrets to how she made her  four-year-old marriage remain stable .
According to what she told Leadership in an interview  , she attributes her decision to build her marriage on truth, no matter the situation as one of the reasons her marriage has been blissful . She said she resolved to abide by the truth at all times as advised by her pastor.
Read excerpts from the interview below :
Her opinion on general notion that actresses do not make good wives :
Well, I can only speak from my own perspective and when I say my perspective, I mean from my personal experiences, marriage and relationship with my husband. One of the biggest lies anyone can tell himself/herself is using one or more random experiences to judge and stereotype others. We all have our different stories to tell. I have two children for my husband today and he has not stopped talking about how down-to-earth I was yet I am an actress; not just any actresses. I had a large following at that time yet I did not go around pouting my lips or playing the snub. My husband later confessed to me that for him, it was love at first sight but that did not stop him from asking me to cook for him the first day I set foot in his house.
At first, I was stunned that a Nigerian man was asking me to enter his kitchen to cook him a meal. A part of me whispered to me that perhaps, he was not aware of who I was and when I said to him: ‘You must be joking. My name is Mercy Johnson’. What shocked me even more was his response when he said: ‘I know’. Rather than take offence, I was drawn closer to him. We have been married since 2011 and we love each other to bits till date and have consciously decided to spend the rest of our lives together.
As I said earlier, I am an actress who is correcting the rigid stand that actresses cannot have happy homes when they get married. Also, bear in mind that there are several Nigerian actresses like me who are happily married. Having a happy marriage is a choice a woman has to make. When you decide to have a happy marriage, you focus your thoughts, actions, words, work and everything else around protecting that happiness.
On what she thinks is  responsible for the high divorce rate among celebrities:
In marriage, you must have trust and you must also have love. The moment you lose these two, then it is just a matter of time before you embark on a calamitous countdown towards the end of your marriage. My relationship with my husband has been very special. He is not just my husband or father of my children. He is my friend.
Her secrets to the stability of your marriage ,apart from love and trust :
I don’t even have to think about it. It is honesty. I remember the words of my pastor to me even before we got married. He advised me never to have a marriage built on lies and I listened. I don’t lie to my husband. We have agreed to tell the truth to each other regardless of how painful or scary it might be. I remember one instance when I found myself crying when I had to tell him the truth. That day, I had attended an event wearing a lovely dress that had a slit but unfortunately, at that event, the paparazzi captured a wrong image of me.
 I picked up my phone and I don’t think I have to tell you who I called first. My husband, of course, and guess what? I was crying and sobbing even before I started talking to him because I felt really bad about it. Rather than lie to him, I told him the complete truth and it helped in no small measure. I remember him asking how bad it was and I remember telling him that it was really bad. I sent him the photo and he consoled me.
That is what a husband who is also a friend does. He did not rub it in my face, insult me, make me feel bad or dent my self-esteem. He was there for me when I needed him and he has not stopped till date. This is one of the reasons I do not hide anything from him. He loves me just as passionately and as fiercely as I love him and I have no doubt in my mind that our marriage was ordained. God had a hand in it and that is why everything just works out between us. That is the only thing I can consider the secret of our love story, which continues to blossom. I have two children, an amazing husband and millions of fans who have held my back over the years and of course, God who has watched over my affairs from the very first day I arrived in this world till this moment.

-- Fazob (m) at 2-04-2015 01:19PM
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he is merely tolerating your excesess. That of course will do for a good husband
-- beneno (m) at 2-04-2015 01:48PM
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
-- beneno (m) at 2-04-2015 01:50PM
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its too early.u should be saying this after 20 to 30 years of marriage  Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
-- deboalabi262 (m) at 2-04-2015 02:02PM
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Wives 'submit' to your husbands 'in honeypot' and husbands respect and love your wives  -so written in the Holy Bible..... Cool

-- Wysetots (m) at 2-04-2015 02:57PM
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-- deboalabi262 (m) at 2-04-2015 03:02PM
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Quote from: deboalabi262 on  2-04-2015 02:02PM
Wives 'submit' to your husbands 'in honeypot' and husbands respect and love your wives  -so written in the Holy Bible..... Cool
I did not write 'in  honey' what I meant was in totality.

-- echeeche (m) at 2-04-2015 04:30PM
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 Grin Grin
-- elchymo (m) at 21-08-2015 04:54AM
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Very good
-- ngfineface (f) at 2-09-2015 02:24PM
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It's God my sister., God bless u