”They feel hurt, angry, and frustrated. Thoughts of divorce might even enter their mind. Maybe it’s because their spouse isn’t on the same page with them as they move through the situation. Or, maybe it’s because their spouse caused the situation.
Yes, there may be times when you’re justified for having these kinds of thoughts or feelings. And a few situations may be legitimate grounds for divorce.
But they are also grounds for give and take, a sense of adventure and humor, and even forgiveness and grace.
They are times to move closer together, not pull further apart.
Tips for Managing Changing Expectations in Your Relationship
So, how can we not just survive, but thrive through the unanticipated changes that come our way in relationship?
Realize that Change is to Be Expected, and Commit to Never Letting it Pull You Apart
You talked about changing expectations on your wedding day, remember?
When you promised to love, honor and cherish in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer! Tough situations can make or break a couple. Choose to let it make you stronger and better, together.
Agree to Disagree
Make the most of the things you can both agree on together, and graciously agree to disagree when needed. Disagreements don’t have to be final or fatal. My wife and I have changed our views on money several times in our marriage. Sometimes it has taken months or years for both of us to get 100% on the same page regarding a particular issue. Other times, God worked within one of us pretty quickly to change our thinking.
Keep it as Simple as Possible
Those who are debt-free and live a modest lifestyle can weather most any storm in their relationship better than those who have the stress of debt and stuff hanging over them too.
Good Communication is Key
Don’t shut down or keep your thoughts and fears to yourself. But don’t make a scene, start an argument, or pass blame either. Find a time – and a way – for both of you to share your thoughts and feelings in a positive manner.
Is funny how communication with your spouse might affect one’s finances. The returns are likely greater than just financial. A committed relationship to your spouse pays all sorts of dividends – companionship, support during health issues, a united family and more.
However, financial benefits are great too: Did you know that couples who argued regularly about finances were 30 percent more likely to get divorced. My suspicion is that ARGUING might have as much to do about communication skills as it does their finances. The sad thing is divorces devastate the finances not just of the mom but the dad and the kids too.
And lastly don’t be afraid to revisit an issue from time to time. For example, if we’ve agreed to disagree about an item, we commit to talking about it again a month or two down the road to see if it is still important to us at that time.
Note: Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask others for help or counsel. How have you handled changing expectations about money in your marriage?
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