Divorce is anti-human. It has adverse affects on the human being at both spirit, soul and body levels. God who put it together hates divorce because it perverts His work. That is why the devil chose it as a soft spot to corrupt mankind and challenge God himself. But marriage would have to be given a chance, because when unity exists, marriage could be blissful. It's not about how old, more about maturity. There must be other elements of understanding resulting from long intimacy, love and unity of purpose (that is, a burning desire to invest and keep on investing in the marriage). Some even go a step further, if they could handle it, by having and raising children, in order to strengthen their marital bonds. As you rightly stated, there must be an overflow of grace to forgive on both sides. That does not mean that either spouse could go out there and commit offences that contravene marital rules because their partner has a glut of the forgiving grace o. There is no perfect marriage anywhere, Genevieve. There are a dozen or more reasons for loving someone and wanting to be their partner for life. No one single individual has all of them. Plus, the devil is forever throwing spanners in the spinning wheel of matrimony. That is why there are no perfect marriages. Prioritise your reasons for marriage by asking yourself: what 3 or 4 abiding characters does he or she have that attracts him or her so strongly to me? Is your priority strong on having just a "tall, handsome and educated guy", for example? Would you prefer a beautiful, educated young lady over one that is disciplined and capable of raising the kind of children you envisage? It is only through an established process of friendship that one could fathom out these character traits. Choose the ones you want and leave out the rest. If he or she lacks those traits on your priority list, it would be foolishness to fall in love. Just walk away. Those that are not so important would form a clutch of the tests or lessons both of you would continue to find solutions or answers to on daily basis throughout your lives. Another reason why understanding and forgiveness must prevail. Living is about working. Do not be scared of marriage, for in the spiritual realm, it is a confirmation that God was right when he made man and woman to cohabit as one. The devil gnashes whenever one of those marriages is taking place. Expect him and learn to identify his antics, by using the weapon of forgiveness to dislodge him. Above these, cling to God as to yourselves, if only because He is the author of marriage and has the secrets to its survival. Without God, no marriage would last the midnight hour. One of the reasons behind Hollywood's woeful divorce rate.and others out there who are scared of marriage because of a possible divorce incident.
Posted: at 15-08-2015 12:07 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac |
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