Why I Married 18 Year Old Adamawa Princess - Emir Of Kano Muhammad Sanusi II

Published 4 years ago by: Victor A. Ofoma
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at 12:14 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)

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Emir of Kano Muhammad Sanusi II has responded to criticisms following his marriage to 18 year old Sa'adatu Barkindo-Musdafa last week. In a private email sent to select people which has leaked to many social media platforms, he explained why he decided to marry Sa'adatu.

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"I am sure NC members all have their views and have kept quiet out of (appropriate) deference to our right to make our individual choice. Obviously I do not need to explain anything to anyone in a purely personal matter but a few points are worthy of note:

1. The lady in question is 18 and thererfore legally of age to marry under all laws and certainly inder Muslim law

2. She is proceeding for her undergraduate education in the UK in january. She had an A in computer science in her O levels and plans to get a degree in computer science

3 each and everyone of my wives is a university graduate and some have worked and fhen stopped and in each case the choice was purely theirs

4. It is a tradition in Kano that emirs and princes in choosing wives consider issues beyond the individual. The family is in every sense a social unit. My predecessor was married to princesses from Ilorin, Katsina and Somoto

5 The relationship between the late Lamido of Adamawa Aliyu Musdafa the father of the current Lamido is well known. Lamido Aliyu was the first emir turbanned after emir Sanusi I and they remained close until Sanusi’s death.

6. My own relationship with the current Lamido dates back to 1981 when he was Ciroma and commissioner for works. By the way the Lamido and I are not illiterates we know what we are doing and he does have a PhD in Engineering

7. My own mother was married in Adamawa and lived there for more than two decades and I have eight younger brothers and sisters from there

8 it is therefore natural that if I choose to marry from another kingdom Adamawa would be the first choice for me and I am extremely happy to strengthen these ling historical bonds

9. The young lady in question gave her free consent and even after the contract the wedding will not happen for a few years. By then she may be 21. If she freely consents to this I do not know on what moral grounds anyone has a grouse. She is an adult, she gave her consent, her education is not being in anyway interrupted.

10. The real issue is that people do not accept cultural difference. And you can see it in the approach to these issues. I am supposed to be urbane and western educated. Yes but i am not european. I am a northern Nigerian Fulani Muslim brought up in a setting exactly like the one my children are being brought up in.

If you read this and it improves your understanding of this issue that is fine. If it does not justvremember it us not your life, it is not your daughter and you are not my wife therefore it is not your business.

I obviously cannot stoop to the level of responding publicly to these kinds of articles. I have always been an advocate of girls marrying after maturing. I personally like the minimum age of 18 even though i understand those who say 16 is fine and indeed this is the law in most so calked @[email protected] countries.

Is this something that I expect a european or western trained or feminist mind to appreciate or endorse? Not at all. But has any american been bothered about my views on men marrying men or women marrying women which frankly I find primitive and bestial? No and my views do not matter. These are cultural issues.

Even in Nigeria I have heard all this stuff as in Pius article about “north” and northerners. Again it is a failure to respect difference. There are parts if this country where parents expect their daughters to live with their boyfriends for years and actually get pregnant before they marry. It has become culture. We do not have that in the north and if your daughter gets pregnant before marriage she brings nothing but shame to the name. But we do not issue condemnations. We agree that this is how they choose to live. And i can give many other examples.

When people use the term libido they do themselves injustice. First of all it shows how they view women and marriage. Women are nothing but the object of sexual desire. Marriage is nothing but sexual gratification. Well I am sorry but in my tradition it is not. Beauty and attraction rank third after religion and lineage in the choice of a wife. They see an 18 year old young lady. I see a princess of noble birth whose mother is also a princess, and who has been brought up in a good muslim home. This is the kind of woman that is prepared for hiving birth to princes and bringing them up for the role expected of them in society.
Martiage is both social and political.

Expanding the links of kano which have already been established by my predecessors through inter marriage with katsina, sokoto, ilorin, katagum, ningi, bauchi etc to adamawa is an important and signifant step and this is obvious to anyone with a sense of how royal families work and Ibn Khaldun’s sociological concept of Asabiyyah. When the emir of Kano marries it has to be something beyond what he oersonally desires to what is appropriate for that position and the expectations of the people he represents. You dont just pick up any girl on the street. And by the way for thise who shout libido sex is cheap and available everywhere in all shapes and sizes and all colours if that is what they want. And all ages too. Martiage is a very different proposition.

The mother of your children has to be something other than, ot at least much more than a mere object of sexual fantasy. But if you do not know that you need to buy yourself a brain.

I have daughters. And they know they can only marry from certain backgrounds. I always prefer family. When my daughter wanted to marry mouftah baba ahmed’s son and she asked me, knowing my views on family, i told her mouftah is family. And this is not about me and mouftah or me an hakeem or nafiu. No. It goes back to Baba Ahmed and Emirs Sanusi and Bayero. And the same rule applies to my sons. And it applied to me as well.

It is I am sure very strange that I should even bother to comment on this. But it would be hypocritical for me to just keep quiet so long as these things are being posted and commented upon explicitly or in a snide manner. There was no secrecy in the marriage fatiha. The date was fixed and it was to be done in the central mosque after friday prayers. The day before we had a tragedy in Saudi Arabia and decided the fatiha must be very low key as a mark of respect for the dead. All traditional rulers in adamawa were there, as were governors and commissioners, members of my own emirate council and adamawa people. There is nothing here to hide or be apologetic about.

The emirs of adamawa have shown love to my parents and grandparents and it is a sign of my appreciation of their love that i marry their daughter. This is the highest statement of friendship and loyalty on both sides.

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dickieponga at 12:21 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Na foto shoot be dis or foto copy cos dem no look alike....
Dat im new wife worwor..
Poster no dey fool us...
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dickieponga at 12:40 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Excuses, excuses and more excuses...
Ur still a fu*king pedophile, don't try to con us...
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dickieponga at 12:42 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Make she come uk, boys go poke d living daylights out of am...
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yemoma at 01:09 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Serious things. If she comes to UK especially London, she will be loungin.
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Yeyeminister at 01:29 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Hmmmm what a world. Three wives yet you are not satisfied. Na wa o. Sha na different stroke.
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proly at 02:18 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Hahahhahh d man don vex
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angesco at 04:27 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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We should RESPECT each others cultural beliefs. We may not accept cultural diversity but this is what makes the WORLD a BEAUTIFUL place to live.

Cultural hate - RACISM, TRIBALISM, RELIGIOUS INTOLERANCE is tearing Gods world apart.

LIVE AND LET LIVE!
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hackynoni111 at 04:51 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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well na him life sha
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hackynoni111 at 04:52 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: dickieponga on 12:21 AM, 30/09/2015
Na foto shoot be dis or foto copy cos dem no look alike....
Dat im new wife worwor..
Poster no dey fool us...

me sef the think am o
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hackynoni111 at 04:52 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: dickieponga on 12:40 AM, 30/09/2015
Excuses, excuses and more excuses...
Ur still a fu*king pedophile, don't try to con us...

hehehe,  this guy the vex o
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hackynoni111 at 04:53 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: dickieponga on 12:42 AM, 30/09/2015
Make she come uk, boys go poke d living daylights out of am...

she stil dey learn sha
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hackynoni111 at 04:53 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: yemoma on 01:09 AM, 30/09/2015
Serious things. If she comes to UK especially London, she will be loungin.

hehehe, she still be learner sha
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hackynoni111 at 04:54 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: Yeyeminister on 01:29 AM, 30/09/2015
Hmmmm what a world. Three wives yet you are not satisfied. Na wa o. Sha na different stroke.

he  may still take another one
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hackynoni111 at 04:54 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: proly on 02:18 AM, 30/09/2015
Hahahhahh d man don vex

i dey tell u o
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hackynoni111 at 04:54 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: angesco on 04:27 AM, 30/09/2015
We should RESPECT each others cultural beliefs. We may not accept cultural diversity but this is what makes the WORLD a BEAUTIFUL place to live.

Cultural hate - RACISM, TRIBALISM, RELIGIOUS INTOLERANCE is tearing Gods world apart.

LIVE AND LET LIVE!

u r absolutely right
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oluyemibanjoko at 05:36 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Much as I dont fancy old men marrying young girls, I am in support of Sanusi cos as he said, the girl is 18. So she is old enough to know what she wants. She is old enough to be married.
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Onyibochukwu at 06:12 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Pls try and marry six years too, bokoaram like you
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sonofman25 at 06:14 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Naija and wetin no concern them,  how does dis affect boko harm,  our economy,  state of government and many more.  How a man or woman run his or her family is not my biz. Let take a break from religion and face culture.  This is our culture in Africa,  in Africa we don't marry them not only wen they are 18 we do it rit from birth, even some pple go as far telling there friend that wen ur wife put to bed if it a girl I would like my son to marry her that is our culture.  Many of u should go back home and ask ur parent at Wat age did they marry each oda. Cus of one stupid  civilization we forget our culture .  Many of d girls dat are not up to 18 can beat her chest and say am still  virgin. Read BTW d line d girl in question was not forced. how many guys can say dey av not touch an under age girl b4.
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sonofman25 at 06:18 AM, 30/09/2015 (4 years ago)
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Quote from: Onyibochukwu on 06:12 AM, 30/09/2015
Pls try and marry six years too, bokoaram like you
just ask ur parent at what age did they marry each oda
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