My fiancé dates a ‘sugar mummy’

I am 26 and my fiancé is 28 years old. We have been together since our university days and both of us are waiting for the national youth service. Recently, he was introduced to an older woman by his cousin and when he initially told me about it, I kicked against it. But he explained that he was doing it for me because I could dump him for a richer man in future and he needed to secure my love for him. He confessed to be after the woman’s money and after many pleas, I agreed. Two weeks ago, he told me how the ‘sugar mummy’ gave him some money and he paid N200,000 (two hundred thousand) into my account. He said I should start a business with the money, pending the time we went for youth service. Have I done the right thing to have permitted him to date an older woman? I am confused.

T.S, Lagos

I think it was wrong of you to have agreed to the ‘deal’. Does a man need to secure you for himself with money? Are you telling him that he should get money by any means so as to prevent you from running away with another man in future? I see this ‘deal’ turning sour and very soon, that ‘sugar mummy’ will be in total control of your fiancé and you will be left in the cold. For a woman to be dishing out money to a younger man, there is more to it than meets the eye. Already, there is a hold of greed on your fiancé coupled with lust. Even if you tell him to stop now, I am sure that he would not. Rather, he would give more excuses. If I were you, I would return that money and tell him that I prefer him and his love instead. If you don’t act fast, they will get married and he will keep telling you to hold on because it is part of the ‘deal’.