i made a sacrifice a long time ago to the man i loved.....b/c i could not help him i told him to go and meet someone who will....he needed his papers...( green card) i could not help in that matter and i felt it was selfish for me to hold him down when this is something that he had to do before he met me ...we agreed on contract bases for him to do it but things could not work in that matter ....so anyways we have been going through so much ever since he married and moved in with her....he never stop profesing his love for but i became insecure and lost trusat...b/c he was now living with her...though he spent most of his tiome working u know ....at the end of the day i broke up with him 3 times b/c i just did not know how to handle him living with someone else the things ithought went on consumed me with anger and the wonderful relation we had build crumbled...he always told me i dhould just be patient tat things will soon be better and we could be back like we once use to be but i always felt 2nd ....the attn was lacking we cwould go a whole month and only see each other twice,,,,,i could not call him when i wanted ....out of the 3 times we broke up i had sex with someone else.....so the 2nd time aorund he decided that he thinks we just better saty friends.....i cant sleep or eat all i have been doing is crying and begging him...he said that i should do what it is that i want that if through our friendship we could regain trust we could try again...but that even though he lived with her he has held him self and not do such to me......SO IM SO HURT RIGHT NOW I DONT KNOW WHAT SAY ANYMORE.....CRYING AND LOSING SLEEP ....HAVING HEADACHES....HE IS MY FIRST IN EVERYTHING AND LOSING HIM MAKES ME FEEL LIFE LESS
Posted: at 18-02-2010 11:32 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
Starlette at 18-02-2010 04:12 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Hey yah!stop crying, u sudn't ve let him go at 1st. Maybe he is not God's plan 4 u. Remember everytin works 2gada 4 gud 2 dem dat believe. It is Well!
De shining star
Posted: at 18-02-2010 04:12 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
nigerianraised at 19-02-2010 10:44 AM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Starlette on 18-02-2010 04:12 PM
Hey yah!stop crying, u sudn't ve let him go at 1st. Maybe he is not God's plan 4 u. Remember everytin works 2gada 4 gud 2 dem dat believe. It is Well!
THANKX I WISH I COULD YOU .....I MEAN I LET HIM GO B/C HE HAD PLANS OF GETTING HIS PAPER BEFORE HE MET AND I DID NOT THINK IT WAS FAIR THAT I BECOME A ROAD BLOCK IN HIS LIFE.....I RATHER HIM BE LIVING IN THE STATES LEGALLY WITHOUT ALWAYS LIVING IN FEAR YOU KNOW SO THAT IS WHY I MADE THAT SACRIFICE.....BUT THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED HAS A RESULT ...IM TRYING TO JUST OCCUOY MY SELF...BUT IT'S NOT EASY I MUST CONFESS...WHEN I TOLD HIME TO GO AND MEET SOMEONE WHO WILL I ALSO STOOD BY HIS SIDE AND ASSITED HIM IN TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE TO DO THE DEED ...SO IT'S NOT LIKE I WAS RUDE ABOUT IT ...HE UNDERSTOOD THAT I JUST WANT ED HIM TO HAVE A SECURED LIFE HERE U KNOW....
Posted: at 19-02-2010 10:44 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
U made the wrng decision suggesting or consenting to such a precarious arrangement. If he loved U he should have turned down the offer. If U loved him U myt have considered coming to be with him. Shey na "abroad" dey hungry una pass unaselves? Now U know better.
It's not the end of life. better luck next time ehn.
Posted: at 19-02-2010 10:51 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
I undastand yaa feeling cos u said he's yaa 1st love but u mst get over it cos if anytin odd hapens to yaa ur guy will stil be rocking live mehn! Nobody is perfect,we all makes mistake.d main tin der is dat,wen we make mistakes we shud try learn frm it to prvent future reoccurence. Life is a techer,d more we live d more we learn.Get over it and move on with yaa live b4 insomania struck u...
Posted: at 19-02-2010 11:43 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
livingmodel at 19-02-2010 12:46 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Sister, i know how u feel.If he loves u and he is the God's will 4u,he will still come back 4u. leave him to decide because if u force or carry yourself to him, he will still use u and hurt u the more. Even if he didn't come back, u have to move on.He is not the only man in the world.sleeping with your past will never solve any problem, rather it will be worse. so let go.
Posted: at 19-02-2010 12:46 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
ebony_cutie at 19-02-2010 12:54 PM (15 years ago) (f)
I can feel your hurt & pains dear but you have to stay strong for yourself & love yourself first.....be assured if he is yours, then you both can work thgs out but if he decides to leave..hey, thats not the end of life, i have been there b4 so know exactly how it feels but the strength you need to pull thru comes from within, get yourself busy with thgs that makes you happy & enjoy each day of your life!
Posted: at 19-02-2010 12:54 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
dirtykid at 19-02-2010 01:32 PM (15 years ago) (m)
kinda sad to hear this. First i will not blame u much for letting him go with ur suggestion. becos i dont know your situation regarding helping with his papers. Maybe u re not in the right position then to do that.
My advise is, stop crying and try to face new Life, if he is truely married and happy with whom ever he is with now. let it go, Life goes on !!
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 19-02-2010 01:32 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
dolphinkate at 19-02-2010 01:47 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Losing a love is always painful. But life goes on! U cant force nor buy his love. Since he decided to end ur love relation, u have to accept it. GOD knows best, why it happens that way. U will come over it with time. Stop any contact to him, that would make it easier for u to come over it.
It´s in general unmoral and not correct to marry for papers and settlement sake. It´s not worth it. At the end of the day it would create more problems.
Posted: at 19-02-2010 01:47 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
dolphinkate at 19-02-2010 02:16 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: around_d_corner on 19-02-2010 01:52 PM
pathetic to ear...... got it and face ya lyf 4 a beta future.........
Good for u, that u got it and have gotten a better future now. I only hope, that ur divorced wife - which was sacrificed for ur better future - see it the same way. I hope it was agreement between both of u.
Fake marriage on who s cost? Did u ever ask that question to urself? If the guy is pretending love to a usa citzen lady and later leaving her and may their kids? Many foreigner taking women and children like that in a very desperate and poor situation by using them for their own settlement abroad only. They r destroying others life for having self a better one. Hope those selfish, wicked guys r sleeping well at nights with that knowledge.
Posted: at 19-02-2010 02:16 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
dirtykid at 19-02-2010 02:21 PM (15 years ago) (m)
Let me not mention about the so called women involve in this knd of situation.. most times u women are the cause of everything going wrong with such marriage. but make i keep quiet small.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 19-02-2010 02:21 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
dolphinkate at 19-02-2010 02:34 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: nigerianraised on 18-02-2010 11:32 AM
i made a sacrifice a long time ago to the man i loved.....b/c i could not help him i told him to go and meet someone who will....he needed his papers...( green card) i could not help in that matter and i felt it was selfish for me to hold him down when this is something that he had to do before he met me ...we agreed on contract bases for him to do it but things could not work in that matter ....so anyways we have been going through so much ever since he married and moved in with her....he never stop profesing his love for but i became insecure and lost trusat...b/c he was now living with her...though he spent most of his tiome working u know ....at the end of the day i broke up with him 3 times b/c i just did not know how to handle him living with someone else the things ithought went on consumed me with anger and the wonderful relation we had build crumbled...he always told me i dhould just be patient tat things will soon be better and we could be back like we once use to be but i always felt 2nd ....the attn was lacking we cwould go a whole month and only see each other twice,,,,,i could not call him when i wanted ....out of the 3 times we broke up i had sex with someone else.....so the 2nd time aorund he decided that he thinks we just better saty friends.....i cant sleep or eat all i have been doing is crying and begging him...he said that i should do what it is that i want that if through our friendship we could regain trust we could try again...but that even though he lived with her he has held him self and not do such to me......SO IM SO HURT RIGHT NOW I DONT KNOW WHAT SAY ANYMORE.....CRYING AND LOSING SLEEP ....HAVING HEADACHES....HE IS MY FIRST IN EVERYTHING AND LOSING HIM MAKES ME FEEL LIFE LESS
I hope, that the wife of ur exboyfriend agreed of beeing a settlement for him only?
If not, then u r crying the tears, which ur exboyfriend´s wife would cry now. Let that be a lesson for u then, of never using and cheating another human beeing for ur own good only.
Posted: at 19-02-2010 02:34 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
Just let Go cos it has happened be say it has happened, Now it has gone far that both u can not retrieve the relationship as it used to be before things went astray. Just take heart and look for another relationship of which the mistake will never repeat itself !
Loving, humble and humorous to sane & reasonable people
Posted: at 19-02-2010 02:47 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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