What will u do if a guy tells u, his parents are first in his heart (Page 3)

now u're talking

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Posted: at 18-04-2010 04:53 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

never a time u should let ur husband to choose b/w u & his mother. always try to make things work no matter how
bad it is. he already knows that u & his kids are his own family now. there is no way this guy will disown his mother
cos u're pushing him to. remember u're a woman, all goes around comes around. all women are the same, they
always got bad feelings about their daugther inlaws thinking u're not good enough for their sons. believe me u will
do the same thing when ur son gets married. remember the song of sweet mother that says if ur mother dies u can not
replace her but if ur wife dies u can marry another.

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Posted: at 18-04-2010 05:17 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

anyway girls, is a woman thing. today u're a daugther inlaw crying, tomorrow u'll be a mother inlaw controlling & over protective of
ur son.

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Posted: at 18-04-2010 02:13 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

It's a difficult one and no one can effectively predict his or her reaction. The fact is, it is
a reality that occurs across the world although people are reluctant to address or face the issue.

On a personal level, i would hope that over time, his affection towards me would supercede the
one towards his parent.  That's the best i believe i can do in the circumstances.

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Posted: at 18-04-2010 03:57 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

pls ladies, don't push too much of ur luck on this, cos if u do made him to choose u over his parents, u will
become a lifetime enemy with his parents. cos they will think u poisioned their son against them. they
might even go any lenght to get u. pls peace on u all & lets keeps hope alive thanks.

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Posted: at 18-04-2010 08:34 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Let me tell you what u get in such Marriages.... His mother would have to be consulted b4 any decision is taken in your home, his family would all b4 comfortable b4 he remembers your own needs and that of your children,  you will never be able to build u your children's future because by the time he is thru with his family needs there is nothing left, meaning you will bear the whole responsibilty yourself, by the way what does the Bible  mean  about a man leaving father and mother to cling to his wife and they 2 shall become one... . truth is if a wife or husband is unhappy in a marriage cos of a third party there is every tendency of that marriage collapsing, Love ur wife first she is the bone of your  bones and the flesh of your flesh and she in turn would love your and take your  family as her own.....

Posted: at 19-04-2010 11:56 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie

i can see the bitterness in ur write up, pls let it go. is a woman's world , u can not change that history, the hand writing is on the wall. there's a bondage especially b/w mothers and her kids, u'll do the same thing when time comes. u're quoting bible, believe me if everybody doing what is written in the bible, this world could've been a better place to live. all u need to do is pray for better understanding in ur marriage.

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Posted: at 19-04-2010 07:06 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

LOL it is funny you say that because actually this is how I was raised. I was raised by a strong woman who had a lot of people give her grief in her life and say things about her or to her....but truly I have no business being in my child's marriage so long as my child is happy. In my family, the in-laws are family and we treat them as we do everyone else in the family - we argue, we make up, we laugh, we love, we always always make time to be together. My mom was very good with my sister-in-law...she was my sister...Of course they argued, but family members do that...they called each other names but never in anger only teasingly....my sister-in-law would tell my brother she's leaving him because he was a jerk and she would come and live in our house for a few days to let th air clear....so the dynamics are much different for me than for most people....how I was raised was much different than most I suspect...and I feel lucky...

My mom always told me that you get more with honey than vinegar....soften yourself instead of getting hard....let love be the ruler of your heart not anger or hate....and you know it is true.... anger weights you down but love gives you wings

Posted: at 20-04-2010 12:27 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie

Better of provided you are still in his HEART also!If he gives you your portion accurately

Posted: at 20-04-2010 03:13 PM (15 years ago) | Hero