Would you allow your wife to seek greener pasture abroad? (Page 5)

Its not that simple where I come from. We dont usually get married till we're comfortable enough to start a family. Nobody wants to marry an idle woman, but the idea of sending the wife abroad to make money is a very wrong one. When the couple are apart for a long time, one of them is bound to misbehave.

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Posted: at 27-04-2010 01:09 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Why is it a pity. There are women out there who are dogs and believe that their nash cannot keep quiet. The man and the woman get the children both of them should work together to give them a happy home. If it means for the lady to go abroad to help do this so be it. It is for her to control her urges and remember that what she is doing will have a good or bad reflection on her. A man/woman shouldn't try to satisfied each. Even in the bible God was doing His best for the Children of Israel and they murmur against Him. Who are we to think that we can do things that was upsetting to God. FLESH OF MAN CANNOT BE PLEASE SO DON'T EVEN TRY TO. What we should do is do our best and move on. Not even argue with the man when he is there murmuring. A person murmur because he/she doesn't know God. lmao you are so insecure. You will not leave your husband for another woman. As if staying there with him can prevent him from giving you bun (cheat on you). lmao

As I continue to say ONE HAND CANNOT CLAP. ONE FINGER CANNOT KILL LICE. It is a lazy dependent woman who keep on saying that MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY SO IT IS HIM WHO TO PROVIDE. The head of my family when I have one is JESUS CHRIST, then the Husband then me. Proverbs 31 tell the role of the wife and it never say that the wife should be LAZY and DEPENDENT.

I wonder which extra family abroad that husband of mines will be having. When he does this all he has to do is send out the divorce paper and he better pray that I don't get my visa to go where he is because he will never like it ooo. Further more Child Maintenance will be seeing him in Court. Am not having no man who has another wife and if he has children before me they have to come inside our matrimonial home.

The bible gives Female RIGHTS and none of it says that she should be Depend on her husband. When I see it in the bible then I will follow it but as I said before Proverbs 31 never says that she should be at home lazy and just looking. I wonder when I can ever be a dependent woman!

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Posted: at 27-04-2010 06:08 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

u guys are still kids, wen jungle mature, ur body go yan u howfar. Its really naija factors now that wife must feed the family, men are after girls, beer and what have u.

looking for greener pasture outside is not bad at all, it depends on the babe

Posted: at 27-04-2010 03:49 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

@prince316 oboy na wa for you, you too much

Posted: at 27-04-2010 07:20 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

For wetin! Why am I man!
Abi you want make I fail for my responsibility

Posted: at 28-04-2010 12:17 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

You know I have personal experience of this. My mother sister who lived in England told my mother that she is sending for her. Mama said Daddy you go because you have your trade and it would be better for you. I will stay with the kids because am the woman. lmao lmao. It is the worst and foolish decision she ever met. Yes he went and make money the house was able to finished but after couple years my Aunt send him back home. The reason he was whoring himself in a christian home but of course he told my mother different tales and she dying hating her sister whose only sin was that she was trying to help her little sister.

There are men who take care of their children even better than their mothers. So am not in agreement with this. Whomsoever want to go allow that person to. Pray and cover them that no evil thoughts or deeds change them from the plans and goals.

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Posted: at 28-04-2010 05:09 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

So are you saying that a family should stay together in poverty and needs. When the opportunity for the family to get a blessings that they had been praying for they should ignore it. Have you ever read Proverbs 31. There is no way in it where Solomon says that the lady should be a idler.

Proverbs 31 vs 27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
                     19  In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 
                     16  She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
                     17  She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
                     14  She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.

These verses show you that a wife shouldn't be idle. That she works to help her family.

                   30  Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

This is where we lack when we are looking for a husband or wife. We don't choose one that read his/her bible and applied the words of God in his/her life.

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Posted: at 28-04-2010 10:46 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I cannot allow that shit to happen in my family. What of if those guys were not married and one of them has to travel 4 studies or 2 seek greener pastures above with the promise 2 come bak for the other. What about that?

Posted: at 29-04-2010 08:14 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

if u trust ur wife u can allow her,what am saying is all abt trust & Love?

Posted: at 27-05-2010 02:32 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

no ..

Posted: at 11-06-2012 04:23 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero