You seem concerned for the woman ,i support this quote but in addition to this , it is believed that you join two people in marriage not three . Pregnancy test is done not to disgrace the woman but to guard against premarital sex .
Many things are attached to sex before marriage aside spiritual matters , diseases like hepatitis , Hiv , syphillis etc could lead to death .Whats better , death or shame / disgrace ?
It may be called an abomination but to be candid, it is to help christians ..When othrs are punished , it serves as deterrent to others .
In my church apart from not allowing the weddind to hold, if either the male or female are workers , they will be called in the presence of all other workers and suspended .
No one would say dont marry each other , but it just would not hold in church coz ONLY TWO PEOPLE ARE JOINED (MAN AND WOMAN ), NOT THREE ( MAN ,WOMAN AND BABY )
I hope i have helped you understand better
Poster, the church did the right thing for one reason, i.e. setting an example for all. You may be right that many might have had intercourse the previous night and gone on to the altar to be married. Truly they're not any better than your uncle's case and the only reason such marriages go ahead is that the pastor and all others trust that all is well. As you may be aware, humans have not been given the ability to know everything about everybody (i.e. omni-conscience) - which attribute belongs to God and God alone.
You may get some comfort from this: any couple intending to marry that purports to their pastor that they've not had intercourse before marriage when in fact they have will be marrying in church by false pretences (which is sin); and God will not be part of it - any blessings recited will simply be empty pronounciations. And going to another church is no solution at all!!
So if was me in that situation, I'd come out clean and repent so that when we I do get married in church, God will be in it.
So cheer up, God cannot be deceived!
Posted: at 20-06-2011 02:32 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie |
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