i am a victim of love but until i pour my heart out i dont think i can find love in the eyes of men or love any man deeply the way i had before, i have love two times but it seems its not working, the first love of my life was in 2003 we dated for 2 years before we did our introduction, the painful aspect is that after the introduction with this guy i fell ill (typhoid and malaria parasite) but i believe if you love someone so dearly you will stand by that person through the rough times of that persons life, actually i now believe that to know who loves u or your friend is when you are in need, guys! this guy a talking about left me on my sickbed for 3 weeks i did not see him, i almost died of the sickness coupled with thinking of hi rejection or abandonment but God saw me through i came out of it, but the bombshell was awaiting me, he came on one saturday morning i was preparing to go to the office and me that he is no longer interested and cannot continue with the relationship, i allowed him go cos i was even tired of his behaviours that was september 08 2005. i refuse to date any other until february 7 2008 i met another guy who also promised heaven and earth and i told him my story i thought he would guide against breaking my heart but no, he was the worst torment of my life, :'( since february he has been my worst nightmare till date the worst part is that we started very well he loved me and i also loved him too but my problem is dat he cannot take decisions for himself, he allows friend to decide for him, he listens to gossips and act on it, once he walked me out of his house cos of a girl, second he is not contented with me. I do not want to fight with a fellow girl because of man who is not worth the fight. I patiently waited and never complain of his cheating on me, i bear the humiliation from february up till this moment, i never complained, i recieved insult from him, from his friend, the bad ones and encouragement from the good friends to stick my ground. He roamed about looking for pleasure but i do not know if my prayers are answered by God. Almost when i lose hope of continuing with him he begins to show interest guys what do you think i should do? Do i still give him a chance come into my life or do i forget him and move on with my life?
Posted: at 29-10-2008 03:47 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
mmemshima at 30-10-2008 01:37 PM (15 years ago) (f)
its so painful...u dont have to tolerate bullshit from a guy cuz u love him or want him to stay or change u should know ur worth as a lady...i dont know what else to say other tha for u to pray to God in case there's a problem somewhere,u should also work on yourself thoroughly in every aspect of ur life... lol
Posted: at 30-10-2008 01:37 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
princemech at 3-11-2008 11:26 PM (15 years ago) (m)
Quote from: quinzee4me on 29-10-2008 03:47 PM
i am a victim of love but until i pour my heart out i dont think i can find love in the eyes of men or love any man deeply the way i had before, i have love two times but it seems its not working, the first love of my life was in 2003 we dated for 2 years before we did our introduction, the painful aspect is that after the introduction with this guy i fell ill (typhoid and malaria parasite) but i believe if you love someone so dearly you will stand by that person through the rough times of that persons life, actually i now believe that to know who loves u or your friend is when you are in need, guys! this guy a talking about left me on my sickbed for 3 weeks i did not see him, i almost died of the sickness coupled with thinking of hi rejection or abandonment but God saw me through i came out of it, but the bombshell was awaiting me, he came on one saturday morning i was preparing to go to the office and me that he is no longer interested and cannot continue with the relationship, i allowed him go cos i was even tired of his behaviours that was september 08 2005. i refuse to date any other until february 7 2008 i met another guy who also promised heaven and earth and i told him my story i thought he would guide against breaking my heart but no, he was the worst torment of my life, :'( since february he has been my worst nightmare till date the worst part is that we started very well he loved me and i also loved him too but my problem is dat he cannot take decisions for himself, he allows friend to decide for him, he listens to gossips and act on it, once he walked me out of his house cos of a girl, second he is not contented with me. I do not want to fight with a fellow girl because of man who is not worth the fight. I patiently waited and never complain of his cheating on me, i bear the humiliation from february up till this moment, i never complained, i recieved insult from him, from his friend, the bad ones and encouragement from the good friends to stick my ground. He roamed about looking for pleasure but i do not know if my prayers are answered by God. Almost when i lose hope of continuing with him he begins to show interest guys what do you think i should do? Do i still give him a chance come into my life or do i forget him and move on with my life?
Posted: at 3-11-2008 11:26 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
goingwithyou at 10-11-2008 02:15 PM (15 years ago) (m)
Elo dear... I can feel some passion on the write up but i want to ask u something first Did u still love dis guy If yes my dear u have to think and Re think of lot of things u have pass through in the land of love and get to know who u love and who love u. As a girl i think u have so much assignment to do on dat....Never be a fool love and never allow any guy to play on ur emotion... Is a Game of wise and is only d wise man play d game...
Posted: at 10-11-2008 02:15 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
blackspotz at 12-11-2008 02:08 AM (15 years ago) (m)
Perhaps he has searched everywhere and couldnt find someone like you, i would advice you follow ur heart... One more thing, no man is worth ur tears but the one who is will not make u cry...
Posted: at 12-11-2008 02:08 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
akjasper at 12-11-2008 02:49 AM (15 years ago) (m)
HU wht a painful one here,, well my sister the only thing is to follow ur hearth ,, one thing you have to knw is dat we tend not to get the real love we give out ,, but i believe that if really you love him try give him smtime and knw if there wld be any changes , but if u dnt find it , u better wait for ur real happiness to come.pray hard also 'cos love of this time is not all real.Good luck.
Posted: at 12-11-2008 02:49 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
if u really love him n he s changed for real,u can hang in there a little while to see how things goes.i think frm there u shld be able to decide.dont allow all that has happened affect ur person becos u can still love n be loved.i shld not forget to say this,a guy who cheats doesnt respect his partner enough not to talk of someone who cheated,u got to know n he s not showing any sign of remorse.
goodluck.
Posted: at 13-11-2008 10:43 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie