I am from (DR) Congo, a Christian and I'm 20. My boyfriend, from Ghana, a Muslim and he's 28. We've been dating for some months now. We are so crazy in love with each other. At first, everything was just perfect. He gave me no reason of doubting on him and at some points I really felt he was the right one. He was having enough of his time and he was always there for me. He promised and swore that no matter what he will never leave me and I made the same promise. All his friends and some relatives know about me. But now, I just found out that he has a pregnant wife (from Ghana as well and would be giving birth anytime soon) and a five year old son. He tried telling me that before though, but I was just taking it as a joke. I asked him why he kept it from me, he said he didn't know how to tell me and was scared he would lose me. He said he's not happy with his wife but he can't leave her for now because she's pregnant and because of family issues. He told his wife about me th ough and she seems to understand that, but she is so rude and unfriendly. When I call him and he's with his wife, he doesn't show her I'm the one calling and he would be talking carelessly, sometimes he wouldn't even pick up my calls. But when he's with me and his wife calls, he picks up or he would move away to talk to her (in their native language which I don't understand). When I complain, he explains to me that he needs to be around for her because of her pregnancy condition. I understand that though, but I don't know what to do about this anymore. Now I feel like my whole world has crushed down and I can’t help but break down and cry endlessly. I tried breaking up with him, but he’s hurt and doesn’t want to let me go and neither do I. I’m disturbed and confused because I'm afraid he could also love his wife, but I believe that someone can’t love two people at the same time, so he must love one of us but I don’t know whom. I love him so much and I just don’t see myself without him, but I’m so confused and have no idea what to do. He could still marry me since it’s allowed to marry more than one in their religion, but I don't want that; I can’t accept being with a married man who might leave me for his family one day. We're still so crazy about each other and just can’t stay away, but I'm forcing myself to stay away from him now because I don't see any future with him and I don't want more pains worst than this. It's been more than about two months now since I've been staying away from him but he still wants me back. He really loves me but I just don't understand what's going on with him and his wife and whether he's really serious. I just wish he could only be mine forever, but I don't have any idea how it can work. Please, help me!! Thanks.[/size][/size][/size]
Posted: at 9-01-2011 07:01 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
are you for real?.another woman's husband?.are you blind or is it your age.he talks carelessly and speaks in his language.oh boy!.and you are only 20yrs,as young as you are.why on earth do you want to settle for less?.dont you think you deserve more,a good ,single and responsible man.a man who you can call your own,sumone who wont talk carelessly and treat like wife no 2.mehn ,wake up.leave the dude,he's married.let him go stick to his wife.his wife has every right to be rude,he's her husband for crying out loud..INFACT IF I'M IN HER SHOES,I WILL FIND YOU AND BEAT YOU UP BADLY..TELL THE CRAZY DUDE ITS OVER,MOVE ON.HE'S USING YOU,BIG TIME.LSTEN HE CAN NEVER EVER MARRY YOU,GHANIAN WOMEN DONT JOKE WITH THEIR HUSBANDS.MOST GHANIAN MARRIED MEN DO FEAR THEIR WIVES,YOU BETTER BACK OUT COS YOU HEADING FOR ONE BIG DRAMA...YOU DONT NEED HIM TO AGREE WITH YOU,YOU JUST DO THE JOB.PLEASE SAVE THOSE INNOCENT KIDS.
Posted: at 9-01-2011 07:29 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
bittersweet at 9-01-2011 08:33 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Girl, are you serious? The moment you found out he's married, u should have withdrawn yourself from that! Married! Two kids!What it's not clear to you?
Live and let live!
Posted: at 9-01-2011 08:33 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
honestly,poster u r complicating ur life.. I dnt need to advise u cos d answer u r luking 4 lies within u. Wake up 4rm u stupidity and move out 4rm him. U can stil b loved again by anoda
Posted: at 9-01-2011 11:07 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
poster u are like a person who got to a big river nd ur brain is telling u d river is deep, bt NO u want to really found out if it is deep enough to drown u. Anybody killed by d train killed him/herself. u knw enough to walk away, otherwise, u hv only urself to blame.
Posted: at 9-01-2011 12:21 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
osaskrested at 9-01-2011 01:26 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Oooyah park yah load straight to nigeria make i give u men wen sabi..make dem give u correct style, u go 4get dat young old man wen nor know d sickness wen dey worry am but he dey go drink medicine....U don seeeeee lovvvveeeee? abi na to take anoda woman husband nai be love...mtewwwwwwwwwww nonsese
Posted: at 9-01-2011 01:26 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
diplomatik at 10-01-2011 12:47 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: onyin on 9-01-2011 07:29 AM
are you for real?.another woman's husband?.are you blind or is it your age.he talks carelessly and speaks in his language.oh boy!.and you are only 20yrs,as young as you are.why on earth do you want to settle for less?.dont you think you deserve more,a good ,single and responsible man.a man who you can call your own,sumone who wont talk carelessly and treat like wife no 2.mehn ,wake up.leave the dude,he's married.let him go stick to his wife.his wife has every right to be rude,he's her husband for crying out loud..INFACT IF I'M IN HER SHOES,I WILL FIND YOU AND BEAT YOU UP BADLY..TELL THE CRAZY DUDE ITS OVER,MOVE ON.HE'S USING YOU,BIG TIME.LSTEN HE CAN NEVER EVER MARRY YOU,GHANIAN WOMEN DONT JOKE WITH THEIR HUSBANDS.MOST GHANIAN MARRIED MEN DO FEAR THEIR WIVES,YOU BETTER BACK OUT COS YOU HEADING FOR ONE BIG DRAMA...YOU DONT NEED HIM TO AGREE WITH YOU,YOU JUST DO THE JOB.PLEASE SAVE THOSE INNOCENT KIDS.
i dey follow u but not for the beating part...
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 10-01-2011 12:47 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
juleshotluv at 10-01-2011 06:55 AM (13 years ago) (f)
you dont want to marry someone who already has a wife....right? Well, its clear enough that he would NEVER leave his family for you. so, if you know what is good for you then stay away and find your own man.
Posted: at 10-01-2011 06:55 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
BraveOne at 10-01-2011 08:27 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Bla bla bla soap opera story.U have 2 ways :1st if u have some respect 4 yourself n some brains -break up.2nd if u blind one n believe in fairytales be his second wife,he muslim he can have 4 wives!
Posted: at 10-01-2011 08:27 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either 
, i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool 
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