Igbo Parents And Traditional Rites Of Their First Daughter? (Page 6)

Date: 23-04-2011 6:23 pm (12 years ago) | Author: Danjuma Daniel
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- henriettaada at 26-04-2011 01:31 AM (12 years ago)
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I am an igbo girl from Nigeria who has been in love with my first love who was partly a yoruba man and could speak ishan and igbo
language.I met him when i was in Lagos  on holidays.i was  in the federal colledge of education jos,Nigeria doing my teacher trainning and also working.

I didn't know that my family were not happy because he was not an igbo man in totality.
I still love my friend who is my first love and i want him to know that i still love him and that family cannot come between us this time now that we are in the united kingdom.Even it was Nigeria i will still make my mind clear.
I thank God that i am the second daughter of my parents and also a catholic..

The igbo custom of igbo parents forcing their daughters to marry igbo men because they are the first born or daughter is because they want the children to speak the same language  and the igbo linage to continue.


Name -Miss Henrietta Adaku Udeozor.(LASUITE).London.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 01:31 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- oscarjataunamo at 26-04-2011 01:50 AM (12 years ago)
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I adse you to stick to only one lady you are dating. Go and settle the marriage rite and marry your wife as soon as God can help you now before you run into trouble of mistake in life. All they were saying was in the past , not nowerdays. Iam an Eggon tribe from Nasarawa State Nigeria married my wife from mbaise Imo State Nigeria and she is Adanne ie the first daughter and her brother is a catholic Priest (Rev Fr.) yet they all accepted me and iam very close to my In-Laws. please do not listen to your friends rather listen to your lady tell your pastor or priest to pray with you then go ahead and marry , God will help you in Jesus name, amen. J. J. Oscar Smiley
Posted: at 26-04-2011 01:50 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- don2002 at 26-04-2011 03:09 AM (12 years ago)
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The Ibos in the house u all re opposing that it is a lie, but u guys can still agree wth me that Ibos re descriminating when it come to marriage, the stories is not total true, but my friend pray she is not from a descriminating family, cos it is true to some extends cos am a living victim.
It happen to me life, her parent said NO cos I was not Igbo man.
Ironically, My Uncle married first daughter, n she is a wonderful woman, my sis n my mother, and  I am an Ishan man.
So guy pray harder.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 03:09 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- dukkieson at 26-04-2011 03:15 AM (12 years ago)
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Tribalism and bigotry in modern age is a scourge.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 03:15 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- RealOnyeigbo at 26-04-2011 09:12 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: smithengal on 24-04-2011 11:02 PM
What's in a tribe in this day and age?

u cannot understand it. so no explanation necessary.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 09:12 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- RealOnyeigbo at 26-04-2011 09:18 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: fiona2 on 25-04-2011 06:51 PM
Grin find another girl, from other tribe or from your tribe!! it's that true couse all igbo don't marry other tribe..... they should be given there own country to pratise what even traditions they want to. because they do have load of differnt tradition.. they are all idiol  washiper not christian at all.. peace

Huh??
Posted: at 26-04-2011 09:18 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Chuksbomboy at 26-04-2011 10:38 AM (12 years ago)
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I have the feeling that this guy is not serious. Why do people want to make out issues that are unfounded. If you really love this in question, you need not bring this issue to the public knowledge. From your submission you have already started cheating on her whether you admit it or not. How on earth can you base your stand on friends submission that first daughters of Igbo origin do not marry outside their place. That is baltant lie, unfounded and just intended for you to dump the firl for your new found love (infatuation).

You have never made your intention known to the parets of the girl and you concluded. It only boils down to the fact that you never loved that girl. She even told you that she has the right to marry whomever she chooses but you are already contemplating cheating on her. This contemplation is only a mere figment and just justifies your action. If you are man enough make a proposal to her and see her parents and you will be shocked to the marrows the kind of reception the parents will give. It is very unfortunate that people like you are still living in the past. Better know that the Igbos are the most liberal in this country - Nigeria and mixes very irrespective of religion or tribe. I challenge you to tell me any other tribe in Nigeria that is as accommodating as the Igbos.

My people (Igbos) say that a wise man uses his tongue to count his teeth. A word is enough for the wise. Be a man and propose to this girl and get her married if you are serious and not just looking for frivolous excuses. Remain blessed.

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Posted: at 26-04-2011 10:38 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- nnamaniobiora at 26-04-2011 12:06 PM (12 years ago)
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Hello I am full bar Igbo guy,About your matter what you said are truth in some part of Igbo,But in our side the truth is that first you have to be a Catholic member its a must since most Rev Fathers has advised that that is the only thing that will brings you setback on your marriage,Again If your woman family really beleive and trust in GOD it can work But if they knows about other gods they will go there and destory your plans in sprite and here in this world you will see that nothing will work out,They can only want and destory the plan with other powers if they see that your woman has said under must ,

Anyone who is here saying that he or her can marry without the family approval,is a big fool,and does not have eve a respect at all,and also not a full bar Igbo.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 12:06 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- jadeachi at 26-04-2011 01:20 PM (12 years ago)
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to be honest, if i was her, i would probably not want to marry you for your bad english, just putting my two cents in o.  Jokes apart, "ur friends say", the girl don reassure you say na u im love, you don go meet her family and dem don say no abi you just want post for posting sake. You do not have an issue yet! until you go ask for her hand in marriage and then they say no, then you start worrying, until den abeg stop posting bicos ur english is very very very confusing. I wan laugh die.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 01:20 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- jadeachi at 26-04-2011 01:21 PM (12 years ago)
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to be honest, if i was her, i would probably not want to marry you for your bad english, just putting my two cents in o.  Jokes apart, "ur friends say", the girl don reassure you say na u im love, you don go meet her family and dem don say no abi you just want post for posting sake. You do not have an issue yet! until you go ask for her hand in marriage and then they say no, then you start worrying, until den abeg stop posting bicos ur english is very very very confusing. I wan laugh die.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 01:21 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- hypnose at 26-04-2011 01:38 PM (12 years ago)
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to be honest, if i was her, i would probably not want to marry you for your bad english, just putting my two cents in o.  Jokes apart, "ur friends say", the girl don reassure you say na u im love, you don go meet her family and dem don say no abi you just want post for posting sake. You do not have an issue yet! until you go ask for her hand in marriage and then they say no, then you start worrying, until den abeg stop posting bicos ur english is very very very confusing. I wan laugh die.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 01:38 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- naijaboyz247 at 26-04-2011 01:51 PM (12 years ago)
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There is no harm in digging deep into this matter.
I will advice you to consult an elda of your girls  tribe to be on the safer side.
Keep yourself informed!
Posted: at 26-04-2011 01:51 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- NIKKYSHINE at 26-04-2011 04:10 PM (12 years ago)
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@ OBIORA, I THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY IBO MAN THAT HAS SPOKEN THE  TRUTH ABOUT THIS WHOLE ISSUE. EVERYBODY KNOWS THAT IT HAPPENS IN THE IBO LAND. JUST 4MONTHS AGO, A GIRL I WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME BECAUSE THE FATHER WAS NOT IN SUPPORT OF OUR UNION AND SHE IS FROM ANAMBRA STATE WHILE I AM FROM ISHAN JUST BECAUSE I AM NOT AN IBO MAN.  I DON'T KNOW WHO POSTED THIS TOPIC TO PUBLIC VIEW BUT ALL I KNOW IS THAT "IT IS TRUE BECAUSE IT JUST HAPPENED TO ME"...
Posted: at 26-04-2011 04:10 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Labe at 26-04-2011 06:08 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: oscarjataunamo on 26-04-2011 01:50 AM
I adse you to stick to only one lady you are dating. Go and settle the marriage rite and marry your wife as soon as God can help you now before you run into trouble of mistake in life. All they were saying was in the past , not nowerdays. Iam an Eggon tribe from Nasarawa State Nigeria married my wife from mbaise Imo State Nigeria and she is Adanne ie the first daughter and her brother is a catholic Priest (Rev Fr.) yet they all accepted me and iam very close to my In-Laws. please do not listen to your friends rather listen to your lady tell your pastor or priest to pray with you then go ahead and marry , God will help you in Jesus name, amen. J. J. Oscar Smiley
Thank you! I really appreciate all dat u said, am grateful. God bless u sir.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 06:08 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- aychemical at 26-04-2011 08:18 PM (12 years ago)
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 U ARE JUST WORRY UNNECESSARILY, U AV NOT EVEN MET WITH UR SUPPOSE IN-LAW YET. EVERYTHING IS JUST ON AIR SAY. SO MY ADVICE 4 U IS TO CONTINUE UR RELATIONSHIP AND PRAY 4 THE BEST
Posted: at 26-04-2011 08:18 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- mcsimon at 26-04-2011 09:59 PM (12 years ago)
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Ok lol!
Posted: at 26-04-2011 09:59 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- mrkyrian at 26-04-2011 10:24 PM (12 years ago)
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COULD U PLS STOP GIVING THIS TYPE OF INFORMATION AS U ARE TANISHING THE IMAGE OF WE IGBOS. PLS AND PLS STOP IT, ITS NOT FAIR TO BE FRANK
Posted: at 26-04-2011 10:24 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- donuche at 26-04-2011 10:44 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Chimereze on 24-04-2011 01:07 PM
Why are you afraid? Why do you want to allow biased theory to cloud your mind? Have you propose to the lady? Have you paid a visit to her family?. Issues concerning marriage is based on different families views, your prospective inlaw may love you irrespective of your tribe. My elder sister ( she is my father 's first daughter) married an Edo man and they are living happily. There is no law in Igboland that forbids her first daughters not to marry a foreigner/or somebody from another tribe. The more likely problem may be the outcaste issue in which most Igbos still practise( not allowing freeborn/son of the soil to marry the untouchables). Do not be afraid rather be encouraged.



you have said it all my brother chimereze.
 igbo girls are the most independent minded girls you can ever think of in nigeria,supposing you are talking about high bride price that her parents might ask you to pay i would have been thinking in the same direction with you but for what you are talking about letting an igbo first daughter to marry from out side igbo land is baseless and lie from the pit of hell. even the high bride price of a thing is seriously declining as a result of the obstacle that it is causing some igbo girls from getting married on time, bride price is being reviewed and reduced  almost in all the igbo land.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 10:44 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- donuche at 26-04-2011 11:28 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: fiona2 on 25-04-2011 06:51 PM
Grin find another girl, from other tribe or from your tribe!! it's that true couse all igbo don't marry other tribe..... they should be given there own country to pratise what even traditions they want to. because they do have load of differnt tradition.. they are all idiol  washiper not christian at all.. peace


so u call all igbo s an idol worshipers?. you talked so foolishly that i dont even know what and how to respond to ur foolishness.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 11:28 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- donuche at 26-04-2011 11:37 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: jadeachi on 26-04-2011 01:20 PM
to be honest, if i was her, i would probably not want to marry you for your bad english, just putting my two cents in o.  Jokes apart, "ur friends say", the girl don reassure you say na u im love, you don go meet her family and dem don say no abi you just want post for posting sake. You do not have an issue yet! until you go ask for her hand in marriage and then they say no, then you start worrying, until den abeg stop posting bicos ur english is very very very confusing. I wan laugh die.



mr lecturer, why are you insulting somebody just because he wants to know something that he does not know and you call your self a wise man in your own sense.
Posted: at 26-04-2011 11:37 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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