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Date: 05-05-2011 4:58 pm (12 years ago) | Author: Uju Obuekwe
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- Dan_Fulani at 7-05-2011 11:23 AM (12 years ago)
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@jukkiebukwes
>>>u just said it, its against our culture. it doesnt tell well of a gurl if she proposes 2 her boyfrnd,
i havent seen such and havent heard. dis is not asking a guy out now, it is asking him to marry her.
i no fit oh, abeg<<<


You are correct again. But our culture can sometimes hold us back. So it is perfectly
okay sometimes to "break" the rules.
I will use a litle know piece of Nigerian history to illustrate my reasoning. More than 80 years
ago, Calaba ladies were the first women in Nigeria to wear high heels shoes. Others laughed
at them, considered then desperate and and wanting to be like white women, etc.....
Today most nigerian women wear high heels. Rules can be broken. We can adopt foreign
practices to reach our goals.
Just you know, some nigerian women overseas did propose to their husbands.
It no longer a taboo.

dan fulani
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- divineproject at 7-05-2011 11:34 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Dan_Fulani on  7-05-2011 11:00 AM

@divineproject
You are always a sweetheart. You say and use the kindest words on Naijapals.
Thank you for the breath of fresh air. I tip my hat to you, Madam. Smiley

dan Fulani


Thanks so much sir, I doff my cap for you too

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- oohio2007 at 7-05-2011 11:41 AM (12 years ago)
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watin i wnt ask be say, y stay in a relationship for dat long no proposing na nw d girl realize say na one chance she enter ni, if a guy is ready to marry u one year is ok for him to propose and start d marriage plan nt 5 - 7 years make u turn liability for hin hand ni,

Guys if u Know u wnt marry a girl y keep her for dat long? expecting her to do ur wify duties na wa sha

1 yrs is kinda short...no?



1 year till he proposes?
Neeeeeh!Till then the guy will know if it's her d one he wants!


1 yr is too fast rite ?



No,sweetie, it's not fast at all!
I'm not saying to get married by that time,but the proposal usually comes till then,if he is really sure he wants her,
but if has doubts, he'll delay!



I disagree,, how can u know a person to the limit of proposin in 1 year  Huh? Huh?
If a guy wud ask me after 1 year my answer wud b NO

@flymama.How many years before you say yes?

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- Priceless-jewel at 7-05-2011 11:46 AM (12 years ago)
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its still going on o....
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- 50scent at 7-05-2011 12:10 PM (12 years ago)
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 Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool

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- blessedme at 7-05-2011 01:22 PM (12 years ago)
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una still dey here ni>>>>>>>>>>maka why kwanu
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- ILOVEIT at 7-05-2011 01:46 PM (12 years ago)
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watin i wnt ask be say, y stay in a relationship for dat long no proposing na nw d girl realize say na one chance she enter ni, if a guy is ready to marry u one year is ok for him to propose and start d marriage plan nt 5 - 7 years make u turn liability for hin hand ni,

Guys if u Know u wnt marry a girl y keep her for dat long? expecting her to do ur wify duties na wa sha

1 yrs is kinda short...no?



1 year till he proposes?
Neeeeeh!Till then the guy will know if it's her d one he wants!


1 yr is too fast rite ?



No,sweetie, it's not fast at all!
I'm not saying to get married by that time,but the proposal usually comes till then,if he is really sure he wants her,
but if has doubts, he'll delay!



I disagree,, how can u know a person to the limit of proposin in 1 year  Huh? Huh?
If a guy wud ask me after 1 year my answer wud b NO




 Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy
1 year of intensive dating and he still didn't pop d question? (note:I'm referring at adult ppl here,not teenagers or something)
So,it shouldn't take him so long till he knows that the 'one' is in his life,that there was never anyone like her in his life b4 and he knows there won't be again.So normally he should stop dilly-dallying and get on with it. Grin





How does he know there won't be others like her again? 1 yr is rushing things a bit. I agree with flymamacita in these exchanges.


A mature guy,who knows what he wants from this life,will know if she's the one for him even earlier than 1 year!
Trust me!



u wrong there..some people can fake their real self for more than a year.


Some ppl can fake it forever if they really want to,but that's not the point!
You know that saying, that u can live an entire life with a person, and u can still not know him/her!
Are u telling me that after a year of intensive dating they still don't know if they want each other or not?
Come on!
Maybe if we are taking about ppls in their early twenties!

the word "intensive" can't still make any difference if the ppl involve choice to be adamant on  issue that matters most.mind you,all depends on individuals.and i don't base my comment on teenagers.


I agree that depends on individuals, no doubt about that, but I still find it hard to believe that a REAL man doesn't know if he wants her or not within a year!
I was asked even after 1 month,even 2 weeks, that doesn't mean that they must do the wedding right away, but they must know where they are heading!
Hope u understood me
!


i understand u quite well.but engaging some one in a rush and later call it a quit
after the person involve might have discovered some dark sides of the lady..
make no sense to me.marriage is a life time institution that needs no rush,
cuz any mistake made,the person have to live with it till the end.
 haven said so,i don't believe in long term relationships without concrete directions


That was my point! Knowing if they are good one for another or not! I don't need 5 years to know if I want u in my
life for good or not!
That doesn't mean that she should stress the guy with questions about their future!A woman must know without questioning
or putting any kind of pressure on d guy!That would be very foolish!
What I'm saying is that even if u don't know what u want, u must definitely know what u DON'T want, and therefore they shouldn't waste each other's time!



we are actually sharing shame view.our little difference is on the age issue.. people spending 3-4-5years upwards on a relationships without any significant agreement makes no sense to me.people in that type of relationships aren't serious and doesn't really know what they want.

Posted: at 7-05-2011 01:46 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 7-05-2011 01:49 PM (12 years ago)
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DK and SBI dey talk say woman wan carry them alter sharpily without getting to know them well
will u take eternity to know a girl or is 5 years not too much for courtship ni


Listen my dear, I've seen a relationship of 7yrs, 9yrs and still they didn't make it to alter... not one not two, so many people out there are even in a relationship more than 5yrs, still not thinking of settling together.. I want to let u ladies know one thing. You have the power and smart senses to know or perceive it, in your relationship where it's heading to.. Most ladies force it to end at the alter while is not suppose to end there, simply because they dream dreams and hope so much in that relationship even if they're finding it difficult with the guy. they still wanna stick in there and will not let go, If you ask them, they will say... they're madly in love, Who told them that?? For me, is madness.. Once you discover that yr partner is not compatible with u, is better to make quick and early exit than allowing it to get to many years, and then you will be left with no choices because you've counted so many years and time wasted.

Another thing is this, Most young girls don't always take relationship serious, when they're btw the ages 18-26 yrs, They just wanna flirt and do all kinds of things in the name of having fun.. To have fun is good but think of future atimes. once they enter 27 - 30 yrs, they begin to see that years have run out of them and thats when most of them start thinking or having the feelings of dating a man seriously, thinking that between one year or two, the man is taking them to alter... who says that or guaranteeing that ?

Lets just take a look about this from the other way again.

Some will have the time to date from early stage, but changing of men or having series of dates change their thinking and thoughts about Men. They see all Men as been the same, No doubt about that, some men could be terrible when it comes to relationship matter, You can meet some cheats, you can meet some players, you can meet some double daters and etc .. But don't forget the same goes in women, and most of this guys are the victims of relationship circumstances, some women are out there just to deal with Men and all this turn some guys to serious hunters...

All most women need is the ability to study and read yr man, when yr in relationship to know exactly the future of that relationship, remain patience, truthful, tolerance, be supportive, do those things you can do to retain yr relationship, don't count times for him, take off any such of discussions/questions that will direct/indirectly pushing the man to ask yr hand in marriage.. this is one place most ladies make mistake, asking a guy million times, Do you love me, what is our plan for future,,, You think men are stupid ? No they're not, They're very smart CIA's no matter how dull you see/think the one you have is behaving.

You just have to play a role that will make the man always looking for you, searching for you, trying all his best to keep you to himself, from there you will see how much he loves you and will go any length to ask you to marry him. Give him reasons no matter how long it takes both of u to be together. if you were meant to be together, nothing will come in between that.

But i still dey ask Guys Maka why, Make why we no fit open up and tell the ladies that we can't have them as wife, esp when age is not on their side ? Guys Maka Why  Huh? Huh?
Dk i see reasons in what u are saying...but ow can u be in r/ship with a man for more than 5years without defining it..
For instance, I was 25 wen i met u and then we started dating for almost 9years without nothing...and then at d end of the day we go our seperate ways hoping to find love again...now add 9years to ma previous age..it will give u 34 and most guys of 34 are already in a serious r/ship while most are married....now, guys of ma age will not want me cos am growing older but rather they will prefer d younger ones

Where do I start from....and so many questions without answers will began to creep in....that is y u see so many elderly women without
husband today......

Inorder to avoid such, i will always ask questions like what makes u love me, wat do u what from me, I will give u some time to talk but if u refuse i will ask u where dis r/ship is heading to...if u are not gonna marry me tell me u cant marry me, not wen d r/ship gets to 5years and above, u will now tell me ur parents doesnt want someone from my region or some flimsy excuses that doesnt count

ur right b4 5 years u shld know if u ar to stay or nt, most girl will remain there even wen d hnd written is on d hall hoping it will be fine. some time most of our girls force their self to a man even when he is nt interested, i know of a lady who pack her bags to her bf house remain permanently with him for over 4 years and withing this period she acts like his wife even when d guy try to mk her realize is nt working at d end wat happens she end up loosing wasting her time and energy. mk them girls wise up i beg they shld know that every relationship is try ur luck if it works out for u both fine u must nt kill urself for one guy all in d name of he must marry u cos u are dating.
i quit my relationship once i see it wasn't working, u go tire urself in one relationship better one go dey pass u bye

whistling and waiting for gum to chew.

@Dk-i hail for the above comment you made there.

  Grin Grin u say mk u cm today,

lol. i was only passing n mistakingly saw that above comment...

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- mazi at 7-05-2011 02:14 PM (12 years ago)
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- 50scent at 7-05-2011 02:18 PM (12 years ago)
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MAZI, HOW ARE U

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- FlyMamacita at 7-05-2011 02:38 PM (12 years ago)
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watin i wnt ask be say, y stay in a relationship for dat long no proposing na nw d girl realize say na one chance she enter ni, if a guy is ready to marry u one year is ok for him to propose and start d marriage plan nt 5 - 7 years make u turn liability for hin hand ni,

Guys if u Know u wnt marry a girl y keep her for dat long? expecting her to do ur wify duties na wa sha

1 yrs is kinda short...no?



1 year till he proposes?
Neeeeeh!Till then the guy will know if it's her d one he wants!


1 yr is too fast rite ?



No,sweetie, it's not fast at all!
I'm not saying to get married by that time,but the proposal usually comes till then,if he is really sure he wants her,
but if has doubts, he'll delay!



I disagree,, how can u know a person to the limit of proposin in 1 year  Huh? Huh?
If a guy wud ask me after 1 year my answer wud b NO

@flymama.How many years before you say yes?

Well it depends on d situation and person involved,, but for me it takes more then 1 year
to knw a person well....i knw my best friends since we were toddlers but somtimes dem still suprise me wit
different behaviour/thinkin/action....

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- mazi at 7-05-2011 02:43 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: 50scent on  7-05-2011 02:18 PM
MAZI, HOW ARE U

blessings ma brother.....how is d going?
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- 50scent at 7-05-2011 02:49 PM (12 years ago)
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50cent is cool right here

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- rolifaith at 7-05-2011 06:38 PM (12 years ago)
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pls tell ur frnd to leave dat guy alone, have had an experince like dis before, he dont love her. our problem for naija mostly girls we like marriage na force to marry.
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- jukkiebukwes at 7-05-2011 09:25 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Dan_Fulani on  7-05-2011 11:23 AM

@jukkiebukwes
>>>u just said it, its against our culture. it doesnt tell well of a gurl if she proposes 2 her boyfrnd,
i havent seen such and havent heard. dis is not asking a guy out now, it is asking him to marry her.
i no fit oh, abeg<<<


You are correct again. But our culture can sometimes hold us back. So it is perfectly
okay sometimes to "break" the rules.
I will use a litle know piece of Nigerian history to illustrate my reasoning. More than 80 years
ago, Calaba ladies were the first women in Nigeria to wear high heels shoes. Others laughed
at them, considered then desperate and and wanting to be like white women, etc.....
Today most nigerian women wear high heels. Rules can be broken. We can adopt foreign
practices to reach our goals.
Just you know, some nigerian women overseas did propose to their husbands.
It no longer a taboo.

dan fulani


so we shud start breaking the rules abi, ok oh
Posted: at 7-05-2011 09:25 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- superbabess at 7-05-2011 11:20 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  5-05-2011 07:43 PM
Seriously wetin b d problem wit cooking,, u no have to eat too??

Wetin b d problem wit iron his shirt,, u no want am to luk fresh and handsom for outside and ur friends to see??

Wetin b d problem wit sex,, u no enjoy am??

mchew make i just pass jare

true talk,,, i like ur word but the question is,,,,,,,  se the guy really what sha?
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- superbabess at 7-05-2011 11:24 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  5-05-2011 08:15 PM
Quote from: chiglamour4u on  5-05-2011 08:11 PM
watin i wnt ask be say, y stay in a relationship for dat long no proposing na nw d girl realize say na one chance she enter ni, if a guy is ready to marry u one year is ok for him to propose and start d marriage plan nt 5 - 7 years make u turn liability for hin hand ni,

Guys if u Know u wnt marry a girl y keep her for dat long? expecting her to do ur wify duties na wa sha
1 yrs is kinda short...no?

never shot for a guy that is serious jor.
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- oohio2007 at 8-05-2011 01:53 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: chiglamour4u on  5-05-2011 08:11 PM
watin i wnt ask be say, y stay in a relationship for dat long no proposing na nw d girl realize say na one chance she enter ni, if a guy is ready to marry u one year is ok for him to propose and start d marriage plan nt 5 - 7 years make u turn liability for hin hand ni,

Guys if u Know u wnt marry a girl y keep her for dat long? expecting her to do ur wify duties na wa sha

1 yrs is kinda short...no?



1 year till he proposes?
Neeeeeh!Till then the guy will know if it's her d one he wants!


1 yr is too fast rite ?



No,sweetie, it's not fast at all!
I'm not saying to get married by that time,but the proposal usually comes till then,if he is really sure he wants her,
but if has doubts, he'll delay!



I disagree,, how can u know a person to the limit of proposin in 1 year  Huh? Huh?
If a guy wud ask me after 1 year my answer wud b NO

@flymama.How many years before you say yes?

Well it depends on d situation and person involved,, but for me it takes more then 1 year
to knw a person well....i knw my best friends since we were toddlers but somtimes dem still suprise me wit
different behaviour/thinkin/action....



CORRECT

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- FlyMamacita at 8-05-2011 10:26 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: superbabess on  7-05-2011 11:20 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on  5-05-2011 07:43 PM
Seriously wetin b d problem wit cooking,, u no have to eat too??

Wetin b d problem wit iron his shirt,, u no want am to luk fresh and handsom for outside and ur friends to see??

Wetin b d problem wit sex,, u no enjoy am??

mchew make i just pass jare

true talk,,, i like ur word but the question is,,,,,,,  se the guy really what sha?

well d same way d gal is suppose to knw afta dis yrs if he is worth it...
Besides if d guy no worth am e no matta sef,, u go neva blame ursef for not treatin am gud, he no fit
talk bad abt u to any oda person..... i wonda why so many women care so much abt dis so called 'pride'

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- saleleabdul at 8-05-2011 01:04 PM (12 years ago)
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Hmmmmmmmmmmm, see, when you start giving, you dont know where to stop !!!. If he wants a wife then he should get married. If you can do all these for a boy friend then ask yourself why did GOD prescribe marriage!!!!!!!!!!!!
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