Mistakes ppl make in the beginning of a new relationship! (Page 9)

Date: 11-05-2011 9:23 am (13 years ago) | Author: Bittersweet
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 04:24 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: grace200 on 12-05-2011 12:59 PM
True words. Poster keep it up!

Thx,dear! Wink

Posted: at 12-05-2011 04:24 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 04:25 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: simele on 12-05-2011 01:29 PM
trying to adapt

Ok Wink

Posted: at 12-05-2011 04:25 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- tando at 12-05-2011 04:26 PM (13 years ago)
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passing
Posted: at 12-05-2011 04:26 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 04:26 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: laydeelaracraft on 12-05-2011 01:59 PM
Well done BS!

The underlying problem for all these issues yu raised is that ppl pretend to b what they r not; which means the other party falls in love with sum1 diff from who yu reaally r....and therein lies the problem

Thx,sweetie! You're very correct! Wink

Posted: at 12-05-2011 04:26 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 04:26 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: goingwithyou on 12-05-2011 02:34 PM
Thinking of wht to add ot it .. brb ...

Ok

Posted: at 12-05-2011 04:26 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 04:27 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FAVRRYTTE on 12-05-2011 04:12 PM
Oh My God!I rilly Luv Dis, Dating Couples shld try & Pick correction from ds Coz most Pple av actually disobeyed ds "Rules". On a first kal wot U hear from Most Guys @d end of d discussion is " I luv U" as if one shld melt bcos of dos words & 4d gals dey want notin but 2mit his pals & family immediately dey meet so as 2fil important.....gush! lack self Esteem. U go gal! I luv dis Piece

Thx,my dear! Wink

Posted: at 12-05-2011 04:27 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- AlphaOscar at 12-05-2011 05:04 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 11-05-2011 09:23 AM
Showering with gifts
Some ppl,usually men,may equate spending money on a woman with making her like him more. Showering ur partner with gifts in d first stages of a relationship won’t make him or her like  more or motivate him or her to keep u around. It suggests u have little else to offer other than what’s in ur chequing account.And even worse, they may begin to expect gifts all d time.
Wait for a milestone in ur relationship,such as an anniversary or birthday,b4 exchanging gifts.

Spending all ur free time together
There r 2 dangers with being needy or clingy in a relationship.First,u forgo ur social life,which u need to maintain for ur own well-being.We all need to have a healthy circle of friends for support & companionship.Second,u smother d other person’s own personal time,which may cause him or her to resent u.U'll end up getting sick of each other early on in d relationship.  

Meeting family & friends prematurely
 Meeting d other person’s friends and family is a rite of passage in any relationship. But,it could be a mistake to meet them before u know ur new partner well enough.Establish a comfortable,solid rapport with him or her first. Also,try to get to know those close to him or her by asking and talking about them.Then,when it's d right time,u'll know what to expect & u’ll be more at ease when u actually meet them.
  
Not coming clean about ur past
Whatever skeletons u’re hiding,they'll come out eventually. U should tell d other person about any addictions u had,if u've been married,and so on.Granted,all of this doesn’t have to be revealed all at once or all within d first few weeks of dating.When u feel like d relationship is getting serious,u should come out & be fully honest.
  
Avoiding Confrontation
Communication is d key to resolving those quarrels all lovers have.If u avoid talking about ur problems,they'll only get bigger.A small argument in d present is better than a painful fight later.Avoiding confrontation can also be taken as a sign of indifference towards d relationship.
  
Forgiving mistakes too easily
If there is something that bothers u about the other person,don’t let these annoying habits slide.If he/she has done something to hurt or offend u,let them know right away.If u sweep all of ur feelings under d rug,it will blow up.He/she will never know how u feel & d behaviour will continue.
  
Taking them for granted
 In order to keep d glow of a relationship alive,seduction must be a long withstanding effort.So don’t fall into d trap of getting too comfortable too early on.For example:u stop going out on dates,u no longer care about ur appearance or u stop being attentive & affectionate.Falling into these bad practices may spell d end of ur relationship.  
  
Saying “I Love You” Too Soon
These words r not to be thrown around carelessly.They must be used with an amount of frugality,otherwise they become meaningless.
Saying it too soon may scare d other person off.So wait until u know d other person really well & a solid base of trust has been established.Then,u'll both know that u really mean it.


Feel free to add more! Wink
Avoid Excuses
When you are wrong, don't find it difficult to say you are sorry by making excuses.
Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:04 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- interpo77 at 12-05-2011 05:04 PM (13 years ago)
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well considering the type of relationships that undergoes in nigeria
 well one would just fixing him or herself inn, what i mean is this
 its very rare to find a good diluted relationships per say , many times it ends up on maney for hand , back for ground
go to our universities n u can bear witness urself
  so since i love u n i love u is the other of the day, then pple do every every to get what they want n the  next is the door
well i rest ma case here
Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:04 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 05:08 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: AlphaOscar on 12-05-2011 05:04 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on 11-05-2011 09:23 AM
Showering with gifts
Some ppl,usually men,may equate spending money on a woman with making her like him more. Showering ur partner with gifts in d first stages of a relationship won’t make him or her like  more or motivate him or her to keep u around. It suggests u have little else to offer other than what’s in ur chequing account.And even worse, they may begin to expect gifts all d time.
Wait for a milestone in ur relationship,such as an anniversary or birthday,b4 exchanging gifts.

Spending all ur free time together
There r 2 dangers with being needy or clingy in a relationship.First,u forgo ur social life,which u need to maintain for ur own well-being.We all need to have a healthy circle of friends for support & companionship.Second,u smother d other person’s own personal time,which may cause him or her to resent u.U'll end up getting sick of each other early on in d relationship.  

Meeting family & friends prematurely
 Meeting d other person’s friends and family is a rite of passage in any relationship. But,it could be a mistake to meet them before u know ur new partner well enough.Establish a comfortable,solid rapport with him or her first. Also,try to get to know those close to him or her by asking and talking about them.Then,when it's d right time,u'll know what to expect & u’ll be more at ease when u actually meet them.
  
Not coming clean about ur past
Whatever skeletons u’re hiding,they'll come out eventually. U should tell d other person about any addictions u had,if u've been married,and so on.Granted,all of this doesn’t have to be revealed all at once or all within d first few weeks of dating.When u feel like d relationship is getting serious,u should come out & be fully honest.
  
Avoiding Confrontation
Communication is d key to resolving those quarrels all lovers have.If u avoid talking about ur problems,they'll only get bigger.A small argument in d present is better than a painful fight later.Avoiding confrontation can also be taken as a sign of indifference towards d relationship.
  
Forgiving mistakes too easily
If there is something that bothers u about the other person,don’t let these annoying habits slide.If he/she has done something to hurt or offend u,let them know right away.If u sweep all of ur feelings under d rug,it will blow up.He/she will never know how u feel & d behaviour will continue.
  
Taking them for granted
 In order to keep d glow of a relationship alive,seduction must be a long withstanding effort.So don’t fall into d trap of getting too comfortable too early on.For example:u stop going out on dates,u no longer care about ur appearance or u stop being attentive & affectionate.Falling into these bad practices may spell d end of ur relationship.  
  
Saying “I Love You” Too Soon
These words r not to be thrown around carelessly.They must be used with an amount of frugality,otherwise they become meaningless.
Saying it too soon may scare d other person off.So wait until u know d other person really well & a solid base of trust has been established.Then,u'll both know that u really mean it.


Feel free to add more! Wink
Avoid Excuses
When you are wrong, don't find it difficult to say you are sorry by making excuses.

That's a really good one!
Thx!
Wink

Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:08 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 05:09 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: interpo77 on 12-05-2011 05:04 PM
well considering the type of relationships that undergoes in nigeria
 well one would just fixing him or herself inn, what i mean is this
 its very rare to find a good diluted relationships per say , many times it ends up on maney for hand , back for ground
go to our universities n u can bear witness urself
  so since i love u n i love u is the other of the day, then pple do every every to get what they want n the  next is the door
well i rest ma case here

Hmmm,I see! Undecided

Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:09 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- seunbade at 12-05-2011 05:10 PM (13 years ago)
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in some case it is the other way round
 Wink Wink
Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:10 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- seunbade at 12-05-2011 05:12 PM (13 years ago)
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in some case it is the other way round, some of those mistakes tends to mend some relationship
 Wink Wink
Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:12 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- bittersweet at 12-05-2011 05:13 PM (13 years ago)
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Everything is possible! Exceptions in every area!

Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:13 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- thomas_rachel60 at 12-05-2011 05:34 PM (13 years ago)
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i think am learning something here.
Posted: at 12-05-2011 05:34 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- detruy at 12-05-2011 06:45 PM (13 years ago)
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it normal to make mistakes bcos we are not perfect,but we should learn to be careful,cos some mistake can not never be corrected!!
Posted: at 12-05-2011 06:45 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- kenolis at 13-05-2011 01:41 AM (13 years ago)
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copy and paste is too much here, so am out Angry Angry Angry
Posted: at 13-05-2011 01:41 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 13-05-2011 06:55 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: thomas_rachel60 on 12-05-2011 05:34 PM
i think am learning something here.

That's good! Wink

Posted: at 13-05-2011 06:55 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 13-05-2011 06:55 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: detruy on 12-05-2011 06:45 PM
it normal to make mistakes bcos we are not perfect,but we should learn to be careful,cos some mistake can not never be corrected!!

Correct Wink

Posted: at 13-05-2011 06:55 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Eucharia at 13-05-2011 11:41 AM (13 years ago)
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just shouting, i love u, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
Posted: at 13-05-2011 11:41 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- bittersweet at 13-05-2011 11:42 AM (13 years ago)
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 Grin Grin Grin

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