Extended family gave an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..." Part 2 (Page 7)

I have to say that agreed with the lady in question to an extent.  However it does not appear to me that she has made her case clear. She claimed that she did not want to marry the man brought forward by her family members because she has  neither met nor knew the man. I totally agree with her on this decision but I have a question; did she try to meet this guy, who knows she may like him and in the long run grow to love him or the man may not even like her and that would be the end of it! She also stated that if she happen to want to have a baby in the future, she knows how to go about it. In my opinion this sounded like someone with no intention of ever getting married and settling down. Let me point out that nowadays,  there does not appear to be so much wrong with remaining single for the rest of ones life or being a single parent or even being in a relationship and have children but choose not to get married. However, I think this lady should make her case clear. If she is not ready to get marry and settle down now, she should say so loud and clear!! If she wants to pursue her career first before thinking about getting married and settling down, say so!! Also, if she currently thinks that getting married and settling down is not her portion, she should also make this clear!! My piece of advice is that this lady should make her case clear like you would expect a 30 year old and stop hiding behind the curtain of "my family are trying to force me to marry a man I don't know", looking for public sympathies!!!. In my opinion, this lady is just one stubborn goat who wants to join the so called western life (which I found nothing wrong with) but do not know how to go about it. Grow up woman and make your case clear, maybe your family members would recognise that you have grown own in your own mind and respect your wish!!!!!

Posted: at 24-08-2011 10:19 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Her decision may be wrong but they have no right to decide the way she lives her life, she is no more a 16 year old girl so the only thing they can do is to advise her not forcing her.

Posted: at 24-08-2011 12:48 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

Its her life they should leave her alone joor...

Posted: at 27-08-2011 11:27 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

na lie..

Posted: at 23-06-2012 07:27 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero