50scent at 16-11-2011 01:03 PM (12 years ago) (m)
RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE FORUM; MINISTER FOR WOMEN AFFAIRS WELCOMES YOU Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:03 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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sophiebaby at 16-11-2011 01:04 PM (12 years ago) (f) na tru u talk...no be lie..she no no say man fit tell woman am Sorry just like dat..meanwhile the sorry no comot from his belle
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :* Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:04 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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dhowafe at 16-11-2011 01:10 PM (12 years ago) (m) Abeg Help me tell her, maybe she go learn frm u well... Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:10 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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Rosemerry at 16-11-2011 01:24 PM (12 years ago) (f) Any guy that knows himself will apologise if he's in the wrong. Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:24 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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Most times its Pride
Man finds it difficult to say sorry due to the cultural background. But spiritually, it is not, if there is genuine love and understanding between the spouses.
The cultural settings did not position or influence man to feel remorse for the wrongdoing to the woman why? because, culturally, a man sees a woman as his subject and subordinate so, he have no apology for any wrongdoing. In fact, in African setting, the culture did not position woman well enough. That makes a man to see a woman as a property and not helpmate. When a man wrongs his wife and he is spiritually well equipped, he is expected to apologise even at the expense of that woman�s stubbornness.
But on the other hand, if the woman is too �big enough� to say sorry to her husband, I don�t see reason why the man should, because the wife should be submissive and if she�s not, it will be difficult for the man to say sorry but if that woman is submissive and humble even to a fault, that is enough for a man to say sorry, if he has conscience.
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Most times its Pride
Man finds it difficult to say sorry due to the cultural background. But spiritually, it is not, if there is genuine love and understanding between the spouses.
The cultural settings did not position or influence man to feel remorse for the wrongdoing to the woman why? because, culturally, a man sees a woman as his subject and subordinate so, he have no apology for any wrongdoing. In fact, in African setting, the culture did not position woman well enough. That makes a man to see a woman as a property and not helpmate. When a man wrongs his wife and he is spiritually well equipped, he is expected to apologise even at the expense of that woman's stubbornness.
But on the other hand, if the woman is too big enough to say sorry to her husband, I don't see reason why the man should, because the wife should be submissive and if she's not, it will be difficult for the man to say sorry but if that woman is submissive and humble even to a fault, that is enough for a man to say sorry, if he has conscience.
There's no other truth except this.....Some men are egocentric in nature which makes it virtually impossible for them to utter such words. Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:39 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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gregofryo at 16-11-2011 01:49 PM (12 years ago) (m) well, i do say sorry some times but the situation has to really warrant it, but why would a lady just expect her man to say he's sorry wen he can or has shown it the other way? its just like one expecting his or her father to kneel down and apologies Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:49 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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giftmurphy at 16-11-2011 01:56 PM (12 years ago) (f) for kb,no vacancy,she is doing it for anoda dude... Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:56 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 01:59 PM (12 years ago) (f) i guess pride won't let them
hmmmm
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 01:59 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:00 PM (12 years ago) (f) When you say men find it difficult to say sorry. Do you mean sorry for what they've done wrong, or sorry that they got caught?
heheheheeeeeeeeeeeeee !!! dont u think they need to say sorry for both ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:00 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:02 PM (12 years ago) (f) a man cannot come with a flower without some back up words..so are u telling us d truth about d flower stuff? he said "this is for you , for what happened yesterday , i hope u forgive me ?"
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:02 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:09 PM (12 years ago) (f) There is something women dont understand in marriage every man has their own unique way of rendering apologies it might not necessarily be oral apology but through actions/kindness let me just quote the context..."The next day he came home with a flower(which i rejected) , he played our favourite music , bought gifts , did some loving and tender gests which i did not welcome"..... At least within him he knew he has offended u and has gone extra miles to apologize in his own way, woman what else do u want? But I'm happy to hear that u have settled the matter.........Why marriages collapse today is the issue of rights ("i am right, he is wrong"), the bible says that women should be submissive to their husbands....Women should not start the fight they cannot win.
You are right , he appologise if he is wrong am not trying to say he feels too big to appologise .From the text i said a cousin of mine confirmed the same action............saying sorry in other ways other than the word" Sincerly apology is apology but i jusy asked a simple question to know why men find it very difficult to say the word but they can do other more difficult and expensive gests just to relay the same message ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:09 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:10 PM (12 years ago) (f) lolz
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:10 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:11 PM (12 years ago) (f) If they fault is from me then I'll say AM SORRY to her.
gbam !! and save urself the stress of buying gifts etc for the same reason
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:11 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:13 PM (12 years ago) (f) HAHAHAHA, MEN RE BIGGER THAN SORRY , SO ITS OUR PRIORITY NOT TO SAY SO, COS U WILL EXPECT IT ANY TIME U FEELS PISSED, I CANT REMEMBER THE LAST I SAID IT TO MA WIFEY I THINK IN 2006 IN MURTALA AIRPORT LAGOS WHEN SHE WAS CRYING COS AM ABOUT TO BOARD A FLIGHT TO CANADA, SORRY WOMAN I DIDNT MEAN TO HURT U
u see what i mean ? What is soo special or difficult in saying that and meaning it ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:13 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:14 PM (12 years ago) (f) no matter the gift, i cant settle it without hearing the word "i am sorry"
lolz ..................just be sure u'll get a man that will do that , because such men are rare
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:14 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:15 PM (12 years ago) (f)
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:15 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:17 PM (12 years ago) (f) Any guy that knows himself will apologise if he's in the wrong.
by saying what ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:17 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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onyiis at 16-11-2011 02:19 PM (12 years ago) (f) well, i do say sorry some times but the situation has to really warrant it, but why would a lady just expect her man to say he's sorry wen he can or has shown it the other way? its just like one expecting his or her father to kneel down and apologies
lolz ...............that is it
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:19 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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purpuladav at 16-11-2011 02:21 PM (12 years ago) (f) Sweetheart, I'm sorry - I didn't mean it. Posted: at 16-11-2011 02:21 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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