Wat would u do if u r in luv with someone that has a child and not together? (Page 10)

Quote from: POlY-ChiCk on 27-01-2012 01:44 AM

Hey guys, I really need your advices. I'm in love with a great guy who has a son and his not interested with the baby mama because he found out that she was just using him for money and she was cheating on im with another guy. I'm grat friends with his baby mama though and it was me who told him everything about her cheating on him because I thought it was the right thing to do. Me and him talked and started to become friends for about 2-3 months until one day, he asked me out. It took me a month just come up with an answer which was yes. His a great guy and yeah I really love him. He loves his son though but, not the baby mama. Today is my BIRTHDAY and his going to call me after he gets off from work and he will take out me for my birthday. His very loving and caring. Sometimes, I questioned my love for him when we don't get in touch sometimes. Am I being unfair to him? Is it right for someone like me to be with him? I mean it's been 6 months since we've been together. I don't mind him having a son though because I took care of that baby boy ever since he was born from his mama which is my friend. Please I need your feedbacks!!!

MY ADVICE IS YOU SHOULD GET A LIFE AND MOVE ON, I STRONGLY BELIEVE THAT YOU'RE THE REASON WHY THY SEPERATED. STOP LYING TO YOURSELF AND ALL OF US, YOU'RE FORCING  AND THROWING YOURSELF ON THIS MAN, KEEP IT UP, WE MEN ARE NOT STUPID, IF YOU OFFER WE TAKE, TRUSTH ME YOU WILL LIVE TO REGRET IT IF YOU EVER MESS WITH THAT GUY. YOU'RE NOT GOD TO JUDGE YOUR FRIENDS ACTION TORWARD THE BABY FATHER, WITH YOU IN BETWEEN THEY WILL NEVER HAVE A CHANCE TO SETTLE THEIR DIFFERENCES. SO BACK OFF AND WAIT ON THE LORD TO BLESS YOU WITH YOUR OWN MAN. A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE. IF YOU DECIDE TO GO FOR IT PLS COME BACK AND GIVE THE FEED BACK WHICH I ALREADY KNOW WHAT IT'S GOING TO BE..... :(110% HEART BROKEN/DISSAPOINTED

Posted: at 28-01-2012 03:23 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

what u did was very bad, are u sure u not ganna cheat on him too,,,,,,,i think u just want to have  ur way on the guy,,,,,,,

Posted: at 28-01-2012 06:57 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

WELL POLY CHIK, everybody is judging you but i dont have any right to, we all are human and whatever happens in life, has already been calculated.
i will only suggest to you, though am a single guy and never had a girl that cheated on me before, so here is my own contribution.
1. Any woman that cheats on her husband, has already laid a foundation for the destruction of that marriage or affair, it doesnt matter who did the lintel or roofing.
2. Just tell us what lead to the topic of presenting the wife infidelity to the husband. Cos i know is normally amorous discussion that can bring that up such, sometimes.
3. Did you complained to the man, cos you think you can love him better and never cheat on him, or you did the complain as a self PROMO, or slip of tongue.
4. IS the man loving you with all his senses or under steady brainwashing or seduction or alcohol.
       
             well to help you answer some of the questions,
1. the woman being your best gave you the opportunity by sleeping around, cos if she cherish the man, she would has padlock her psy,
2. if the man is the one that ask you and you said the truth, you are right. but if not, that means you have eye on this guy more than the baby mama.
3 Do you think you can love him better and would raise a generation with her as a true christain woman, then ride on girl. But if you still have an eye on another zip out there, after taking this man, you will end up living worst than your friend. even miserable.
4. The man seems to be a player, for acting fast to what you said, no investigation, chase the mother of kid away like that, making love to you so fast. common, he has eye on your booty and maybe you noticed that and use it on him.

             my advice is DONt rush into married with this guy, watch his feelings towards his baby mama, cos the man might be enjoying you, and when his through, the only thing he will tell the ex wife, am sorry forgive me, and she will take him back. Then you will lose.
the man is irresponsible to me, and might make you second baby mama, and move to the next girl. IN such case, give this man 18 or 20months atleast to know his intention,  3 months sounds bitchy.
                 NOw beware of you best friend, cos she is not happy with you, and can do something nasty. dont rush. and for the cheating ladies, YOU ALL DESERVES FRIEND LIKE THIS. FOR PEOPLE SAYING YOU SHOULD TALK TO YOUR FRIEND, IS SHE A KID. ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH AND IT SHALL SET YOU FREE.

Posted: at 28-01-2012 08:42 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

omg you are not being fair,its simply greed that made you do that,there are a whole lots of guys out there,look for yours.

Posted: at 28-01-2012 03:17 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

i totally agree with you........ nobody is supportin wat d babymama did cos itz bad, but i wonder y som guys jus dnt wannna c dat her so calld bestfrnd is a backstabber.

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Posted: at 28-01-2012 05:04 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

First of all,I assumed you are just trying to frame up something that is not real, though it do happen some time. But then, if it's real I reserve no apology by asking, aren't you ashamed of yourself? You called the baby  mama your best friend, friend, friend in deed or cold blooded, stabber. what is friend supposed to be to a friend. surely, the old mugu man is rich and that is what your interested, as for love, you are a liar, soon you will start planning on how to eliminate that boy, surely he is going to be an obstacle in your way. I'm sure before this man you have a boy friend, you are equally, cheating, or what is it supposed to be called?. Lady innocent can you quickly get your ass off that man and make judicious use of your life....................advice no be course..

Posted: at 28-01-2012 06:08 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

 First, have u discussed with your "girlfriend" about her cheating issue? I mean before running to her boyfriend?
Now it seems that you realize that what you did was worthless (or the dude was worthless! You know better)
and u messed up your life big time because nothing good can come out of this!
Get yourself out of the sh*t u entered in!

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Posted: at 28-01-2012 06:52 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

i will like to advice you, first Sister you did wrong by telling him that her Girlfriend is cheating him, secondly, you did it because you love the guy very well, you suppose to advice your Girl Friend and if she did not accept your advice, you cut off your relationship with her and leave the guy to find out by him self, if the guy find out and come for you is very nice, now you think that you love the guy and the guy loves you, if you later marry the guy, your friend will never forgive you in her life time and when her baby grow up, he will hear that you are the person that cost problem between her mother and father, that time maybe his mother has marry another man or she is still single, i don't think that he will be happy with you, but i just advice you. you still have to make your choice, the will of God must surely come to pass.

Posted: at 29-01-2012 09:14 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Watch your back girl!!! You are not doing the right time just go and have a re-think. There are so many nice guys out there go and grab one for yourself. Goodluck

Posted: at 29-01-2012 04:27 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

jamb

Posted: at 30-01-2012 04:43 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac