if u are in my shoes?

Date: 04-02-2009 6:43 pm (15 years ago) | Author: Rosi L
- at 4-02-2009 06:43 PM (15 years ago)
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HELLO,

OOOOOOH I HAVE TRIED ALL MY BEST AND MY BEST IS NOT ENOUGH. SINCERELY I TOT THAT IS ONLY WOMEN THAT NAGS NOT UNTIL I ENTERED INTO THIS UNION.  OOOOOOOOOOOOH MY GOD INDEED HOT FOR ME. NAGING NAGING NAGING. I CAME FROM A CHRISTIAN HOME AND AM SOO SCARED TO BE CALLED A DIVORCE, I PROVIDE FOR MY HOME COS MY HUBBY HAD PROBLEMS IN HIS BIZ.

INFACT I DNT KNOW HOW TO PUT IT COS IN EVERY ANGLE, I TRY TO MAKE HIM HAPPY, BUT EACH TIME HE STEPS HIS FIT INTO THE HOUSE, NAGING STARTS, EITHER THAT THE GROUND IS LITTERED, OR WHY IS IT THAT THERE IS NO NEPA?, OR WHY HAV U NOT FINISHED COOKING, EVEN AT BED HE SAYS WHY ARE U KEEPING UR LEG LIKE THAT? OPEN IT WELL, AMONG OTHERS, TO CROWN IT ALL HE CALLS ME A FLEET, EVEN WHEN HE IS THE OWN THAT DOES THAT. IS OBVIOUS COS HE DOESNT ANS HIS FON IN THE HOUSE AND  HE KEEPS LATE NITE. BUT EACH MINS HE IS AT HOME, THE NEIGHBOURS MUST KNOW.

I WNT TO LEAVE HIM, BUT MY PASTOR TOLD ME THAT GOD DOES NOT LIKE DIVORCE, EVEN MY PARENTS SAID I SHLD STAY, BUT AM DYING IN SILENCE. HEAVEN KNOWS THAT AM SEEING HELL. WHAT WILL I DO?

THIS IS WHAT A GOOD FRIEND OF MY TOLD ME ABOUT HER HOME AND INDEED SHE IS IN HELL IN EARTH, PLS U GUYS SHOULD ADVICE ME PLSSSSSSS.

THANKS AND GOD BLESS

Posted: at 4-02-2009 06:43 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
- gonyo at 4-02-2009 07:23 PM (15 years ago)
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rbest jst stick with him in wen xchanging ur marital vals u said 4 beta 4 worse dis is worse ur passin tru b a gud wife and do react dats wat his lookin 4 reaction do mind him and no insults okay in wish u d best rbest
Posted: at 4-02-2009 07:23 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- Resi at 5-02-2009 09:40 AM (15 years ago)
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When a man starts having problem in his biz,there is every tendency he will behave the way ur husband is behaving.You shld nt contemplate on divorce,every marriage has its ups & down.Just pray,things wil change for better.Wish you luck.

Posted: at 5-02-2009 09:40 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
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- maffrodisiac at 5-02-2009 11:28 AM (15 years ago)
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Who nags more than men anyway? When a man feels he's not living up to his responsibilities, there's a tendencey he will feel like a let down. All his actions are because he thinks u are looking down on him cos he doesn't provide for the family. Just try to dwell on the good points of ur relationship. Why did u marry him in the first place, how cool it was when u were dating, etc. that way, u feel stronger and ready to face any challenges. Please, try ur best to make sure u do the things u know he loves and desist from doing those things u know he hates. Marriage is what u make of it so work at urs and make it a happy one. Good Luck!
Posted: at 5-02-2009 11:28 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Abby at 14-02-2009 02:32 PM (15 years ago)
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  I would pray and talk to him, let him know how i feel... and if it continue after 6 months i will get a divorce... honestly, i think a lot of women put themselves through hell in the name of 'i dont want to get a divorce'...  u're allowed to get a divorce if ur husband cheats, its in the bible. Thank God, hes not beating u yet cos that usually follows, God is... maybe when u tell him u're leaving the reality of all thats been happening and all that could happen would sink,  he'ld have a rethink and maybe change. let him know how u feel first and ask him what he would do if he was in ur shoes... if he still cant get it together MOVE ON.
Thats what i would do sha... if u cant, i hope it works out another way... good luck
Posted: at 14-02-2009 02:32 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Abby at 14-02-2009 03:27 PM (15 years ago)
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Its not like i'm pro-divorce or anything like ... i honestly believe in one man one wife, in sickness and in health bla bla bla... but i think a lot of women need to know when to move on. God does not want a divorce but i think he doesn't want living in a bad situation months after months... when u're married, become one with ur husband, together u are better n stronger, u build together, u grow together... if down u help him and vice versa...  but when hes down and u cant help him, u're down as well... it may look like u're better, but u're not, for as long as hes in that position, u're in that position... the only way u can get out of it is to get him to move out of it...   u can live with that if hes not misbehaving n all of that , but if he is ....
anyway I'm 21, never been married so yeah i maybe wrong... good luck again.
Posted: at 14-02-2009 03:27 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
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- kelix at 14-02-2009 07:28 PM (15 years ago)
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AM SURE HE WASNT LIKE THAT WHEN U MARRIED HIM, IT COULD BE THAT HE IS HAVING A PROBLEM THAT U COULD HELP HIM SHARE. NEXT TIME WHEN HE NAGS DONT SAY A WORD, JUST BE LOOKING AND PLS STOP REACTING TO WHAT HE DOES, HE IS STREESED. JUST BE THER FOR HIM, ITS NOT EASY, U CAN DO IT. CAPITALISE ON THE THINGS HE LIKES AND ULL C CHANGES.
Posted: at 14-02-2009 07:28 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- nollylove at 3-06-2009 01:24 AM (14 years ago)
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My condolences, been there done that
Posted: at 3-06-2009 01:24 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Savelife4real at 3-06-2009 08:54 AM (14 years ago)
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Ladies round table..

Posted: at 3-06-2009 08:54 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- flexmercy at 19-06-2009 03:10 AM (14 years ago)
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i feel ur pain,but never d less...no smoke wthout fire.b prayerful,bcos God no dey sleep.
Posted: at 19-06-2009 03:10 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- Recoverd at 19-06-2009 09:37 AM (14 years ago)
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I totaly agree wit abby bt wait till he starts beatin u. THEN LEAVE!!!
Posted: at 19-06-2009 09:37 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ngfineface at 2-09-2015 10:30 AM (8 years ago)
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I feel your pain. Pele
Posted: at 2-09-2015 10:30 AM (8 years ago) | Hero
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