Can you EVER Trust Your Man again, After Infidelity?

In some situations, there is 90% chances that u can trust him again........eg: if he is a gate man in agege bread factory or local pure water company............and happen to sleep with sum1 in oda to get some money to support his salary.........Then after the INFIDELITY he got a job in FIDELITY Bank as branch manager...........hmm if u no trust him,,u are on ur own

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Posted: at 26-03-2012 04:50 PM (12 years ago) | Hero

it’s difficult to rebuild trust in a relationship/marriage..First of all...i will Use My husband’s physical or emotional infidelity as an opportunity to build a better marriage and take care of the things i were avoiding or letting languish...SECONDLY i will Mourn the loss of my marriage as it was. my marriage will never be the same after an affair, and it’s important to grieve that loss. i will never be the same – and either will my husband/ spouse. It’s the end of one chapter of your marriage, and the beginning of another – possibly healthier and happier...THIRDLY...i will Remember that rebuilding marriage trust takes time. cos It’s very difficult to trust a husband after an affair because infidelity shakes the entire foundation of  marriage. If i can accept and commit to the long, challenging process of rebuilding my marriage, my relationship stands a better chance of succeeding...FOURTLY...i would Take responsibility for my role in the affair. cos It’s important to remember that in most cases of infidelity, both spouses carry some responsibility. I’m not defending unfaithful husbands or wives;. To rebuild marriage trust, one needs to accept your own culpability, because most affairs happen because of problems in the relationship..Understand why the affair occurred. then i wud also Take a step back and try to understand why my husband cheated from his perspective. What was he seeking? cos Healing and rebuilding trust involves seeing the reasons for your spouse’s behavior, and then figuring out what you can do to save your marriage and make your relationship better...then i will practice self-forgiveness...tell my husband what i need from him..And if i can’t forgive him, then i won’t be able to rebuild marriage trust..Lastly..Make an appointment with a marriage counselor(if need be). cos If i want to save my marriage, i wud consider seeking couples therapy so i can work out my issues together. A marriage counselor who has professional experience with infidelity can help me reunite and rebuild. If i am dealing with anxiety, depression, or stress because of the infidelity (or other life issues),

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Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:12 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

sophyrocks..u just have to try and survive it..then rebuild it..thats if u love him..else if u dont love him..then theres no two ways bout it

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Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:29 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Infidelity is the worst thing to do to a faithful wife. Put yourself in her shoes. If your wife cheated and you knew it, how would you feel? If you had a soul, you'd probably feel like crap. Imagine the private violation and humiliation your wife is feeling. Imagine her thoughts of "getting even" or "getting back" at you!

Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:38 PM (12 years ago) | Hero

I guess it depends on the r/s....

Posted: at 26-03-2012 06:20 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

I can trust him but he would be tested 2 times.

Posted: at 26-03-2012 10:25 PM (12 years ago) | Hero

So you resist temptation only twice? 

Posted: at 26-03-2012 10:31 PM (12 years ago) | Hero

  nobemetalkamo

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Posted: at 27-03-2012 08:37 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

that is if u dont have a forgiving spirit and if ur not A BORN AGAIN  ..like from what i said...i said i wud practice SELF-FORGIVENESS..and i cant..i wont be able to rebuild trust in my reltionship...LIVE N LET IT LIE

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Posted: at 27-03-2012 09:02 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

and if i cant

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Posted: at 27-03-2012 09:07 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero