Infidelity — segxwal, emotional, or, heaven forbid, both — can really tear a relationship apart. After all, once your partner commits the ultimate betrayal, how can you ever trust him/her again?
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Posted: at 26-03-2012 10:46 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
jossy4reall at 26-03-2012 04:50 PM (13 years ago) (m)
In some situations, there is 90% chances that u can trust him again........eg: if he is a gate man in agege bread factory or local pure water company............and happen to sleep with sum1 in oda to get some money to support his salary.........Then after the INFIDELITY he got a job in FIDELITY Bank as branch manager...........hmm if u no trust him,,u are on ur own
Love or Hate me its ur Biz, I have more important things to think abt since u never gonna change me
Posted: at 26-03-2012 04:50 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 26-03-2012 05:12 PM (13 years ago) (f)
it’s difficult to rebuild trust in a relationship/marriage..First of all...i will Use My husband’s physical or emotional infidelity as an opportunity to build a better marriage and take care of the things i were avoiding or letting languish...SECONDLY i will Mourn the loss of my marriage as it was. my marriage will never be the same after an affair, and it’s important to grieve that loss. i will never be the same – and either will my husband/ spouse. It’s the end of one chapter of your marriage, and the beginning of another – possibly healthier and happier...THIRDLY...i will Remember that rebuilding marriage trust takes time. cos It’s very difficult to trust a husband after an affair because infidelity shakes the entire foundation of marriage. If i can accept and commit to the long, challenging process of rebuilding my marriage, my relationship stands a better chance of succeeding...FOURTLY...i would Take responsibility for my role in the affair. cos It’s important to remember that in most cases of infidelity, both spouses carry some responsibility. I’m not defending unfaithful husbands or wives;. To rebuild marriage trust, one needs to accept your own culpability, because most affairs happen because of problems in the relationship..Understand why the affair occurred. then i wud also Take a step back and try to understand why my husband cheated from his perspective. What was he seeking? cos Healing and rebuilding trust involves seeing the reasons for your spouse’s behavior, and then figuring out what you can do to save your marriage and make your relationship better...then i will practice self-forgiveness...tell my husband what i need from him..And if i can’t forgive him, then i won’t be able to rebuild marriage trust..Lastly..Make an appointment with a marriage counselor(if need be). cos If i want to save my marriage, i wud consider seeking couples therapy so i can work out my issues together. A marriage counselor who has professional experience with infidelity can help me reunite and rebuild. If i am dealing with anxiety, depression, or stress because of the infidelity (or other life issues),
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:12 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Sophyrocks at 26-03-2012 05:24 PM (13 years ago) (f)
No mata hw hard u may try,trustin an unfaithful man wud be lyk tryin 2 pass a camel tru a needle. Dat trust is damaged completely. Unless dat man does all he can 2 make sure i can trust him. Its gonna be a lot of wrk 4 him o n he must be ready 2 do it! Dats d price he has 2 pay.
Life is damn too short to be sitting around miserable.
Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:24 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
sophiebaby at 26-03-2012 05:32 PM (13 years ago) (f)
sophyrocks..even bfor he committed the crime..it means u were not doing ur work wella..so if ur man cheats..and u love him..u just have to try n rebuild it..thou its very difficult..but u just have to..with the help of u urself and ur UKWU!
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:32 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Treasure2 at 26-03-2012 05:38 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Infidelity is the worst thing to do to a faithful wife. Put yourself in her shoes. If your wife cheated and you knew it, how would you feel? If you had a soul, you'd probably feel like crap. Imagine the private violation and humiliation your wife is feeling. Imagine her thoughts of "getting even" or "getting back" at you!
Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:38 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 26-03-2012 05:51 PM (13 years ago) (f)
babes dey vex o...50 make dem no beat u oo abeg...
T2 and sophyrocks...its better to forgive than to Divorce and take some steps higher..know where u urself went wrong..play ur part wella ( ) win ur man back.. tho it hurts and is difficult..but u just have to try..
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 26-03-2012 05:51 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
jossy4reall at 26-03-2012 08:35 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 26-03-2012 05:32 PM
sophyrocks..even bfor he committed the crime..it means u were not doing ur work wella..so if ur man cheats..and u love him..u just have to try n rebuild it..thou its very difficult..but u just have to..with the help of u urself and ur UKWU!
I love dat word UKWU ......... e dey make me wanna jiggy
Love or Hate me its ur Biz, I have more important things to think abt since u never gonna change me
Posted: at 26-03-2012 08:35 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
Treasure2 at 27-03-2012 08:46 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 26-03-2012 05:51 PM
babes dey vex o...50 make dem no beat u oo abeg...
T2 and sophyrocks...its better to forgive than to Divorce and take some steps higher..know where u urself went wrong..play ur part wella ( ) win ur man back.. tho it hurts and is difficult..but u just have to try..
No matter how you play your part, it will be ringing like a bell in your heart.
Posted: at 27-03-2012 08:46 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 27-03-2012 09:02 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Treasure2 on 27-03-2012 08:46 AM
No matter how you play your part, it will be ringing like a bell in your heart.
that is if u dont have a forgiving spirit and if ur not A BORN AGAIN ..like from what i said...i said i wud practice SELF-FORGIVENESS..and i cant..i wont be able to rebuild trust in my reltionship...LIVE N LET IT LIE
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 27-03-2012 09:02 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Treasure2 at 27-03-2012 09:05 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 27-03-2012 09:02 AM
that is if u dont have a forgiving spirit and if ur not A BORN AGAIN ..like from what i said...i said i wud practice SELF-FORGIVENESS..and i cant..i wont be able to rebuild trust in my reltionship...LIVE N LET IT LIE
Nne, na woman we be ooo, like us really say it the way we act.
Posted: at 27-03-2012 09:05 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 27-03-2012 09:07 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 27-03-2012 09:02 AM
that is if u dont have a forgiving spirit and if ur not A BORN AGAIN ..like from what i said...i said i wud practice SELF-FORGIVENESS..and i cant..i wont be able to rebuild trust in my reltionship...LIVE N LET IT LIE
and if i cant
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 27-03-2012 09:07 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
TRENDING GISTS 
) win ur man back.. tho it hurts and is difficult..but u just have to try.. 
..like from what i said...i said i wud practice SELF-FORGIVENESS..and i cant..i wont be able to rebuild trust in my reltionship...LIVE N LET IT LIE 
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