A FOOL AT FORTY?

Today April 9, 2012, I clock 40 years of age. I am thankful to God for everything but my heart is heavy because I seem to have failed so far!
Currently on a monthly salary of =N=440,000 and having worked in paid employments for eight years, I have no house or land of my own, I have a ramshackle looking five years old tokunbo car and a total investment and savings less than =N=200,000 with indebtedness to the tune of a million naira!
I am not bewitched or under a spell (I believe) but this failure stems from wrong decisions, unhealthy empathy and sentiments.
So far, I have lost about =N=7 million naira in monies invested in the businesses of family members and loan granted to friends to solve their financial problems. These monies are not coming back, they are completely lost! I do not drink or womanise but sometimes wish I do because at least I would have known the bottomless pit that sang my money.
I have survived 3 mass sack of staff in the banking industry and I am just wondering what life will look like if eventually I am also asked to go home, moreso, with my wife still struggling in her high risk business venture with a networth of =N=1 million. This is my second attempt at setting her up.
I am the eldest in the family of seven (from both sides of my two fathers). 3 members of these families are still in the higher institution and this responsibility is on me. I have 3 kids of my own with the eldest in primary 2. I pay a rent of =N=400,000 annually and hope I and my family member remain in sound health so that I don’t have to incur any huge health expense.
All said and done, I am determined to succeed in this life. Analyse, advice and judge me!

Posted: at 9-04-2012 12:52 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie

some ppl are thinking of committing suicide bcos of d kind of shit that they are in right now. u still have your job, your wife and your kids are still with u, u still have a roof over your head and u are hale and hearty. i dont think u have any problem.

Posted: at 9-04-2012 03:18 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

Well,if this confession is real, i will advice u first stop confessing negative words concerning urself n ur situation. You are not a failure n u can still make it to correct ur mistakes. Put everything to God in prayers and always think before you act,draw out a plan on how u spend considering ur income. Commit ur ways unto the God and he shall direct ur path---I say this cos most things that happen in life are not just physical but more of spiritual and you said u r the first born of ur family wldnt want to go deep into that but It is very important that you pray wella and have faith;noting that it is not too late to start again,wisdom is profitable to direct cos i hope u ve learnt from ur mistakes. Cut ur coat according to ur size! May God help you!

Posted: at 9-04-2012 04:00 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

@Poster, you need to take some days off for fasting and prayer.  I believe in prayers though I have also learnt to use my head. Not many people in Nigeria earn the kind of money you are earning. So you need to spiritually put a halt to all what you're going through. Don't lend money to people you know won't repay their debts to you. Take a look at your wife's business and if it is not yielding profits after the financial resources you've committed to it, kindly help her to close the business down and go into another line of business. There are different business ideas these days.  You also need to draw more closer to God but not to the extent of becoming the cash cow of false Pastors and Prophets. I wish you the best.


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Posted: at 9-04-2012 04:10 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie

IF I HEAR EEHH...U NEED PRAYERS

Posted: at 9-04-2012 04:47 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

Row, row, row your boat,
Gently down the stream.
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,
Life is but a dream.

Singing...and wakaring. No vex @ poster, dis matta big pass me.

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Posted: at 9-04-2012 05:13 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

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Posted: at 9-04-2012 05:28 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

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Posted: at 9-04-2012 05:56 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Depends on what u invested into, maybe building other people which is very good. but if wasteful spending, then better change.

Posted: at 9-04-2012 06:12 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

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Posted: at 9-04-2012 07:00 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac