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BECAUSE  AWOMAN IS LOOK UPON HAS BEING A wh*re IF TEHY SHOW THEIR segxwal APPETITE AND WE WANT TO BE RESPECTED.....THAT IS WHY...WHY DO MEN ALWAYS GO FOR THE GALZ WHO ARE QUITE AND LOOK INNOCENT CAUSE THEY WANT TO SEE IF THEY CAN BREAK HER....ABI

IF YOU LIKE HER GENUINELY WITH OUT BRING BLACK WOMAN DOWN BEING YOUR REASON OF DATING WHITE IM COOL.....IT IS THE SAME WAY I FEEL ABOUT MEN WHO DOWN DARK SKIN WOMEN.....IF I WAS A LIGHTER SHADE AND A GUY TOLD ME HE ONLY DATED LIGHT SKIN WOMEN B/C D/C SKIN WAS UGLY I WOULD BE OFFENDED......JUST LIKE HE OR SHE OR WHO THEY ARE ...CHARACTHER

i have read, heard and discuss this topic...i would lie and say thgat if i saw a black brother with a white chick i did not think for just a sec why in the world he is with her....id funny cause i wasa honeslty reading about this in the magazine the essence where jill scott speaks of her personal view ans she was quite blunt and honest.....for me it is the reasin that a black man dates a white woman that bothers me....here in the ststes alot of celebrites marry white white woman more than black woman...and the reason of why is what hurts me has a black woman.....if you choose to marry and or date a white woman genuinely b/c you like her and are attrwacted her ...thats all good and fine but if u say it is b/c black woman is this or that that ius where i get seriously offended....another reason that some black woman feel a bit awkward about it is becase we still feel the pain of the slave days of when a black man would be hanged just for looking at a black man hwile the woman was raped and considered nothing...then the bonds we had were very very very strong but now its nothing,....i dont hate it i just some how feel some kind of un ease eveytime i see it.....trust me i dont lose sleep over it but it sure makes me think for some secs....

i honestly think that every body situation is different and everyones beloiefs are different....we all were raised different so think in numerous of ways.....things happen so if you were to get pregnant before marriage does that make you a bad woman....i think not....but why so so much emphasis on the woman what about the man....he is part of it also....so how does it look for a man who pregnantes a woman beofre being married to her.....just because you aree married does not make it any better ...it depends on the 2 individuals and who they will be they will be has parents that is the most important part.......we try to create this perfect umbrella when life is not perfect and full of suprises and mystery....marry or not marry ....be a good parent to your child and be there for them...that is what matters to me the most....marry or not i dont care...

well if nob e from u she get gono ...na from another source

i dont we can blame anyone b/c some guys will leave a gal b/c she will not give him sex...i honestly believes it depends onthe 2 individuals in the relationship...and how much they value sex......u know...there are men thta will respectfull wait while they are sexing anoother gal on the side .....u know so the situation can go either way......but what we have to consider is what they believe .... sex is not the only thing in relation ship...u know....if sex is given so much value then what about the other things.....u can meet a woman or man that sex u like never before but other part of them is useless.....so is that not also important factor in relationship....some pple are married and dont have sex b/c they enjoy other things...but i know that here ion the states sex knowledge and beliefs are very different form naija so this is just my personal opinion

yes in my dictionary it is kissing unless it is a gretting like the spanish do kiss each other on the cheek ,,,,,,but if im ya gal and u think seeing me tongue another guy is not kissing then there is something wrong.......in that case .....in the first place no one goes around kissing anybody so if u plan on swapping saliva with somebody u must have a ting for them caus i know pple wont just be kidding a staranger no knowing whether na person yash e dey chop.....kissing is personal......

@ omatu i am citizen born her in the states but just b/c you are a citizen doens not mean that i could automatically help him there is more to it than that......trust me ifi could i would.....my parents are nigerian we spoke of me doing it but we decided it was not a good idea b/c my parents would believe he wanted to use me b/c they are aware and he did not want that issue to occur.....even if we decided to wait till we where together a bit longer i also have to be making a certain amount of money in order to file for him b/c being that he was not a citizen he would not be able to work legally in this country and how much i make has to show that i can take care of me and him and if not we have to look for a sponsor...i was not livin on my own and i am a student...alot of things play into factor here omatu u know,....we sat down and discussed this and if he felt how u are saying that i did not help when i needed him most we would have been over......we have been hangng in there this long b/c hee knows that i have been having his back even when it hurted me but i always felt his future is important and i dont want to wait ........there is more that played into this part but i dont want to reveal every single thing but trust that all the possibile ways of doing this was spoken off before we made the decision......

ok dear, i have heard u. Sorry for ur heart pains. I know to well how it is. Bad circumstances let ppl doing crazy things like contract- or pretending- marriage.

But let me tell u, if u truely love somebody, it s NOT important to get him by all means.
The happyness of ur love one should concern u first. Sometimes u have to send ur love away or to let him go, if that would make him more happy.  He seems to be happy with his new woman, his wife now. They may unexpected felt truely in love to each other too.
So let him go and try to concentrate on other things. My faith and a new love helped me out, when i was in such situation bfore.
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@ dolphin kate he does not love her.....im sure of that trust me.....he spend at least 12 hrs out of a day working to avoid her so i know that is not the case and if it was he would tell me.....and if it where true the other time i brolke it of with him he would just let me go u know but he does not wan to be with herand she cannot even have kids anymore and u know one thing about nigerian men they want kids...and she is way older than him and very bad characther.....un trained childeren alcoloic...various things but she is the least of my worries rightnow...honestly

@ aye and eno i hear u guys but im the type of person that bellieves in giving my self time you know.....recuperate and reflect back on things...ask where i went wrong and how i can improve my self has an individual.....i did things to hurt him also it was a 2 way street so im not perfect and not going to sit here and act has of i never dd anything wrong.......but thanks fellaz....im finally going home to rest.....been awake since 11pm lastnight and it is 3:05pm i never sleep......so i wan go rest..........................THANKS TO ALL MY NAIJA PALS WHO CAME OUT TO ASSIT A DYING HEART LIKE MINES AND LIFE MY SPIRITS.......KISSES.......

lmao....aye u jus dey make me laugh thx i needed it badly lord knows

thx aye i hope so but the wound is still fresh but i the way i feel...im taking some time to my self...ME MYSELF AND I...NO MEN NO RELATIONS.....

@ aye lmao u made laugh sha.....why did i do such a thing aye look at it like this he had plans before he met me and even after he told me and i knew i could not do it ( help with the papers)i told him that he should not put his life on hold b/c of me////though out the process form begining till now i was there supporting him and assiting anyway i could...we fell inlove before the fact and letting one another go was just not wat we wanted...i for one just did not thnk or reliaze it would be this difficult and after 2 yrs i started acting....just could stand the way where going..relationship was not growing and the lack of comunication and spending quality time with one another was just not there has much.......

@ colenzo u sound has if i dont know that...ok that is why in the first place i told him to go on cause i would not ant him to get deported....i though it would be selfish of me to hold to him with out me being able to help him......so pls dont come off like im some greedy and selfish individual....cause even he will tell you that i have bend over back wards to assit and be there every step of the way ...just has the road got longer i could bear it and did not know how to handle the situation....

@ DOLPHIN KATE IT WAS A CONTRACT AND AGREED THAT WHEN ALL WAS DONE HE WILL GO....I KNOW FOR SURE HE DOES B/C HE WAS KICKED OUT FROM IS COUSIN HUSBAND HOUSE .....DUE TO HIM NOT BEING ABLE TO FUND HIS LIVING THERE....HE HAS NO FAMILY HERE ..I WOULD BE WRONG TO LET HIM WALK THE STREETS AND GET IN TROUBLE NO BEING A CITIZEN....SO I SAID LOOK U HAD THESE PLANS BEFORE YOU MET ME AND U MOST MEET UP WITH THEM...DONT ALLOW ME TO BE A ROAD BLOCK SO WE AGREED.....A SACRIFICE I HAD NO KNOWLEDGE OF HOW IT WOULD BE GOING WEEKS NOT SEEING EACH OTHER....BUT I AM TYING TO KEEP MY SELF BUSY..AND HE IS NOT THE KIND OF GUY THAT WILL USE TRUST ME...THE SO CALL FRIEND SHE MET WHEN HE GOT HERE ALL TUNED HIS BACK ON HIM...... YOU WOULD THAT B/C THEY WERE ALL NIGERIANS AND FROM THE SAME PLACE THEY WOULD UNDERSTAND THE STRUGGLE and look out for one another but that is not the case ...even the guy that kicked him is currently in jail to be deported while trhe others are stuck in nigeria.....so he is not a bad person for real just circumstances of situation......

LMA THIS IS REALLY FUNNY I MUST SAY...MAY NA MAN E LIKE NA...U WAN MAKE GUY DFLOWER U ....SINCE WOIMAN JUST BE MONSTER TO U

THANKX I WISH I COULD YOU .....I MEAN I LET HIM GO B/C HE HAD PLANS OF GETTING HIS PAPER BEFORE HE MET AND I DID NOT THINK IT WAS FAIR THAT I BECOME A ROAD BLOCK IN HIS LIFE.....I RATHER HIM BE LIVING IN THE STATES LEGALLY WITHOUT ALWAYS LIVING IN FEAR YOU KNOW SO THAT IS WHY I MADE THAT SACRIFICE.....BUT THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED HAS A RESULT ...IM TRYING TO JUST OCCUOY MY SELF...BUT IT'S NOT EASY I MUST CONFESS...WHEN I TOLD HIME TO GO AND MEET SOMEONE WHO WILL I ALSO STOOD BY HIS SIDE AND ASSITED HIM IN TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE TO DO THE DEED ...SO IT'S NOT LIKE I WAS RUDE ABOUT IT ...HE UNDERSTOOD THAT I JUST WANT ED HIM TO HAVE A SECURED LIFE HERE U KNOW....