My answer would be Asa. The name was a dead Give away. Asa's real name is Bukola Elemide and I believe she was brought up in France

Na now you dey know?

I would have to agree with the person who said that they do not exist. Human beings are no where close to perfect so it would be morally wrong to expect them to be so. Take Perfection to be a limit in mathematics. Something can come close to that Limit but not actually get there. I still believe in being romantic but in this nation, I do not think being romantic would survive all the disillusioned women out there. Hence, as much as I would hate to break any hearts here, it pains me to be the one tell most female romantic optimists this, there is no such thing as the one. There is no such thing as 'Prince Charming' (or did the lady really mean 'Prince Having'?). There is also no such thing as 'Mr. perfect', there's only 'Mr. perfect-timing'. For all women out there still waiting for ' Mr. Right', you're only going to find 'Mr. Right-Now!'

Funny how you seem to contradict yourself here. Forgive me for being blunt, but Most Nigerian women do not when they have stepped across the fine line between fashionably permitted 'Shakara and Over doing it. Shakara or not, why does it always require a man spending money as well as time? Fine, waste a man's time is not as bad as wasting both time and money and having him loose both ways when you end up telling him you did not really want him. "shakara' or not will not change the fact that at the end of the day a die hard player's agenda does not change. If he wants to sleep with you, all he needs to do is have the patience of a Tiger on the prowl and the end of the day all the 'Shakara' finally ends up with you giving up what you were desperately protecting. 'Shakara' does not guarantee you anything other than the hollow satisfaction that you did not give in with a fight. You would still give in to the wrong guy if he were patient enough. I have no value for a woman who wastes time and money. Women just resort to the so-called Shakara to give themselves the illusion of the same kind of Power that Woman back in the 19th century had. For heaven's sake, this is the 21st Century. If the guy is sincere, your 'Shakara' may well drive him away and leave you vulnerable to a desperate guy would stalk you to the ends of the earth like a hungry tiger till he gets what he wants and believe me when I say that it does not concern matters of the heart. Tigers have no use for the bones of the animals that they eat after they have had their fill, Remember that!

What are we supposed to do here? If she does not want the guy in a long-distance relationship, then that is her prerogative. Even if the guy is as caring you say he is the lady's choice is paramount here. there is nothing anyone here or even you can do. You have to let her have her way. If it is one that will not augur well for her, you cannot do jack about it. The advice I have here is let her have her way and hope that it is the best decision for her happiness.

Sorry to say this, but all you can do is convince your girlfriend to terminate the pregnancy and focus on your wife or manage two children on two different fronts.

I am really not a fan of generalization here but I feel the poverty factor being the reason why Most Nigerian girls make money a prerequisite in relationships has been over-blown. Not all Nigerian Girls are Bad eggs. There are Good ones still out there. But on the whole the  average Oyinbo Babe (borrowing the poster's language) is more likely to love you for who you are than the average Nigerian Babe. I may end hurting a few female sensitivities but that's the truth. Most Nigerian Girls, when the situation is looked at closely do not need these Money bags that they date for money to get three square meals a day. That is why I said that Poverty being the reason for why Nigerian Girls make money as an important prerequisite has been over-blown. Technically, there is a significant Greed factor involved here. I would rather date a girl who does not want me to buy her an N97 phone before she agrees to date me (More likely to be the white Girl) than one who sees Me buying an N97 as a 'non-refundable relationship processing fee' to see whether I will make a good boyfriend or Husband then to have my chances crushed when she sees a guy who will get her a Blackberry Torch. I am sorry to say this but Nigerians have invented the principle of the highest bidder gets all the goods! 

OK, Bad move for you! Though I would say here that the girl was having a little bit of the Rebound syndrome. You have a big keg of gun powder on your hands here. though coming clean and telling your friend  means He may end up hating you and never trusting you again. It is a big risk and though I would advise you to tell him, I am really not sure of the eventual outcome other than what I just told you. I decided not join the Blame forum (I'm quite sure a lot of people including yourself  have already been chastising you over the issue). On the other hand telling him would make the Girlfriend the scape goat. Either way the Relationship between the Guy and the girl and possibly you is going to hit the rocks really hard!

It is only Bad for Men who think that the lady only has Sex as the Best She can Offer. Saving the Best for Last does not mean the Man is going to be there long after he has slept with you. Sex on a first Date would intrigue me about the girl. Most Men are only looking for Sex from a Girl which is why a good number of Girls delay Sex for at least three weeks to a month before giving in to him. What if he is the kind who looses interest as soon as he has had you? It is a risk I know but, if a girl has more than the sex I  had on the first date, I would definitely want to find out more about her. Besides, Dating in Nigeria can be rather costly so, they guy wants to save himself further cost of running the relationship by bedding the girl as soon as possible and maybe finding another alternative. Though, the lady may want to be careful about delaying too much and having the man spend far more than is needed and then loses interest or resorts to drugging the girl and molesting her when he finds out she is more interested in 'Jollofing' than getting to know him

Like someone already said, everyone has a choice. The primary issue in a marriage for most men is sex. More exact issue here is whether the man is getting enough of it or the quality of the sex in the marriage. The average girl who would be far too shy to discuss the man's segxwal needs and we all know that when most men don't get what they need in the home, the wife will have to worry about him straying outside the home in search of it. A prostitute usually has no qualms asking what you need in Bed (which I suspect would the main issue for this guy here). So, I would say that this Guy has a problem that He feels most Normal Women would be far too shy deal with it and I'm quite sure that He feels only a prostitute would be able to handle his sex needs better than a normal woman. Then again, why doesn't he find himself a Nympho?

Most girls have a tendency to be Good Girls. So, out of boredom, they all want to take a walk on the wild side by going for Bad boy, the ultimate temptation that their Mothers warned them about. Bad Boys are very skilled at knowing how to handle women and sweep them off their feet. But, they (women) fail to notice the dark side to falling for Bad Boys, which is the lack of Fidelity in the relationship which means you may end up contesting the Bad Boy's attentions with an Army of other girlfriends who may end up overthrowing you in his heart.

Some would say that it is wrong, especially in an emotionally 'Stone-age' Society like Nigeria. I do not see anything wrong in that. But, women really have to consider the fact that you expect a man who likes you desperately to make the first move (Not that he is guaranteed to succeed). why not reverse the situation and judge for yourselves? if you like a guy, why wait for him to make the first move and a 'Sharp' girl take him away (It is the same thing guys worry about with women). they say that 'What's good for the Goose is good for the Gander'. Hence, what applies to one side also holds true for the other. Ladies, Wooing is not just male territory anymore.

Women want to equals with men but, they do not want to adopt the role of what it is like being a man. Wearing a crown is one thing, taking Royal responsibilities is another kettle of fish. Wake up, people! This is the 21st Century. The age of equality. Now that it is normal for women to have traditional male roles in society, why is everyone now crying 'blue murder' about women making the first move in a relationship? I respect women who can tell me they like me first rather than some desperately traditional and boring girl who needs her mind made up for her by a man has to do everything first before she follows suit.

Most Girls are Guilty of always showing off their boyfriends like a new car or a prize Bull to their friends so they can be the source of Envy among their friends. This is notable in a situation where the man is rich and good-looking or influential. Don't be surprised when you find Flies on your food if you display it too much. Some times you have to watch the kind of friends you make. You're extremely lucky to have a man who would not cheat on you. Most men would have slept with your friend and lied to you about the whole time. This is a lesson to watch the kind of friends you expose your lover to

When a girl asks you to be 'Honest' with her, What she does not tell you is that she really is not interested hearing the truth unless it feels like Honey to her ears. However, try to be honest without always telling the truth. Try to amend the truth to make it look nice and she'll like it.

For some people, it is enjoyment. For others, a Job. The straight answer is that it is both!

Most women have the impression that when they express themselves in Bed, the Lover thinks that they are Wayward or Loose. No man in this age likes a log of Wood for a lover (except he arrived in this New Millennium by Time Machine from the precolonial Days). I like a woman who lets me how she's feeling during sex. talk to her and also trying expressing yourself as well by moaning or grunting. Maybe she'll get the message and starting doing the same

Anyone who is insecure enough to start demanding your partners details like  face-book and Yahoo passwords should not be surprised when they find exactly what they are looking for. Don't summon the Devil as a prank and think that there will not be consequences when he appears. You have two choices: Call of the whole relationship and find someone else or confront him and tell him you will not take that kind of thing from him and hope he changes. However, the latter option may only make him become more secretive and find better ways to hide whatever it is you accuse him of doing

You're welcome!

At the risk of endangering immature audiences, I have no issues with kissing in public.