Staying a relationship is not that difficult. It depends on the man you expect to stay in the relationship. If you're expecting a player or a ladies man to stay in a relationship, then sorry Lady, you're barking up the wrong tree. Most women have a 'savior' complex. They go and find themselves a player and feel that they have to 'save' him and then reform him for themselves instead looking for the nice, boring 'simple Simon' who will worship the ground that they walk on. Most players that women date is because the women want the 'Red Carpet' treatment from a guy who will spoil them. They forget that the treatment comes with an 'expiry ' date (the player moves on to find 'greener' pastures after he tires of you)

Welcome to the Materialistic World of Women. Women have less testosterone than men. They tend to be more of the ones who want the 'Finer things' in life. Such things like a married and secure life and all the monetary comforts that come with it. For us men, we all have an urge to satisfy due to the hormone, Testosterone and we sometimes go to rather ridiculous lengths to do it like even giving ridiculous gifts that if 'Konji' were not to blame, we would not give. However, women love sex too. They just let us men have the lead since we started showing strong interest in it first.

Sorry, Players have what it takes to sweep a girl off her feet I feel that's why. Problem is women also want a guy who is faithful to just them (something which large number of players are incapable of being). So, the question most girls need to ask themselves is: is looking for a player for a lover worth all the heartache that comes after wards? Or should I just look for a Nice 'Simple Simon' who does not have a flair for being a player but will be faithful to me?

Who ever said fear is the reason why they do not want to leave an abusive relationship may want to forgive me if I disagree. Women have always had an attraction for the socially forbidden or morally unavailable. Anyone has the will to change anything they do not want and women are no exception. Any woman in an abusive relationship is there largely by choice. Sorry to say this but, women do not like nice guys. Like horses, they believe they must be 'tamed and conquered' before they yield themselves to a guy. Not every guy who tames you before he wins your heart is interested in a long-term relationship with you. I you place yourself like a prize for the highest bidder, there's a good chance that the highest bidder may not be the most qualified. Remember, you do not have to cook every food before you eat it. Not every woman needs a flamboyant man who must chase her before she gives him her heart

The Average Lady dreams of being Finding a Well to do Husband and becoming a responsible Wife. After the Wedding, She says 'Mission Accomplished!' She then settles down to the her Idea of a responsible wife. She has a couple of children and then throws a the idea of having fun in a Marriage out of the window. The result is that she becomes about 5 times as fat as what she was on 1-3 years after the wedding. The Husband who was hoping that the slim, Sexy woman he married who stay that way for the rest of their lives would be horrified at the Elephant-sized human sharing his bed with him. The next problem that the woman would have to deal with as putting up with her husband's roving eyes at every woman who looks like his idea of a desirable woman. The main root cause of this problem would be a Diet comprising of Junk Food snacks and no exercise whatsoever. Marriage does not mean a man or woman stops looking sexy. If you riding a bicycle, you stop moving when you stop peddling

I hope the house will forgive me for questioning the motives of the wife for asking for a matured male house help. what's good for the goose is equally good for the gander. If the wife is afraid that her husband will playing 'Ekaette', what's to stop her from playing behind the husband's back?

Not many Nigerian Girls attach any significance to flowers. In fact, out of 10, I would say a dismal 1 or 2 would appreciate that. If she's the average Nigerian Girl, either you get her a frame or some ornamental Gift or take her out.

It depends on the two parties feel about each other. Virgin or Non-Virgin really doesn't decide the level of fidelity of either party. Virgins can still go buck wild after their first segxwal experience. The emphasis men place on their wives being virgins is mostly due to the fact that they cannot stand the fact that the woman was intimate with another man before them and also that Virgins tend to have Tighter honeypots. The whole issue has been overly moralized and overrated.

Life is an interesting Journey so says a musician called TI. You never know what could be waiting for you around the next corner. while most people like to be on top of their game by preferring to be the ones doing the 'Dumping' rather being 'Dumped', you never can completely control your heart anymore than you can choose who you may end up loving. Love is never a predictable emotion. Most people do not even know they have fallen in love until it is virtually too late. Unfortunately, being in love puts you at the mercy of the other party, leaving you vulnerable to being 'Dumped' when the person suddenly tires of you. Being dumped can happen to anyone. Besides, whatever does not kill you, should make you stronger. Being Dumped does not mark the end of your life. It is simply a signpost along the road on your life's journey. Get over it and move on. People who take being too seriously should try not to 'make mountains out of molehills'. Your getting dumped means you just found someone who is not worthy of you.

If the Girl and the Guy are Intimate, I really don't see a problem with that

Blame it the normal African Stigma relating to Age. Women respect older Guys more and Most guys do not like Older women. Would you prefer a man call you 'Old Cargo'?

You win some, You lose some. Hard Luck, Bros! Just move on. She ain't the only girl on the planet

Hate to break it to you this way but, there's a saying that 'when hunters learn to shoot without missing, Birds learn to fly without landing'. I may have an idea of how much you love this girl but, what makes you think getting her pregnant will stop her from cheating on you if she really wants to? (God forbid that she does). If she loves you like you love her, that would be completely unnecessary. Besides, why play into her hands like that? That pregnancy Rouse is the oldest strategy in the book and seems to be losing its efficacy with every passing day. If she finds out that you were trying to tie her down with your baby, odds are she may end up hating you. Put yourself in her shoes and imagine how you would feel if a girl tries to tie you down with a pregnancy. Loving something does not mean wanting to keep it with you at all cost. God loved human beings a lot but, not enough to force them into choosing salvation against their will. One of the greatest gifts of love is freedom.

Everyone was born innocent. No one can be spoilt without their permission. That's why there's a word in the dictionary called 'No' which you should use if you like the way things are going. You can choose to remain unspoiled for as long as you want unless you either hang with the wrong crowd or deliberately choose not to use the word 'No' when you should. You can change your ways if you want. It is simply a question of will power and being with the right people.

I would prefer to think of the definition of a prostitute as being relative. Most people define 'Prostitutes' as people who sell sex in exchange for money. Whether the prostitute is based in a Brothel or a Street walker. They are all being looked down on as being Despicable. They are bad eggs in society. But why wouldn't anyone try and think of what made them take such a path in Life? Even more, What would you call all the ladies who work in Banks and have to bring in Rich Clients by having to sleep with them? Or others who are go about sleeping with Money Bags for contracts? Or the ladies who have to sleep with Men to get cars, Blackberries and other items for people to know that they are the 'Happening' Girls on Campus? (He out of ye who is without sin, let him cast the first stone).  I may not condone what most prostitutes do but, try to put yourself in their shoes before you send them to Jail.

Women are Materialistic yes. But, forgive me if I say that is only half the story being told here. A woman may be with a man who has all the money in the world to give but still plays around with other men. In that light, how would you explain that? The only explanation is that women are just about as complex as men. They are all born with a mischievous Streak. When Eve ate the Forbidden fruit, people should have considered some basic questions. The garden of Eden is a very big place. that means she was very near the tree with the fruit when she heard the serpent. What was she doing there? Men are mischievous but so are women. that sense of mischief always shows around guys they like after they must have been with another because he could afford their material wants. Emotional needs are, however ,another matter and may not be always met by the Money Provider. So, Hence they start going after other men. They are no Holier than Men are (Apologies to all the Ladies in the house but this is true considering what I have seen). Just like a moth is attracted naked flame despite the danger, Women always are attracted to bad guys based on a 'Savior' complex (They know that he is the Boy that mummy and Daddy warned them about but their attraction still makes them want to 'save' him). Money is largely a secondary issue when one looks closely at any relationship. When the Girl gets the money that she needs she starts noticing all the person's imperfections. Women usually get bored with Nice Guys and when they cannot find a plausible reason to end the relationship they look for openings to start being around other guys (who they see as more interesting due to the fact that the other guy is surrounded by other girls). Largely, Infidelity in women is based more on men they like than money being provided by the ones they are just 'Tolerating'

Women are Materialistic yes. But, forgive me if I say that is only half the story being told here. A woman may be with a man who has all the money in the world to give but still plays around with other men. In that light, how would you explain that? The only explanation is that women are just about as complex as men. They are all born with a mischievous Streak. When Eve ate the Forbidden fruit, people should have considered some basic questions. The garden of Eden is a very big place. that means she was very near the tree with the fruit when she heard the serpent. What was she doing there? Men are mischievous but so are women. that sense of mischief always shows around guys they like after they must have been with another because he could afford their material wants. Emotional needs are, however ,another matter and may not be always met by the Money Provider. So, Hence they start going after other men. They are no Holier than Men are (Apologies to all the Ladies in the house but this is true considering what I have seen). Just like a moth is attracted naked flame despite the danger, Women always are attracted to bad guys based on a 'Savior' complex (They know that he is the Boy that mummy and Daddy warned them about but their attraction still makes them want to 'save' him). Money is largely a secondary issue when one looks closely at any relationship. When the Girl gets the money that she needs she starts noticing all the person's imperfections. Women usually get bored with Nice Guys and when they cannot find a plausible reason to end the relationship they look for openings to start being around other guys (who they see as more interesting due to the fact that the other guy is surrounded by other girls). Largely, Infidelity in women is based more on men they like than money being provided by the ones they are just 'Tolerating'

Women are Materialistic yes. But, forgive me if I say that is only half the story being told here. A woman may be with a man who has all the money in the world to give but still plays around with other men. In that light, how would you explain that? The only explanation is that women are just about as complex as men. They are all born with a mischievous Streak. When Eve ate the Forbidden fruit, people should have considered some basic questions. The garden of Eden is a very big place. that means she was very near the tree with the fruit when she heard the serpent. What was she doing there? Men are mischievous but so are women. that sense of mischief always shows around guys they like after they must have been with another because he could afford their material wants. Emotional needs are, however ,another matter and may not be always met by the Money Provider. So, Hence they start going after other men. They are no Holier than Men are (Apologies to all the Ladies in the house but this is true considering what I have seen). Just like a moth is attracted naked flame despite the danger, Women always are attracted to bad guys based on a 'Savior' complex (They know that he is the Boy that mummy and Daddy warned them about but their attraction still makes them want to 'save' him). Money is largely a secondary issue when one looks closely at any relationship. When the Girl gets the money that she needs she starts noticing all the person's imperfections. Women usually get bored with Nice Guys and when they cannot find a plausible reason to end the relationship they look for openings to start being around other guys (who they see as more interesting due to the fact that the other guy is surrounded by other girls). Largely, Infidelity in women is based more on men they like than money being provided by the ones they are just 'Tolerating'

No, I don't think it is a crime for a girl to spend on a man. But unfortunately, we live in the stone age in this part of the world. So, it will always be one-way
traffic. So, women expect men to do all the calling, the spending and everything that conerns monetery responsibilties.

Forgive me for lending my voice to say the obvious, everybody here is right. She's using you as a meal ticket. Nigger, you've got 2 choices: either you bale out or get your share of ass and dump her!