I wonder sometimes if this so called "relationship" that we seek is simply a distraction from our lives and our purposes here. What do we gain from relationships that allow us to become better people? Do relationships truly bring out the best in us? When they end in divorce do we take responsibility for our part in it and move on our true path in life? I wonder what young children learn from watching us adults fumble in relationships.
Are relationships a distraction from our true purpose in life?
You sound cynical (but so do I most of the time). Relationships, in my opinion, aren't really a "distraction". There is a purpose for relationships...which is to learn. You might say "but learn what?"...to learn what to do and what not to do when it's time for God to actually bring you into the position where the person you meet is intended to be in your life as a wife/husband. Sounds like bullshit...but its the truth. If you were never in a relationship, how would u know if you're in love? Wouldn't it suck to be with someone for so long only to realize you didn't actually love them? I'm talking about REAL love...not that stupid shit like "oh baby...i think about u everyday" or "I love kissing you" blah blah. This is what relationships do...they simply teach you.
The problem with people is that they think EVERY relationship they get into is going to be permanent...which is a lie. Relationships are equal to the people in your life. Not every one is going to work...but every one is definitely going to teach you or influence your views on certain aspects of your life.
The point of life is to learn and grow. Avoiding relationships is counter-productive to this. Take everything (enjoyment, heartbreak, etc) as it is and use it to GROW. Eventually....eventually, (assuming you learn well from your experiences) you'll be in a position where you'll begin to focus on courtships rather than relationships.