5 Reasons 2Get Married: 5 Reasons Not 2Get Married

Date: 11-05-2012 1:19 pm (12 years ago) | Author: uduak Sophia Monday
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Getting married is once in a lifetime decision for many people. When people wish to get married, invariably all of them expect a full life together. Very few would think of marriage as a short-term exercise. Hence, it is very much necessary that all aspects of a life together be fully analyzed before tying the knot. Usually men and women tend to have different perspectives about married life. It would be better to have open and honest discussion to sort out the possible future irritants or at least understand them so that some sort of compromise could be arrived at. The reasons that a man looks at while desiring to marry her are in-numerous. However, a few of them top the list in order of priority. For most men, the need of a woman in life is necessitated by the motherly love that he had received in his early life. He needs a woman who can show him the same love and who could fulfill his physical and emotional needs. That is why many men look for the same qualities in a woman that their mothers possess. The second reason is to have a lifetime companion, who can share his desires and needs. The third reason is love. When a man feels that he loves a particular woman, he wants to own her fully. This might appear to be a wrong reason but that is the way humans are made. Everybody likes to possess what he or she desires and human relationships are no different. In some cases, the man might marry a woman because she has become pregnant and is carrying his child. Certain men wish to marry a woman who is having the same career as his, so that they would be able to adapt to each other better. It is quite usual for a doctor to marry a doctor and a lawyer to marry a lawyer. They would be able to understand the work pattern and the workload of each other. However, few others are very particular that the woman is having a different profession, so that their interests do not clash. This choice depends on the outlook of the individual.



Men Marry women for the following main reasons:
* The wish to continue the motherly love received in childhood.
* Desire to have a lifetime companion.
* The love the man has for the woman.
* The woman having become pregnant by him.
* To have a woman who has a similar career for easier adaptability.

However Women also marry men for nearly the same reasons. However, one important reason that women have in marriage is to escape from parents that they do not like or from a parent who is abusive. Sometimes, men also marry for this reason but the number is much lesser than women.

Women marry Men for the following Main reasons:
* Wish to escape from parents.
* Desire to have a lifetime companion.
* Love for the man.
* Having become pregnant by the man.
* To have a man having a similar career for easier adaptability.

The reasons for getting married are quite obvious. On the other hand, the reasons for not getting married are much more complicated. In fact, it would be difficult to mention reasons for not getting married. There are several jokes about marriage but nearly all of them are at the expense of the woman. There should be some strong reasons for that. Probably, the main reasons are the innumerable needs that women have that drain the purse of a man and the continuous nagging that women indulge in after marriage. One joke says that a successful man is one who can make more money than his wife spends but a successful woman is one who finds such a man. Many women tend to nag the men too much after marriage. They try to compare their husbands with other men who are more successful in life, which is resented by the husbands. Wives also tend to give free advice to men as to what they should and should not do, which is also not liked by many men.

Infidelity is one more reason that could harm the institution of marriage. Both men and women, who are quite possessive, would be repelled when they come to know about extra-marital relationships, leading to separation. Physical incompatibility is the cause for break-up in several cases. Even loss of interest in segxwal relationship after some time could lead to a break-up of the marriage. Finally, the conflict in tastes and interests that appeared insignificant before the marriage starts to take a larger picture in married life. Disagreements increase, resulting in final separation.

Even though it would look absurd if i list reasons for not getting married, i could list the reasons that break-up marriage. Grin

* Over-spending by the wife and living beyond the man his income
* Continuous nagging, comparing the man to others more successful, and giving unwarranted advice
* Infidelity
* Physical incompatibility or sharp decrease in segxwal interest
* Conflict in tastes and interests leading to disagreements and fight


Whats Your Take On this?



Posted: at 11-05-2012 01:19 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- jossy4reall at 11-05-2012 01:25 PM (12 years ago)
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Sophie pls can u tell me all dis in just 1 sentence den I wil knw my take on it

Posted: at 11-05-2012 01:25 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Andersonhardwoo at 11-05-2012 02:00 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: jossy4reall on 11-05-2012 01:25 PM
Sophie pls can u tell me all dis in just 1 sentence den I wil knw my take on it
If it were a test would be able to do that?
Posted: at 11-05-2012 02:00 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Beauti4 at 11-05-2012 04:19 PM (12 years ago)
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WOWW..... I didn't see this....its all good. I really love this so much. But talk more abt d reason men don't want to marry you. I know they don't like when a lady don't smell nice. It really turned them off. But a man who wants u will still tell you and suggest u do something about it. So plz gist us about Reason Men Don't Want To Marry

And thanks. You've been a sweet pals for years. God bless you my dear.
Posted: at 11-05-2012 04:19 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-05-2012 04:30 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 11-05-2012 04:19 PM
WOWW..... I didn't see this....its all good. I really love this so much. But talk more abt d reason men don't want to marry you. I know they don't like when a lady don't smell nice. It really turned them off. But a man who wants u will still tell you and suggest u do something about it. So plz gist us about Reason Men Don't Want To Marry

And thanks. You've been a sweet pals for years. God bless you my dear.

ok.. thanks a bunches  Cheesy

Posted: at 11-05-2012 04:30 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Beauti4 at 11-05-2012 04:36 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 11-05-2012 04:30 PM
ok.. thanks a bunches  Cheesy

You wellykum. So when r u goin to tell us about the other topic?  Roll Eyes
Posted: at 11-05-2012 04:36 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-05-2012 04:41 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 11-05-2012 04:36 PM
You wellykum. So when r u goin to tell us about the other topic?  Roll Eyes

lolssssssssssss i no get any topic for now..just have reasons


Most Men Dont Want 2 marry for the following main Reasons:

*They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past.
*They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabitating rather than marrying.
*They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
*They face few social pressures to marry.
*They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t appeared yet.
*They want to wait until they are older to have children.
*They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
*They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.
*They want to own a house before they get a wife.
*They want to enjoy single life for as long as possible.

Posted: at 11-05-2012 04:41 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Beauti4 at 11-05-2012 04:53 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 11-05-2012 04:41 PM
lolssssssssssss i no get any topic for now..just have reasons


Most Men Dont Want 2 marry for the following main Reasons:

*They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past.
*They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabitating rather than marrying.
*They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
*They face few social pressures to marry.
*They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t appeared yet.
*They want to wait until they are older to have children.
*They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
*They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.
*They want to own a house before they get a wife.
*They want to enjoy single life for as long as possible.

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin thanks a lot. These are all true. Sex is so beary cheap to afford these for men.  Portacourt lady. Ndewo!  Grin
Posted: at 11-05-2012 04:53 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-05-2012 04:55 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 11-05-2012 04:53 PM
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin thanks a lot. These are all true. Sex is so beary cheap to afford these for men.  Portacourt lady. Ndewo!  Grin

I greet u ma

Posted: at 11-05-2012 04:55 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Bettygirls at 11-05-2012 05:01 PM (12 years ago)
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ok
Posted: at 11-05-2012 05:01 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Beauti4 at 11-05-2012 05:02 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 11-05-2012 04:55 PM
I greet u ma

HUH. Ok I greet you sir. Take care!
Posted: at 11-05-2012 05:02 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- franel at 11-05-2012 05:13 PM (12 years ago)
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The story is too lenghty, no time to read. I'll try later

Posted: at 11-05-2012 05:13 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Sexymi at 11-05-2012 05:18 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 11-05-2012 04:19 PM
WOWW..... I didn't see this....its all good. I really love this so much. But talk more abt d reason men don't want to marry you. I know they don't like when a lady don't smell nice. It really turned them off. But a man who wants u will still tell you and suggest u do something about it. So plz gist us about Reason Men Don't Want To Marry

And thanks. You've been a sweet pals for years. God bless you my dear.


Gud one girl, but the question in red needs an answer
Posted: at 11-05-2012 05:18 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- jossy4reall at 11-05-2012 06:18 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Andersonhardwoo on 11-05-2012 02:00 PM
If it were a test would be able to do that?



if na test den u go give me expo naa

Posted: at 11-05-2012 06:18 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- babydesire at 11-05-2012 06:25 PM (12 years ago)
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mmmmm  i c........ r u sure???bcos marriage has already been ordained by GOD. so dis one wey dey talk na worldly assumptions..
Posted: at 11-05-2012 06:25 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- osamabinladin at 11-05-2012 06:27 PM (12 years ago)
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Una don hear ?
Posted: at 11-05-2012 06:27 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- frank_f at 11-05-2012 06:32 PM (12 years ago)
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i never plan of getting married now, so i don't need to know about this motherphyuker!!!
Posted: at 11-05-2012 06:32 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Solidstonez at 11-05-2012 07:18 PM (12 years ago)
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OK

Posted: at 11-05-2012 07:18 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- mizcollins1 at 11-05-2012 07:22 PM (12 years ago)
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nice1 soph
Posted: at 11-05-2012 07:22 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- GreenBee at 11-05-2012 07:24 PM (12 years ago)
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Tooo much i cnt read, next
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