12 Reasons why (most) women don’t like dating nice guys

Date: 09-01-2013 11:23 am (8 years ago) | Author: uduak Sophia Monday
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- at 9-01-2013 11:23 AM (8 years ago)
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Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys. Here’s why.

1. Not real. Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.” Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.



2. Respect. No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.

4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

5. Fixer-upper. Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

6. Sperm wars. Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

8. Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.

9. Sex. Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Hot. Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot.”

11. Charm. Nice guys don’t always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. Protection. Historically, men have protected women physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.


Posted: at 9-01-2013 11:23 AM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- winace at 9-01-2013 12:16 PM (8 years ago)
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U are very rite my dear
Posted: at 9-01-2013 12:16 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- osamabinladin at 9-01-2013 12:34 PM (8 years ago)
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Noted with caution, because there have been a war going on about a certain post. Grin Grin Grin
Posted: at 9-01-2013 12:34 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- dickman2 at 9-01-2013 12:39 PM (8 years ago)
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nice one ..
Posted: at 9-01-2013 12:39 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- pakal at 9-01-2013 12:49 PM (8 years ago)
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old skool,being bad boy dnt makes one phisically strong or strong in bed. bad boyz are irresponsible, smoke marijuana and dont think of future,, this post is for lit gurlz. real mature responsible ladies goes for responsible and nice boyz for a successful future
Posted: at 9-01-2013 12:49 PM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- paulohking at 9-01-2013 12:54 PM (8 years ago)
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ok, ok
Posted: at 9-01-2013 12:54 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- kelvin500 at 9-01-2013 01:07 PM (8 years ago)
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rubbish,a girl that likes a bad boy who could get in trouble anytime,make her cry,get in jail,d rather make her spend all her time caring for him instead of doing better things,a guy u can't tust because you know he might be in bed with another woman anytime is just a fool.this is why they complain of heart break here,heart break there,guys are the same,bla bla bla.such a girl is just foolish and they usually regret it in most cases.
Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:07 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Swtezvikky at 9-01-2013 01:20 PM (8 years ago)
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All na stories
Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:20 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- lanudja at 9-01-2013 01:51 PM (8 years ago)
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Really?
Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:51 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- micc at 9-01-2013 01:54 PM (8 years ago)
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Ok
Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:54 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- chicco77 at 9-01-2013 01:56 PM (8 years ago)
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 Cool Kiss
Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:56 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- FinlandGuy at 9-01-2013 01:57 PM (8 years ago)
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MBC ACTION  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:57 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 9-01-2013 01:59 PM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: osamabinladin on  9-01-2013 12:34 PM
Noted with caution, because there have been a war going on about a certain post. Grin Grin Grin

them go sleep on that post.. and na confirmed truth the poster talk

Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:59 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Sophyrocks at 9-01-2013 02:23 PM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: pakal on  9-01-2013 12:49 PM
old skool,being bad boy dnt makes one phisically strong or strong in bed. bad boyz are irresponsible, smoke marijuana and dont think of future,, this post is for lit gurlz. real mature responsible ladies goes for responsible and nice boyz for a successful future
tnx bro! D post is 4 little girls. Bt as 4 me, MBANU!! A nice guy is 4 me anytym. Funny enof, nice guys get attractd 2 me a lot.

Posted: at 9-01-2013 02:23 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- trapheal at 9-01-2013 02:24 PM (8 years ago)
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I have read an article like this before in this site...  Undecided
Posted: at 9-01-2013 02:24 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Sophyrocks at 9-01-2013 02:25 PM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: kelvin500 on  9-01-2013 01:07 PM
rubbish,a girl that likes a bad boy who could get in trouble anytime,make her cry,get in jail,d rather make her spend all her time caring for him instead of doing better things,a guy u can't tust because you know he might be in bed with another woman anytime is just a fool.this is why they complain of heart break here,heart break there,guys are the same,bla bla bla.such a girl is just foolish and they usually regret it in most cases.
very gud. U jst spoke ma mind dude. 4 dis, u wil get a nice girl. Say 'AMEN'!

Posted: at 9-01-2013 02:25 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- charmingzeo at 9-01-2013 03:27 PM (8 years ago)
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I do not agree wit most of the statement i read above.....being a "BAD BOY" does not show any sign of a responsible person....yes itz good to b nasty and show sum sort of ur real colors atimes..that does't mean u must portray being a badt boi....those who claim to b badt boiz wit sum dead dumbarse swags thinking they're hot and the girls are falling are noting buh *IDIATz*

and am so sorry for girls that feel they're having fun hanging out wif the badt boy(s)......immorality, deceit, frustration, disqualified, unworthy, fruitless, mannerless, useless, unimportant, abusive, imbalanced, untrusted etc individuals who claim to be badt are mere fools....and i wonder why any responsible matured lady in her right senses would love to entangled wif the so=called badt boys....only little cheap girlz do such, not matured ladies....and

mind u

Nice guys are good in bed, am a nice guy, so try me i assure u triplet hahaha (u think sey kiping that thin gentle na joke, instead of abusing evrytin under skirt haaar!!).....nice guys are capable of protecting any woman, nice guys can do lot of things that sum lunatic badt boy(s) can't do....

Bad boy are claiming to b bad and interesting wen they are not, they love showing off in anytin easily.......b4 u call sum1 the real nice guy, he gatz ginger hiz niceness wif sum sort of swags, thatz wassup not some always moody guy......... and and and and and......details to large.....am not ready to start an argument........

So forget that notion.....bad boys are always loosers......
Posted: at 9-01-2013 03:27 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- dabattleaxe at 9-01-2013 03:34 PM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: pakal on  9-01-2013 12:49 PM
old skool,being bad boy dnt makes one phisically strong or strong in bed. bad boyz are irresponsible, smoke marijuana and dont think of future,, this post is for lit gurlz. real mature responsible ladies goes for responsible and nice boyz for a successful future

Like say I near you, I for lick ur nose! I don't need to wear a tattoo, carry locks, sag my jeans or do all sorts to impress but the taste of a lovely meal is in eating. I subscribe to a nice cool gentleman who knows his onion and knows exactly how to dot his i's and cross his t's  and this has nothing to do with beeing a bad boy. What father wants a rogue for a son in-law.  
Posted: at 9-01-2013 03:34 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ela214 at 9-01-2013 03:35 PM (8 years ago)
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 Grin Grin Cheesy Cheesy i like them nice n wild.
Posted: at 9-01-2013 03:35 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Senegal at 9-01-2013 03:36 PM (8 years ago)
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Well, you are right somehow
Posted: at 9-01-2013 03:36 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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