Women who retain their father's name after marriage.

Agree. Totally

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Posted: at 26-04-2009 11:40 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I CONCUR...

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Posted: at 26-04-2009 11:43 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero

it has already be done...and guess what? nobody won!



poster....sorry i don't agree ... brb for my reasons

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Posted: at 27-04-2009 01:03 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

@posterlike i said b4...idon'tagree...well it can be something d couple have to decide...what's bad if i add my middle name

wait a minute....If a man truly becomes one' with his woman through marriage why does she have to take his name?What stops them from combining names? instead of one taking up d other's name?
Does a woman's roots have to be buried under d dotted lines?

Some women choose to have one uniform name because of conditioning and culture, which has over time tied d woman's identity to d man's name..... As a result of this societal norm... stupid laws have been put in place that does not recognize a wife's right to her name.

If we are to go with d argument of keeping to what d law says then why change over from a name that has been on BIRTH CERTIFICATES, HOSPITAL RECORDS, PASSPORTS, DRIVER'S LICENSES and other very defining legal documents to a completely different name after many years of her life?

How many names and identities does a woman have to take and drop in HER life time? Or does she keep adding a new name to the last one each time she remarrys?
or lets assume u get married and u have only gurls...no boy to carry ur name along... will u allow ur surname to die like that?

i rest my case with a question

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Posted: at 27-04-2009 01:42 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

huh? what are u talking about

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Posted: at 27-04-2009 01:52 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

gimme ur reasons...cuz u didnt make any good reason out of d topic

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Posted: at 27-04-2009 01:56 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

it's common in d  USA for a woman to hyphenate....

eX...mine would be Larea T. C***** - A*******

Posted: at 27-04-2009 02:06 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

wen u decide to leave ur father nd mother to spend d rest of ur entire life wit a man...
there's r certain procedures dat hv to follow before dat happens....
those things r last rites to fully cut off any link wit u nd ur biological family...
then transfer nd intergret u wit ur new family via matrimony....
dat automatically severs any link btw u nd ur biological family....
nd automatically becomes a visitor in ur father's house......kappish!

Posted: at 27-04-2009 02:31 AM (15 years ago) | Hero

abeg ah, wetin all dis. the woman is suppose to change her name. y change it after all these decades? things may b different now a days, but the man is the head, even tho he may not b. so if u get married change ur last name. if u dnt wanna go thru the process of changing ur license, birth certificate, etc, make sure u only get married ONCE

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Posted: at 27-04-2009 02:48 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

huh?...lol what thats? is that some kinda trade or something? are u buying ur wife that she has to cut off every link with her and her family.

The changing of a woman's last name because of marriage only makes sense when operating under the law "that a woman is a piece of a man's real estate".... as women were once considered....but today women rights have evolved ten fold since then and women now have the right to decide whether they will take on their husbands name....

@erikaakpan babe i'm not saying i won't change...i'm only saying i can add my maiden name...but Geez!!!
Your maiden name is a REPRESENTATION of where u came from. It links u to ur heritage and family members from years gone by. Taking on a new name can align u to a new heritage and family and some may unnecessarily feel distanced from their own ancestry.

when i came into this world i was given a first name as a form of individual identity and a last name as a shared identity with blood ties.

That is why for me d idea of retaining my individuality makes it very difficult to hand over as part of d contract of matrimony.

for me it's like an act of slavery and oppression on a woman as a wife, who becomes a possession rather being a person in a working partnership of two... with one taking the lead and the other complimenting and completing

@toks-E pls tell him

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Posted: at 27-04-2009 03:46 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac