Help!!! My partner doesn't satisfy me in bed

Published 6 years ago by: uduak Sophia Monday
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at 03:34 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)

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Dear Naijapals, I've been married for three years, but my husband and I have never really been that close in the bedroom. In fact, he acts like a jerk in bed. When he's done, that's it. He never seems to be concerned about me. I know he loves me, but in the bedroom it seems to always be about him. He's never asked me about my likes and dislikes. The truth of the matter is I've never been completely satisfied.

How can I tell him I would like to be more adventurous, and make things better for me, without hurting his ego?

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jossy4reall at 04:05 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Sophie come 2 me naa I will give u the satisfaction dat u ever needed.. Cool
But seriously u really nid to discuss it wit him......find the best time when u use to discuss money matter while on bed wit him......, den replace it wit ur non satisfaction problem during sex.......while still on oral discussion..,u can switch to practical..............start like play..like play and before he can say jack u are on top of him grinding him the way u like....hw about dat........and may be afta dat1 u position ur self in anoda angle which will give him direct entry and ask him to cum in.......but pls make sure u feed him well ooooo...before u lost ur hubby to sex satisfaction

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nwogaraku at 04:14 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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I am now comming to understand that most of Nigerian women made a lot of mistakes in marriage!. Why does most of Nigerian women accepts a marriage request from a man while she knew such a man wasn't enough of whom she's searching for....?. Ya!, you accepted him because you been waiting without seeing anyother man!, you accepted him maybe for his personality or other material values and now you re complaining!. ...Pls ''shut-up'' and face your marriage or quite the marriage and hit the road if it's your wish!!!.
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sophiebaby at 04:37 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: nwogaraku on 04:14 PM,  2/05/2013
I am now comming to understand that most of Nigerian women made a lot of mistakes in marriage!. Why does most of Nigerian women accepts a marriage request from a man while she knew such a man wasn't enough of whom she's searching for....?. Ya!, you accepted him because you been waiting without seeing anyother man!, you accepted him maybe for his personality or other material values and now you re complaining!. ...Pls ''shut-up'' and face your marriage or quite the marriage and hit the road if it's your wish!!!.

easy for the yabis na  Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes

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Liliya at 04:39 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: nwogaraku on 04:14 PM,  2/05/2013
I am now comming to understand that most of Nigerian women made a lot of mistakes in marriage!. Why does most of Nigerian women accepts a marriage request from a man while she knew such a man wasn't enough of whom she's searching for....?. Ya!, you accepted him because you been waiting without seeing anyother man!, you accepted him maybe for his personality or other material values and now you re complaining!. ...Pls ''shut-up'' and face your marriage or quite the marriage and hit the road if it's your wish!!!.

Man, that is some shit you just said. cold, heartless, brutal, senseless, idiotic, rude. You are a totally and completely immature moron who does not know half of what people face in life. What shit do you know about women sexuality and what it takes to really satisfy a woman in bed? do you in your pathetic lack of knowledge know that men and women dont get to orgasm at the same time? If you dont have anything to say, shut your filthy mouth instead of insulting a lady who is facing the same challenge with at least 80% of women around the world! infinite fools like you should be taken to class for appropriate sex education before you open your shity mouth and say what you dont know!  Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry
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sophiebaby at 04:50 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: Liliya on 04:39 PM,  2/05/2013
Man, that is some sh*t you just said. cold, heartless, brutal, senseless, idiotic, rude. You are a totally and completely immature moron who does not know half of what people face in life. What sh*t do you know about women sexuality and what it takes to really satisfy a woman in bed? do you in your pathetic lack of knowledge know that men and women dont get to orgasm at the same time? If you dont have anything to say, shut your filthy mouth instead of insulting a lady who is facing the same challenge with at least 80% of women around the world! infinite fools like you should be taken to class for appropriate sex education before you open your sh*ty mouth and say what you dont know!  Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry

Sweetie.. pls calm down ok.. evryone with his/her own understanding... like u said.. i guess he doesn't rilly..or apparently does not even  know what it takes to satisty a woman in bed....  Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss u spoke well Lilya

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sophiebaby at 04:53 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: jossy4reall on 04:05 PM,  2/05/2013
Sophie come 2 me naa I will give u the satisfaction dat u ever needed.. Cool
But seriously u really nid to discuss it wit him......find the best time when u use to discuss money matter while on bed wit him......, den replace it wit ur non satisfaction problem during sex.......while still on oral discussion..,u can switch to practical..............start like play..like play and before he can say jack u are on top of him grinding him the way u like....hw about dat........and may be afta dat1 u position ur self in anoda angle which will give him direct entry and ask him to cum in.......but pls make sure u feed him well ooooo...before u lost ur hubby to sex satisfaction

my dear!!!!!!!!!! if i dey dis kain condition ..u kw werin i fit do naaaaaaaa..... Hehehehehhe  Tongue  Wink

Thanks for ur advice  Kiss Kiss Kiss

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Idbabe at 05:03 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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When you were courting, how was his performance.  If you were not satisfied then y did u go into the marriage without settling that issue first?
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jossy4reall at 05:08 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 04:53 PM,  2/05/2013
my dear!!!!!!!!!! if i dey dis kain condition ..u kw werin i fit do naaaaaaaa..... Hehehehehhe  Tongue  Wink

Thanks for ur advice  Kiss Kiss Kiss

I trust u...u no dey carry last

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Liliya at 05:12 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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My dear, the best thing to do is to talk to him about it. He may not know that his action is hurting you. Most men dont know it though. you have to teach him. The truth is that Men want to be the champion in all things including satisfying their women. Tell him, he will not be angry with you. He will want to be able to handle you in such a way that he can comfortably brag to his fellows that he can blow his wife's mind in bed with sex. It is a terrible experience when your man cant satisfy you. Sucks big time!  Cheesy
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Liliya at 05:17 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 04:50 PM,  2/05/2013
Sweetie.. pls calm down ok.. evryone with his/her own understanding... like u said.. i guess he doesn't rilly..or apparently does not even  know what it takes to satisty a woman in bed....  Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss u spoke well Lilya

I feel ya Soph...... Wink Grin
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sophiebaby at 05:32 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: Liliya on 05:12 PM,  2/05/2013
My dear, the best thing to do is to talk to him about it. He may not know that his action is hurting you. Most men dont know it though. you have to teach him. The truth is that Men want to be the champion in all things including satisfying their women. Tell him, he will not be angry with you. He will want to be able to handle you in such a way that he can comfortably brag to his fellows that he can blow his wife's mind in bed with sex. It is a terrible experience when your man cant satisfy you. Sucks big time!  Cheesy

good one dear...  Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss

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sophiebaby at 05:40 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: Idbabe on 05:03 PM,  2/05/2013
When you were courting, how was his performance.  If you were not satisfied then y did u go into the marriage without settling that issue first?

sis she nor dey here to answer ya kweshun na.. na advice she need

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sophiebaby at 05:48 PM, 2/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: jossy4reall on 05:08 PM,  2/05/2013
I trust u...u no dey carry last

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

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Idbabe at 08:59 AM, 3/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 05:40 PM,  2/05/2013
sis she nor dey here to answer ya kweshun na.. na advice she need

Tell her to sit him down and explain her feelings to him, who knows he might improve and do better.
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sophiebaby at 12:14 PM, 3/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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okies

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osarobo62 at 03:20 PM, 3/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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 Grin Grin Grin Grin so just lower your satisfaction level and then he will meet it  Cheesy Cheesy. (just kidding)
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osarobo62 at 03:48 PM, 3/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Ladies, this problem is not always the man,s fault. Men and women don't achieve orgasm at the same pace.
generally, men climax first because of organ sensitivity and we do more thrusting during love making.
so when you have this problem, you can help the situation by
A) Prolong the foreplay  so as to build more excitement and tension
B) play with yourself before your man joins you for the second half
C) during love making, make more waist or hip thrusting than your man
D) sit on top of him while having sex (just don't crush him) Wink and take charge.
E) don't wait until midnight or too late before having sex ( our body is already too tired by then
F) change positions and style ....sideways or woman on top is best
G) cleanliness....when the landscape is neat and your body is clean and  fresh with light perfume... some men can do wonders
GOODLUCK!!!!


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MegaOneplusone at 08:04 AM, 4/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: Liliya on 04:39 PM,  2/05/2013
Man, that is some sh*t you just said. cold, heartless, brutal, senseless, idiotic, rude. You are a totally and completely immature moron who does not know half of what people face in life. What sh*t do you know about women sexuality and what it takes to really satisfy a woman in bed? do you in your pathetic lack of knowledge know that men and women dont get to orgasm at the same time? If you dont have anything to say, shut your filthy mouth instead of insulting a lady who is facing the same challenge with at least 80% of women around the world! infinite fools like you should be taken to class for appropriate sex education before you open your sh*ty mouth and say what you dont know!  Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry


Abusing someone with your post wouldn't make yours more interesting. as a matter of fact, you are making no sense.......go back and read his comment again.
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giftmurphy at 12:52 PM, 4/05/2013 (6 years ago)
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Quote from: Liliya on 05:12 PM,  2/05/2013
My dear, the best thing to do is to talk to him about it. He may not know that his action is hurting you. Most men dont know it though. you have to teach him. The truth is that Men want to be the champion in all things including satisfying their women. Tell him, he will not be angry with you. He will want to be able to handle you in such a way that he can comfortably brag to his fellows that he can blow his wife's mind in bed with sex. It is a terrible experience when your man cant satisfy you. Sucks big time!  Cheesy
on point Cool
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