I'm Not Comfortable With My Househelp

Date: 21-05-2013 7:42 am (8 years ago) | Author: nwadi emma
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- at 21-05-2013 07:42 AM (8 years ago)
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You may say I'm being paranoid,but at least hear me out. I think I need spiritually sound christians to advise me correctly...
I got a new househelp recently cos I needed help after I delivered about 6 weeks ago. The problem is that I'm not very comfortable with her. The night b4 she came,I dreamt of an evil bird that flew into our home. 2 days later,I dreamt of a predatory dog that came into our house at night.I don't usually dream such dreams. Yesterday,a cat we don't know where it came from was heard crying in the engine of our car just bought 3 days ago. The cat was found and ran out.
As soon as I set my eyes on her as she stepped out of d car when my husband brought her for the first time,I had an uneasy feeling. Maybe because of my dream the previous night,I don't know. I had actually prayed dt morning for God to stop her from coming if she was not d right person,but here she was already in my house.
On interacting with her,I learnt she is a 30yr old lady,married but separated from her husband. Had 6 children,with only 2 surviving. Her parents told her to leave her husband becos they believed that her husband's 2nd wife was the cause of her children's deaths. Her husband took another wife because her children were dying. She got married 12yrs ago. Due to circumstances,she decided to do d job of a househelp to support herself. She left her children in d care of her parents.
Because she is older,I expected her to be responsible,so I gave her a free hand in my house. But she is misusing it. When I'm bathing my baby or cooking,instead of coming to help,she sits in d parlour watching tv. When visitors come,instead of her to leave the parlour,she sits tight. Does not tell me thank you after eating. Does not do anything unless she is told. She has been with me for 2 weeks,but has not changed baby's diapers once,talkless of bathing her. She just called me now as I was typing this to come and change baby's pampers. And I've shown her countless times how to do it. And I don't like the way she walks into my room uninvited. You would have thought that a married woman would know better.
Funny enough,my husband's relative living with us is more hardworking than she is. The girl even does some of the chores I send the new help out of respect for her. I only needed another person cos she is still in secondary school,and I needed someone to help me since I'm also studying for my forthcoming exams in my masters program. Also I need someone to take care of my baby when I resume from maternity leave. Right now,I can categorically say she is a liability to me,unless she improves.
The bottom-line is I'm not just comfortable with her. What do I do? Mature advice only.
source http://spammer.blogspot.com/2013/05/help-i-think-i-am-pregnant-for-stranger.html

Posted: at 21-05-2013 07:42 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
- joesymua at 21-05-2013 08:07 AM (8 years ago)
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Send her away, if not she will destroy ur home, mark it somewhere.
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:07 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- willie47 at 21-05-2013 08:08 AM (8 years ago)
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D earlier d better pls send her packing now b4 its 2 late
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:08 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- anifriday1 at 21-05-2013 08:13 AM (8 years ago)
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Please for Ɠ♡D. Sake. Send her packing before she destroy your  home.or Ɣ☺ΰ  Pay her off,but let. Ɣ☺Ʊя̩̥̊. Husband know of. It pls.....................earlier  d̶̲̥̅̊ better.
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:13 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- willie47 at 21-05-2013 08:15 AM (8 years ago)
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4get abt her age she s just a demon planning 2 destroy ur home d way she destroy her's, nd if I may ask y would u collect such an elderly person as an house help not just dat but a divorcy
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:15 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- ela214 at 21-05-2013 08:17 AM (8 years ago)
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do u really Need us to say anytin be4 u save ur home-------the LORD reveals to deliver---------simply send her packing,
ssnice u can already feel it---THEN ACT
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:17 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- morgrawl231 at 21-05-2013 08:23 AM (8 years ago)
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DON'T EVEN ALLOW HER TO DROP HER BAG,,,IMMIDIATELY  BACK TO SENDER.....
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:23 AM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- tesqueen at 21-05-2013 08:29 AM (8 years ago)
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My candid advice hw old are u, that u added another woman to yourself did u just get Second wife? for ur husband huh! U better act fast to avoid story that touch. Take ur child t creche and save your home.
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:29 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- Emmyfem97 at 21-05-2013 08:29 AM (8 years ago)
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You seem not to have a pre-knowledge of the 'househelp' ur husband was bringing into ur home untill she arrived. If ur story is a true reflection of wot's happening in ur home, then ur 'househelp' is as good as a square peg in a round hole'. If ur hussband isn't aware of her character and behaviour, pls do let him know and then send her packing.
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:29 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- sequencer at 21-05-2013 08:39 AM (8 years ago)
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There is fire on d mountain top for u if u don't act fast. She could destroy your marriage oooooooo send her away before things get worse.
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:39 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- dabattleaxe at 21-05-2013 08:47 AM (8 years ago)
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You really don't need this woman in your home believe me. From the spiritual angle of it, the woman is possessed and you don't leave such a woman to care for your baby. I have a strong feeling there could be something seriously wrong in your husband bringing her home, she is too old for a house help. On a final not you just have to get rid of her but be careful how u go about it cos she seem to me an agent or could be having an affair with ur husband. Prayerfully ask God to intervene and after that, have a heart to heart talk with your husband and make him see reasons, she has to leave. Stand your ground but get rid off her, u must. I Pray God sees u through this. Pray Is 41:14 and I know he will help you.
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:47 AM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Shydaimma at 21-05-2013 08:52 AM (8 years ago)
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They have said it all send her packing pls

Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:52 AM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- Lekan22 at 21-05-2013 08:59 AM (8 years ago)
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Its better to let her go if you're not comfortable with her in your home.
Posted: at 21-05-2013 08:59 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- henryob at 21-05-2013 09:04 AM (8 years ago)
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Madam listen to me if Church dose change you,than Change the Church,
Posted: at 21-05-2013 09:04 AM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- angesco at 21-05-2013 09:08 AM (8 years ago)
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Drop the colonial mentality and do your own housework!!!!!
Posted: at 21-05-2013 09:08 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- proly at 21-05-2013 09:38 AM (8 years ago)
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D earlier d beter 4 u....snd her packn,,,or she destroy ur home..go back 2 ur drimz itS pure revlation
Posted: at 21-05-2013 09:38 AM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- sonjohn994 at 21-05-2013 10:06 AM (8 years ago)
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VERY SIMPLE ....SEND HER AWAY WE DID NOT ADVICE YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE,SO PORT INTO ACTION KIA KIA
Posted: at 21-05-2013 10:06 AM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- chicco77 at 21-05-2013 10:20 AM (8 years ago)
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u better send her back
Posted: at 21-05-2013 10:20 AM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Jaylen at 21-05-2013 10:21 AM (8 years ago)
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The earlier the better her back na one in a trillion ..
Posted: at 21-05-2013 10:21 AM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
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- mary11 at 21-05-2013 10:24 AM (8 years ago)
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Why not save urself d risk and send her back
Prevention dey say is better than cure

Posted: at 21-05-2013 10:24 AM (8 years ago) | Hero
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