Please I need advice on this. A friend of my told me her tale which I will try as much as I can to relate back to you exactly as she said; hear her:
I have know this guy for almost a decade now and there is absolutely no doubt that he loves me, infact am sure he will do any thing for me but the problem is he is not exaclty the kind of guy I want to spend the rest of my life with reason being that he is not financially stable (now don't Judge me , every one wants some kind of assurance in life) and to top it all he is not a graduate.
We met while I was still in secondary school, became friends and then over the years a relationship developed. After my secondary school we lost contact and met again while I was preparing for my NYSC. I felt some kind of strong bond towards him and we continued seeing each other on several occasion he has asked me to marry him which I tried to explian to him that I love him as a FRIEND an cann't go beyond that. the last time I told him I was calling the relationship off, the pain I saw in his eyes and seeing a man go through such and even to the point there were tears in his eyes, I felt so weak and couldn't do it. I had on several occassions encourage him to have other relationship he just won't and says until he sees me finally get married. I feel so guilty that each time am with him I just want to accept his proposal knowing that for more than 4 years his family has been threatening to force a wife on him if he refuses to get married by the end of this year and I no he hopes I did say yes that is why he is still waiting. Am just to afriad of what he might do to himself if I should meet sum1 and leave him. Cause in all the relationship I have been through NO ONE has shown me so much love and attention (not materially of course but the sincere concern for my welfare which is what I cherish so much in him)
Posted: at 28-05-2009 12:14 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
I'll explain this from a realistic view...In as much as other readers consider it brutal. I perfectly understand when You said ''he is not exaclty the kind of guy I want to spend the rest of my life with reason being that he is not financially stable''
Now, how old are You? When do You intend to settle down...soon? What's his view about finance...is he nonchalant abt it or he's struggling to make ends meet? These and more questions You would need to answer first before You make any step. You wouldn't wanna go into marriage in abject poverty....Trust me!! If he's making attempt and age is still on Your side and You can spare him a few time to make up....Then,I'd say wait for him!! If not.......You know what is right for You.
SSCE, BSC, ABS, ADN, AAS, AAGS, PHD, MASTERS....I'm Qualified, So Shut Up And Listen .
Posted: at 28-05-2009 12:50 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
shanique at 28-05-2009 01:04 PM (15 years ago) (f)
wow!! brb gotta pup
U SwEaR U KnOw Me CuZ Ya HeArD My NaMe BuT iF Ya EvA rEaLLy MeT Me YuD KnOw Da GaMe dRaMa NeVa EnDs And HaTaS ArE aLL tHa SaMe tHeY sMiLe To Ya FacE aNd sPiT oN yA NaMe
Posted: at 28-05-2009 01:04 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
vivian07 at 28-05-2009 01:08 PM (15 years ago) (f)
@ poster, ur friend already made her point clear, the guy is poor.....even though she thinks she loves him, i think the best thing for her is to call the whole thing off instead of torturing the guy.......a man dies once and thats it.....she should call it off so that he will start his life with some 1 who can stay with him........and she should also not forget that "no condition is permanent " no 1 has ever loved her, yet she wants to leave the 1 true person who ever loved her..........
Posted: at 28-05-2009 01:08 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
HMM MY DEAR...ONLY CAUSE OF MONEY WHY U SPOIL YA LIFE???MONEY IS NOTHING WE MAKE IT NOT MONEY MAKES US....IF BOTH OF U PUT HEAD TOGETHER BETTER THING CAN COME OUT...LOVE IS NOT TRUE MONEY ISSUES...IF U LOVE HIM BE WITH HIM CAUSE HOW I SEE HE LOVES U...DONT LOSE HIM ONLY CAUSE OF MONEY BY TIME BETTER THING CAN HAPPEN IF BOTH OF U WILL BE 1....WHAT U HAVE TO DO IS TO JOIN HAND WITH HIM AND PLAN A BETTER LIFE
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION"
Posted: at 28-05-2009 01:15 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
HMMMMM THIS IS TOUGH BUT IF THE GUY CAN BE HARD WORKING AND U THINK THERE IS BETTER HOPE IN D FUTURE, GURL GO WITH HIM. COS SOMETIMES,MONEY IS NOT REALLY EVERYTHING BUT U NEED IT. L O V E? I LIKE DAT MORE. BUT IF HE IS IN THE LAZY MEN CATEGORY,THEN NNE,RUN FOR UR LIFE OOOOOOOOO COS NO GOOD FUTURE WITH SUCH PEOPLE. BE WISE IN UR CHOICE,GOOD LUCK!
Posted: at 28-05-2009 05:49 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
diplomatik at 29-05-2009 12:06 AM (15 years ago) (f)
I CAN'T TALK THIS NIGHT....LISTEN TO VIV AND WELLI..
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 29-05-2009 12:06 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Please I need advice on this. A friend of my told me her tale which I will try as much as I can to relate back to you exactly as she said; hear her:
I have know this guy for almost a decade now and there is absolutely no doubt that he loves me, infact am sure he will do any thing for me but the problem is he is not exaclty the kind of guy I want to spend the rest of my life with reason being that he is not financially stable (now don't Judge me , every one wants some kind of assurance in life) and to top it all he is not a graduate.
We met while I was still in secondary school, became friends and then over the years a relationship developed. After my secondary school we lost contact and met again while I was preparing for my NYSC. I felt some kind of strong bond towards him and we continued seeing each other on several occasion he has asked me to marry him which I tried to explian to him that I love him as a FRIEND an cann't go beyond that. the last time I told him I was calling the relationship off, the pain I saw in his eyes and seeing a man go through such and even to the point there were tears in his eyes, I felt so weak and couldn't do it. I had on several occassions encourage him to have other relationship he just won't and says until he sees me finally get married. I feel so guilty that each time am with him I just want to accept his proposal knowing that for more than 4 years his family has been threatening to force a wife on him if he refuses to get married by the end of this year and I no he hopes I did say yes that is why he is still waiting. Am just to afriad of what he might do to himself if I should meet sum1 and leave him. Cause in all the relationship I have been through NO ONE has shown me so much love and attention (not materially of course but the sincere concern for my welfare which is what I cherish so much in him)
Just one Question: What do yu really need in yur Life, Love or Money?
WHEN YU DIE YU TAKE NOTHING WITH YU, SO PLS PUT A SMILE ON YUR NEIGHBOR'S FACE
Posted: at 30-05-2009 12:01 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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onchedu
i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either 
, i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool 
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