Your Girlfriend of 7 years has Sickle Cell. Do You go ahead to Marry/Dump her?

You got the Girl of Your Dreams. Gorgeous, Respectful, Innocent.

The Ideal "Take Home To Mama Material!
You guys have been going out for 7 years.
You really Luv her and You both believe that "Sickle Cell"
will not be an issue in your marriage.
Everything is going on fine till your folks hear about
You and Your Girl's Plans.
They Have kicked against it and say it is
only over their dead bodies that it can ever happen.
They have advised BOTH OF YOU TO ?#!BREAK UP?!#.

This is the situation one of my close friends is in rite now.
Could you kind members of this community COMMENT and
ADVISE on what my Good Friend should do!!!???
His Happiness and Joy for Eternity Depends on it 

Posted: at 7-06-2009 03:14 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

wow

Posted: at 2-07-2009 03:25 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Well it is not proper to go head with the marriage, because of the unborn children. Why will a man decide to jump into fire, when he can avoid it.

Posted: at 10-07-2009 11:30 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie

it depends on him.if u love her and u can sacrifice for her why not.Afterall love is all abt sacrifice.We need love and give love in return.I want u to ans this questions,can u stand the crisis when it comes?can u spend sleepless nyts in d hospital?what abt the drugs?how do u want to handle her when she's carrying ur baby?Marriage is a life time comitment,not a contract.If u can cope with all the stress thats associated with sickcell then go ahead bro.If u cant then talk things oer with herand be realistic.I know u are in love at times we get selfish when it comes to decision taking.7 years is a long time.let me ask u this question,did u just discover dat she has sickle cell anaemia?if not why did it take u so long to address the situation?i'll advice u talk it over with her.Make her understand why you cant marry her.On the other hand if you feel strongly for her go ahead and marry her.

Posted: at 10-07-2009 01:39 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

if u truly love her and if she is good to u pls marry her happiness comes first

Posted: at 10-07-2009 02:50 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

well if u re asking me to advice you what i will say you is no and the reason is because of the future of both your children and the entire family.To make it clear to you i have a friend who is going through the same problem at the moment and i must tell you he is not finding things easy at all and this has turn the family apart.I think this is the right time to swallow the right bitter pill than avoid it in the name of love that will not take you far .You can also consult an expert on this issue because i am not even related to none.

Posted: at 10-07-2009 03:11 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

My advice for your friend is that he should go ahead and marry the girl if he truly love her and if your friend¨s genotype is "AA",then,both of them are perfect for each other.i.e non of their offspring will be "SS".Moreover,your friend should trust in God for financial provision cos he will need enough money to take good care of her. tell ur friend to go ahead.

Posted: at 10-07-2009 03:59 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

If u guys dont plan on raising kids then GO AHEAD bt if u do then my brother just think about ur unborn kids nd how its gon affect them nd compromise..... put ur kids 1st dont rush nd marry nd regret it 5yrs l8r wen ur kids r sicklers...

Posted: at 10-07-2009 11:32 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

It all depends, i belief love conquers all, but nevertheless one must be aware of the consequences of somethings, Basically if they will be living in nigeria after the marriage, i will not really advice that they go ahead, because nigeria do not have all require to take care of a sickle cell patient, although there are drugs and treatment, but not like in US, In Us there is free treatment for sickle cell patient, and all you have to do is place them on penicilin for life, and the children will be okay, but assuming they will be living in nigeria i strongly advice they think over it very well, and consider all the advantages and disadvantages.

Posted: at 11-07-2009 01:30 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie

i think they should marry regardless. my parents hav 5 kids and out of the 5 oanly 1 hass sickile cell his is very ressisive but his a regulare boy only that he doesnt like 2 eat 2much but then again tat could jus be him. as long as they love each other they should 4 get about the disease its no big deal

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Posted: at 11-07-2009 05:26 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming