Why do some of our 9ja men think it's okay to have 2 wives?

  Hi y'all, I know you will find this interesting, but I really want to know what y'all think.

 My maternal greatgrandfather had 7 wives, my grandfathers, on both side, had 2 wives. Huh? I ask myself " how in God's name can you love more than 1 person at a time?" What really baffles me most is the women, what exactly do they want out of that kind of relationship? What kind of love do they have for their so call "husband"? I know definitely it's not love, but why would any lady in her right mind want to be with some1 that already has a wife?

 As young as I am, I mean I've had quite a few experiences in life, and I can tell you it wasn't it at all. I tried keeping 2 guys at one point, but believe me it wasn't easy, even though it was part of growing up, if you know what I mean  and I was much in love with one than the other. It wasn't fun at all.

 Please my people, I need you to tell me why do we see polygamy as an "alrighty" thing?

More relevant questions for the for the guys:
What do you think the wives would think of the husband?
Would the hubby think they genuinely love him?
Would he be happy?
How exactly is he planning to make it work out amongst them?
Why in the first place, did he decided to get a second wife?

Just so you know, my great and grandfathers are dead, I would have love to hear what they have to say themselves- WHY?

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Posted: at 18-06-2008 11:26 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

well becoz back then,men married according to their status....an Igwe is supposed to have more than 1 wife....and needs to have a lot of children.....once his first wife gets old and cannot give anymore children,he will marry anoda one and it keeps repeating till he die.....

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Posted: at 20-06-2008 09:40 AM (16 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Why do nigerian girls run after married men?

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Posted: at 20-06-2008 03:02 PM (16 years ago) | Hero

Becozzzzzzzzzz hmmmmmmmmmmmm I dey come abeg

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Posted: at 20-06-2008 03:28 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac

believe it or not, nigerian men are faithful  

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Posted: at 20-06-2008 03:34 PM (16 years ago) | Hero

says me... you meant to say "all are faithful but sum get pushed away by their wife so they turn to other woman for satisfaction"

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Posted: at 20-06-2008 03:57 PM (16 years ago) | Hero

pushed away by their wives?.lol.u naija guys ,u allys find a woman faulty for everything .about sum who hv better wives ,are they grateful and satisfy?

Posted: at 22-06-2008 01:08 PM (16 years ago) | Hero

nice joke!!!

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Posted: at 23-06-2008 06:52 AM (16 years ago) | Addicted Hero

yeah....true....

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Posted: at 24-06-2008 06:38 AM (16 years ago) | Addicted Hero

nt all married naija men ar unfaithful. at least my elder brother & my cousin ar still faithful to their wives after 6 & 8 of marriage & we were very close so i cn smell any dirty character. som husbands ar dogs while som wives are crazy & boring which drives men out for better alternatives.

and there is ths old mentality in the 20's - 90's that women are just useful home tools for their husbands. in the past, women were nt regarded bt only seen as properties. nt only naija men marries plenty wives. read history carefully, u will find tht other tribes & race ar doing it also.

Posted: at 25-05-2010 12:03 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming