I've been perplexed by how many people don't see the difference between manipulation and acceptable behaviour. The latest form of manipulation I've seen is people who appear like nice guys who use what women crave most to get what they want. Being emotionally demonstrative.
A man sees a woman's need for someone who is emotionally demonstrative, poses as an emotionally demonstrative person, knows all the lingo and pushes the boundaries by being inappropriately demonstrative, making the woman feel as though they are the problem by not being ready to reciprocate.
Has anyone ever been caught in such a situation and then later learned that their new found interest couldn't maintain this level of intimacy exponentially and or that their behaviours switched when the feelings were not reciprocated? Or even worse they accuse you of being exactly what you are trying to avoid in the opposite sex? ie.. emotionally unavailable, cold, emotionless, etc... etc...
Thoughts, stories, observations. And do you think they are being manipulative or genuine?
Posted: at 31-08-2009 12:20 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
emotional manipulation remains wot it is... i dont think any victim will rationally want to b manipulated... but unfortunately such is life....u win some u loose some.
Posted: at 31-08-2009 12:29 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
Genuine or manipulative, it's all a means to an end. Stop complaining that someone's got game that's working for them. If it's not Ur style and Urs doesnt work as well, just polish Urs till it works for U.
I'm not in support of any forms of manipulation but snake go bite whether U call am snake or Mr. Snake and devil go do him job til God say e don do. Do U follow?
Posted: at 31-08-2009 12:36 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
We all manipulate in some form or another to get what we want, and how would you know the guys are manipulating by being emotionally demonstrative? Have you thought to consider they are just being themselves and the woman feeling smothered by a guy that actually shows his emotions decides to bail out too quickly.
Posted: at 31-08-2009 01:02 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
diplomatik at 31-08-2009 02:03 PM (14 years ago) (f)
passing trying to manipulate some ppl.....
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 31-08-2009 02:03 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
...No matter what our troubles, I still love you, As though a part of me were also you. Life isn't easy, but I know without you There will be bitterness in all I do. I feel the broken heaven in my heart, The blight that will outlast the years of healing, The darkness underneath all time and art, The pain that from within there's no concealing. We were so much in love when we first met, A river that would reach, in time, the sea. We ought not let despair turn to regret, But be through choice what love chose us to be. No love can last except it be through will. Were wastelands in our path, I'd love you still.
My life is BEAUTIFUL! . . don't NEED attentions, Give 'em to those who really NEED 'em. . . No Time
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:06 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
@Ochendu, whats the point hiding ur true self and manipulating sum1 2 achieve ur aim.I dnt believe in that, i believe in being real not fake, if d folk aint ok wif me and love me for who i am, then game over, there's no point faking my personality.
...everywhere i go they keep saying i'm Unique, well that's because my swag defines me.
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:21 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
...No matter what our troubles, I still love you, As though a part of me were also you. Life isn't easy, but I know without you There will be bitterness in all I do. I feel the broken heaven in my heart, The blight that will outlast the years of healing, The darkness underneath all time and art, The pain that from within there's no concealing. We were so much in love when we first met, A river that would reach, in time, the sea. We ought not let despair turn to regret, But be through choice what love chose us to be. No love can last except it be through will. Were wastelands in our path, I'd love you still.
so much grammar. is this a manipulation or also an acceptable behaviour. bros how u dey. edon tey small
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:22 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
diplomatik at 1-09-2009 03:24 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Pires07 on 1-09-2009 03:21 PM
@Ochendu, whats the point hiding ur true self and manipulating sum1 2 achieve ur aim.I dnt believe in that, i believe in being real not fake, if d folk aint ok wif me and love me for who i am, then game over, there's no point faking my personality.
pires....where have u been FB?....how r u?
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:24 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
...No matter what our troubles, I still love you, As though a part of me were also you. Life isn't easy, but I know without you There will be bitterness in all I do. I feel the broken heaven in my heart, The blight that will outlast the years of healing, The darkness underneath all time and art, The pain that from within there's no concealing. We were so much in love when we first met, A river that would reach, in time, the sea. We ought not let despair turn to regret, But be through choice what love chose us to be. No love can last except it be through will. Were wastelands in our path, I'd love you still.
so much grammar. is this a manipulation or also an acceptable behaviour. bros how u dey. edon tey small
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:26 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
@Ochendu, whats the point hiding ur true self and manipulating sum1 2 achieve ur aim.I dnt believe in that, i believe in being real not fake, if d folk aint ok wif me and love me for who i am, then game over, there's no point faking my personality.
pires....where have u been FB?....how r u?
yep FB. i'm doing great, hws u? hop u've not divorced me all this while i was away.
...everywhere i go they keep saying i'm Unique, well that's because my swag defines me.
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:27 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
I've been perplexed by how many people don't see the difference between manipulation and acceptable behaviour. The latest form of manipulation I've seen is people who appear like nice guys who use what women crave most to get what they want. Being emotionally demonstrative.
A man sees a woman's need for someone who is emotionally demonstrative, poses as an emotionally demonstrative person, knows all the lingo and pushes the boundaries by being inappropriately demonstrative, making the woman feel as though they are the problem by not being ready to reciprocate.
Has anyone ever been caught in such a situation and then later learned that their new found interest couldn't maintain this level of intimacy exponentially and or that their behaviours switched when the feelings were not reciprocated? Or even worse they accuse you of being exactly what you are trying to avoid in the opposite sex? ie.. emotionally unavailable, cold, emotionless, etc... etc...
Thoughts, stories, observations. And do you think they are being manipulative or genuine?
too short cant read this....
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:35 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
I've been perplexed by how many people don't see the difference between manipulation and acceptable behaviour. The latest form of manipulation I've seen is people who appear like nice guys who use what women crave most to get what they want. Being emotionally demonstrative.
A man sees a woman's need for someone who is emotionally demonstrative, poses as an emotionally demonstrative person, knows all the lingo and pushes the boundaries by being inappropriately demonstrative, making the woman feel as though they are the problem by not being ready to reciprocate.
Has anyone ever been caught in such a situation and then later learned that their new found interest couldn't maintain this level of intimacy exponentially and or that their behaviours switched when the feelings were not reciprocated? Or even worse they accuse you of being exactly what you are trying to avoid in the opposite sex? ie.. emotionally unavailable, cold, emotionless, etc... etc...
Thoughts, stories, observations. And do you think they are being manipulative or genuine?
too short cant read this....
if na love letter now this oponu go read am. no offence please
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:41 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
diplomatik at 1-09-2009 03:41 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Pires07 on 1-09-2009 03:27 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 1-09-2009 03:24 PM
Quote from: Pires07 on 1-09-2009 03:21 PM
@Ochendu, whats the point hiding ur true self and manipulating sum1 2 achieve ur aim.I dnt believe in that, i believe in being real not fake, if d folk aint ok wif me and love me for who i am, then game over, there's no point faking my personality.
pires....where have u been FB?....how r u?
yep FB. i'm doing great, hws u? hop u've not divorced me all this while i was away.
not at all...i missed u though...wasn't around much too either..just resumed now..lol
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:41 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
@Ochendu, whats the point hiding ur true self and manipulating sum1 2 achieve ur aim.I dnt believe in that, i believe in being real not fake, if d folk aint ok wif me and love me for who i am, then game over, there's no point faking my personality.
pires....where have u been FB?....how r u?
yep FB. i'm doing great, hws u? hop u've not divorced me all this while i was away.
not at all...i missed u though...wasn't around much too either..just resumed now..lol
ok, me too. i missed u, i missed those dayz u used to bit my tongue off.
...everywhere i go they keep saying i'm Unique, well that's because my swag defines me.
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:43 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
@Ochendu, whats the point hiding ur true self and manipulating sum1 2 achieve ur aim.I dnt believe in that, i believe in being real not fake, if d folk aint ok wif me and love me for who i am, then game over, there's no point faking my personality.
pires....where have u been FB?....how r u?
yep FB. i'm doing great, hws u? hop u've not divorced me all this while i was away.
not at all...i missed u though...wasn't around much too either..just resumed now..lol
ok, me too. i missed u, i missed those dayz u used to bit my tongue off.
datz all?
Posted: at 1-09-2009 03:47 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either 
, i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool 
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