Dating!

Na wetin we dey face be that oooooooooooooooooooo!

I have two questions that troubles me at the moment. I d' appreaciate sincere views from a very Nigerian perspective, sincere answers will go a long way to help me understand and make good decisions.

The Case File;..

I have endeavoured for the past years to be in Nigeria every year. Upon each visit i have met atleast a potential girl who i could initiate a meaningful relationship with but alas, things always take thesame shape.

This is the main jist!  A guy meets a lady for the first time, he isnt the shy one so he walks over and intitates a conversation, (U know the oldskool way) She burges and they exchange contacts. The guy takes his time, rings her up and fixes a date.

First Question(s)?

Ladies Plz help me out?

What goes on in the Mind of this lady immediately after the smalltalk?
What does a Nigerian girl understand about Dating? And lastly,..
How are dating carried on in a very Nigerian fashion?

keynote! I have up till now being mainly involved with White girls, Their understanding about dating is that; It is a Process of getting acquainted with someone new. Its no relationship neither a guarantee for one. I have had my share of being told off during a dating process and also have called it quit with some ladies (Whites) during dating bcoz of obvious differences that comes to light.

Now my share of expereince with Nigerian girls goes thus,.. After each first date, and i see during the first time out eating or drinking or however the day is planned, there is the immediate conclusion that almost every girl seems to have, which is that "they have found someone to marry". Now i need to say here that on most account i do try successfully to hide that am not resident in Nigeria to avoid any unsolicited assumptions.

Now whenever i decide not to call or ask the lady out a second time, i get nasty accussations.
when i do ask a lady out the second time and i most times wants to then really commit to continued communication,. the second question of the day arises,.


Second Question(s)
Is double dating wrong? A lady who tells me during the first date that she is both single and not seeing anyone is actually either engaged or seeing a couple of guys. "Am rather a oldskool conservative who doesnt believe in double dating".

3 instances  i will share that happened some years ago,.. I got a call from an unknown person after establishing contact with a lady that she is engaged to a guy in the uk. I called and she confirmed and wanted to give explanations.

A year later I met a lady who said No to all questions and after a while found out she was into a relationship with a guy in the Uk.

Lastly, i was home in July and met one again and she equally said No to all questions about her status and later i found out she was lying becoz during a visit to me she was hindered on the telephone to express herself as her boyfriend called her in my presence.
Later after i travelled back i informed her i was no more interested in continuing communication with her to which she made me open this sitaution on the web,, she said and i quote "I am a single lady and i cant stop men calling me to wanna date me and further she said since i have not said yes i do to any man i have the right to have many suitiors as i want till i make my choice." this really made me look back to all the past incidents i have had and i wondered,. is this a Nigerian lady(s) mentality or just an unfortunate meet up with the wrong kind of women??

I must however say the ladies are honour, i dont believe they are the kind that jump into bed with any man, maybe! i cant guarantee but i have a feeling that they are of good character.

Plz ladies help me out!

I need to stress here that i do not have anything against Nigerian ladies neither do i mean in any capacity to disgrace or rubbish their integrity in this line up,. I do respect women in my life, i have 3 ssiters both younger and elder and they are all happily married. I just want to get my perspectives right bcoz b4 i left the country some many years ago, i didnt really have a relationship with a Typical Nigerian girl that could have given me a better understanding of things and importantly how they think.

Thanks.
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