If You Are In This Man's Shoe, What Would You Do?

Published 9 years ago by: Deji Kola
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at 01:56 AM, 26/10/2009 (9 years ago)

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I have a very close friend of mine. He used to be an happy man until he brought his family from Nigeria in late 2005. He and his wife were from same village in the southwestern part of Nigeria. This guy left Nigeria in 1997 to attend a graduate school here in the United States, but he was unable to bring his wife and three kids until 2005. This couple had their first child in 1995, two years before he left Nigeria. Again when he visited Nigeria in 2001, she got pregnant with twins that were delivered in early 2002. More over, she got pregnant with their fourth (and probably the last kid) kids when the husband went to Nigeria to get them in 2005, and she delivered the baby in the last quarter of 2006 in the United States.

To cut this story short, this guy tried so hard by providing everything for his woman and their kids. When his woman was back in Nigeria, they used to share happy moments together, and I cannot count the number of times I met him crying on the phone because of how much he missed this woman and their children. The woman was doing same thing, crying on the phone to express her desire to join him. He obtained Nigerian passport for his family eight times (meaning, this woman and the kids were denied the visa seven times). He also applied for schools in Canada, Malaysia, and Norway for his wife, and she & her kids were equally denied the visas to travel to those countries. My friend decided to take the case of his family to the US Capitol to meet with Senator Debbie Stabenow (the US Senator from the State of Michigan) and soliciting for her assistance in probing the US Embassy in Lagos for the consistent denial of his family the visa to join him.

Eventually, he hired a lawyer and filed a petition with the US Immigration, and the permanent visas were issued to his wife and kids in early 2005. He was so excited, and travelled to Nigeria to join them on the flight to the US. He spent over US$10,000 on their flight tickets alone. To cut the story short, that happiness was short-lived because, problem started less than six hours after they arrived at their US home. I know, you guys would like to know what caused the immediate problem. Well, before this guy travelled to Nigeria to reunite with his family on the flight to the US, he joy was beyond limit, he told his friends and neighbors that he was going for his wife and kids. So, as the family arrived here, it was the young woman that came to rejoice with this family, but the newly-arrived wife started accusing his husband for sleeping with his neighbors including the female visitor who was still standing. Anyway, since their arrival, there has been no peace. Police has gone to their home at least three times. She was calling the cops trying to get her husband arrested. At a point, she told the police that her husband raped her, police never listened. When the husband requested the police to conduct medical examination, then the woman changed her story, saying he wanted to rape me, and the police asked for evidence but she could not provided one. At a different time, she told the police that her husband was so abusive to the children, the police examined the kids and never saw any traces of abuse on the kids, and the kids vehemently denied any abuse on the part of their father.

At another point, she called in the cops and when they arrived, she knelt down before them (thinking she was still in Nigeria) begging the cops to arrest this man. In all the cases, the police never made an arrest, rather, they wanted to subject the woman to mental evaluation. Their nigerian pastor that was trying to bring peace to their home, this woman started accusing him of coming to her house whenever he feels hungry for food. I have tried, as a friend, but this woman, that I used to give dollars to when she was in Nigeria has suddenly turned against me. She always curse her mother inlaw and the rest of her husband's family. 

To this end, I need you to tell me, if you happen to be in this friend of mine's shoe, what would you do? He is seeking for my advise, but I dont know what to tell him, so guys, how would you advise him?

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PreetyInstinct at 02:01 AM, 26/10/2009 (9 years ago)
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Breaking News Headlines Mini man found in man's shoes... Shocked Grin Tongue

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gimac at 02:55 AM, 26/10/2009 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: madeleoye on 01:56 AM, 26/10/2009
I have a very close friend of mine. He used to be an happy man until he brought his family from Nigeria in late 2005. He and his wife were from same village in the southwestern part of Nigeria. This guy left Nigeria in 1997 to attend a graduate school here in the United States, but he was unable to bring his wife and three kids until 2005. This couple had their first child in 1995, two years before he left Nigeria. Again when he visited Nigeria in 2001, she got pregnant with twins that were delivered in early 2002. More over, she got pregnant with their fourth (and probably the last kid) kids when the husband went to Nigeria to get them in 2005, and she delivered the baby in the last quarter of 2006 in the United States.

To cut this story short, this guy tried so hard by providing everything for his woman and their kids. When his woman was back in Nigeria, they used to share happy moments together, and I cannot count the number of times I met him crying on the phone because of how much he missed this woman and their children. The woman was doing same thing, crying on the phone to express her desire to join him. He obtained Nigerian passport for his family eight times (meaning, this woman and the kids were denied the visa seven times). He also applied for schools in Canada, Malaysia, and Norway for his wife, and she & her kids were equally denied the visas to travel to those countries. My friend decided to take the case of his family to the US Capitol to meet with Senator Debbie Stabenow (the US Senator from the State of Michigan) and soliciting for her assistance in probing the US Embassy in Lagos for the consistent denial of his family the visa to join him.

Eventually, he hired a lawyer and filed a petition with the US Immigration, and the permanent visas were issued to his wife and kids in early 2005. He was so excited, and travelled to Nigeria to join them on the flight to the US. He spent over US$10,000 on their flight tickets alone. To cut the story short, that happiness was short-lived because, problem started less than six hours after they arrived at their US home. I know, you guys would like to know what caused the immediate problem. Well, before this guy travelled to Nigeria to reunite with his family on the flight to the US, he joy was beyond limit, he told his friends and neighbors that he was going for his wife and kids. So, as the family arrived here, it was the young woman that came to rejoice with this family, but the newly-arrived wife started accusing his husband for sleeping with his neighbors including the female visitor who was still standing. Anyway, since their arrival, there has been no peace. Police has gone to their home at least three times. She was calling the cops trying to get her husband arrested. At a point, she told the police that her husband raped her, police never listened. When the husband requested the police to conduct medical examination, then the woman changed her story, saying he wanted to rape me, and the police asked for evidence but she could not provided one. At a different time, she told the police that her husband was so abusive to the children, the police examined the kids and never saw any traces of abuse on the kids, and the kids vehemently denied any abuse on the part of their father.

At another point, she called in the cops and when they arrived, she knelt down before them (thinking she was still in Nigeria) begging the cops to arrest this man. In all the cases, the police never made an arrest, rather, they wanted to subject the woman to mental evaluation. Their nigerian pastor that was trying to bring peace to their home, this woman started accusing him of coming to her house whenever he feels hungry for food. I have tried, as a friend, but this woman, that I used to give dollars to when she was in Nigeria has suddenly turned against me. She always curse her mother inlaw and the rest of her husband's family. 

To this end, I need you to tell me, if you happen to be in this friend of mine's shoe, what would you do? He is seeking for my advise, but I dont know what to tell him, so guys, how would you advise him?
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too much for me liking.......mean while marriage is for better and for worest....the mistake had been done already by the man by marrying another man wife instead the one God has ordain for him.....WHAT HE NEED NOW IS GOD INTERVENTION...PRAYER...so that the wife can have change of heart.......IS TOO LATE TO CHNAGE THIS SHOE BRODA

I can not change wear this types of shoe....
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Toks-E at 03:05 AM, 26/10/2009 (9 years ago)
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u nd ur shld shld take her back to naija..if the kids ar up to 8 yrs

at least pikin[pako] for sabi hw to stay witout hin mother
 i know sabi for child[ajebota]

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gimac at 03:16 AM, 26/10/2009 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: Toks-E on 03:05 AM, 26/10/2009
u nd ur shld shld take her back to naija..if the kids ar up to 8 yrs

at least pikin[pako] for sabi hw to stay witout hin mother
 i know sabi for child[ajebota]

toks.....she cant be taken back to nigeria because she has resident paper now or living as citzen...read it well ...it call for prayer and fasting for GOD intervention otherwise the man will be in big trouble and stand to loose all he have achieve
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ezinny at 02:05 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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D WYF NIDS SERIOUS PRAYIN N COUNSELIN
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umide at 02:22 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: gimac on 02:55 AM, 26/10/2009
Quote from: madeleoye on 01:56 AM, 26/10/2009
I have a very close friend of mine. He used to be an happy man until he brought his family from Nigeria in late 2005. He and his wife were from same village in the southwestern part of Nigeria. This guy left Nigeria in 1997 to attend a graduate school here in the United States, but he was unable to bring his wife and three kids until 2005. This couple had their first child in 1995, two years before he left Nigeria. Again when he visited Nigeria in 2001, she got pregnant with twins that were delivered in early 2002. More over, she got pregnant with their fourth (and probably the last kid) kids when the husband went to Nigeria to get them in 2005, and she delivered the baby in the last quarter of 2006 in the United States.

To cut this story short, this guy tried so hard by providing everything for his woman and their kids. When his woman was back in Nigeria, they used to share happy moments together, and I cannot count the number of times I met him crying on the phone because of how much he missed this woman and their children. The woman was doing same thing, crying on the phone to express her desire to join him. He obtained Nigerian passport for his family eight times (meaning, this woman and the kids were denied the visa seven times). He also applied for schools in Canada, Malaysia, and Norway for his wife, and she & her kids were equally denied the visas to travel to those countries. My friend decided to take the case of his family to the US Capitol to meet with Senator Debbie Stabenow (the US Senator from the State of Michigan) and soliciting for her assistance in probing the US Embassy in Lagos for the consistent denial of his family the visa to join him.

Eventually, he hired a lawyer and filed a petition with the US Immigration, and the permanent visas were issued to his wife and kids in early 2005. He was so excited, and travelled to Nigeria to join them on the flight to the US. He spent over US$10,000 on their flight tickets alone. To cut the story short, that happiness was short-lived because, problem started less than six hours after they arrived at their US home. I know, you guys would like to know what caused the immediate problem. Well, before this guy travelled to Nigeria to reunite with his family on the flight to the US, he joy was beyond limit, he told his friends and neighbors that he was going for his wife and kids. So, as the family arrived here, it was the young woman that came to rejoice with this family, but the newly-arrived wife started accusing his husband for sleeping with his neighbors including the female visitor who was still standing. Anyway, since their arrival, there has been no peace. Police has gone to their home at least three times. She was calling the cops trying to get her husband arrested. At a point, she told the police that her husband raped her, police never listened. When the husband requested the police to conduct medical examination, then the woman changed her story, saying he wanted to rape me, and the police asked for evidence but she could not provided one. At a different time, she told the police that her husband was so abusive to the children, the police examined the kids and never saw any traces of abuse on the kids, and the kids vehemently denied any abuse on the part of their father.

At another point, she called in the cops and when they arrived, she knelt down before them (thinking she was still in Nigeria) begging the cops to arrest this man. In all the cases, the police never made an arrest, rather, they wanted to subject the woman to mental evaluation. Their nigerian pastor that was trying to bring peace to their home, this woman started accusing him of coming to her house whenever he feels hungry for food. I have tried, as a friend, but this woman, that I used to give dollars to when she was in Nigeria has suddenly turned against me. She always curse her mother inlaw and the rest of her husband's family. 

To this end, I need you to tell me, if you happen to be in this friend of mine's shoe, what would you do? He is seeking for my advise, but I dont know what to tell him, so guys, how would you advise him?
\

too much for me liking.......mean while marriage is for better and for worest....the mistake had been done already by the man by marrying another man wife instead the one God has ordain for him.....WHAT HE NEED NOW IS GOD INTERVENTION...PRAYER...so that the wife can have change of heart.......IS TOO LATE TO CHNAGE THIS SHOE BRODA

I can not change wear this types of shoe....

the shoe don too over size
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umide at 02:24 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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I can't be in some shoe the shoe no go size me the shoe get odor
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blings_is_back at 02:37 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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which shoe size the man dey wear make i know if na my size
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Hearthrob at 03:25 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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This one is a serious problem that need God's intervention, he shld pray hard n if he can deceive her that they need to attend an important meeting 2geda in Nigeria as a couple witout giving her any impression, cease her passport n travel back without her knowing.
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SexyJuly at 03:28 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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@ topic:
Him shoes too big 4 me!
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Raybigboy at 03:36 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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My bros,  u made a mistake by posting this kind of topic here....d pple here are not of helping hand rather adding to every problem being posted here....i advise u take dis issue to a suitsayer...i guess u cud get a positive reply....even mysef, i don know what 2 say cos the shoe is actually too big for me and i will never pray to have such. Huh?
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SexyJuly at 03:40 PM, 6/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: Raybigboy on 03:36 PM,  6/11/2009
My bros,  u made a mistake by posting this kind of topic here....d pple here are not of helping hand rather adding to every problem being posted here....i advise u take dis issue to a suitsayer...i guess u cud get a positive reply....even mysef, i don know what 2 say cos the shoe is actually too big for me and i will never pray to have such. Huh?



Ha ha hahaaaaa! Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Na ur post bad pass ooooooooooooooo! Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy
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ibobobelvis at 10:06 AM, 7/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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pass

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humblej at 10:21 AM, 7/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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It's a sympathetic story, but too complex to give advise in this forum, therefore I'm passing....

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ibobobelvis at 10:38 AM, 7/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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quick pass o

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gimac at 03:02 PM, 7/11/2009 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: umide on 02:24 PM,  6/11/2009
I can't be in some shoe the shoe no go size me the shoe get odor


infact she decided to make the shoe too big so i cant wear it
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humble02 at 03:04 AM, 8/12/2009 (9 years ago)
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the woman in question must have something in mind before goin to state.(2) she may be have uncivilized attitude turward the civilized people base on nigerian lakeattitude of good,(3) she must have planing to divorce her husband when her leg step on state soil to have free liberty or to marry another man of her choice, looking at the portrey of this issue, you will observ that she have another intention but using another dymention to achieve her goal, without people tracing out where she is refarring to. take it or leave she must have an intention and plane before joining her husband in state,


let her husband use her 36 medula to find out her plane. by informing her that she have every right to chose how she want to live in the state with psycho brainwash her with cool and understandable way making her to believe that they can divorce as simple as ABCD you will see her reaction turward that, this is her plane so many stupid nigerian ladie's always do this if they see the opportunity to travel.they will run away and remarryman who is already made man  in oversea.
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blackberryPearl at 03:21 AM, 8/12/2009 (9 years ago)
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Quote from: humblej on 10:21 AM,  7/11/2009
It's a sympathetic story, but too complex to give advise in this forum, therefore I'm passing....
what an irrelevant answer
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gimac at 05:22 AM, 8/12/2009 (9 years ago)
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is this shoe still here
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