What should an american woman know about dating a nigerian man...

Date: 07-11-2009 7:46 am (15 years ago) | Author: Trudie
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- at 7-11-2009 07:46 AM (15 years ago)
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What should an american woman know about dating a nigerian man, wouldn't he prefer to be with someone who is familar with his own culture?  He tends to avoid other nigerians in general and says that women were he is from are alot of trouble if you bring them to a country like the U.S.  This sounds ridiculous to me.
Just looking for advice.  I have never known a nigerian man before, but I have been dating one for almost a year now.  Initially he told me he already had his papers or green card, but recently he fessed up and told me it was all still up in the air(he is here legally sponsered by his employer).  Then he talks about being home sick and wanting to go back, if this is the case then why bother becoming a U.S. resident?  He has been asking me if I would want to visit or possible relocate there at some point in the future because his parents are getting old.  I'm really confused, he says he only came here to get his master's degree, but while in school he applied for asylum. Should I be concerned about his intentions as far as trying to get me out of the country?  Is he using me to get his green card?  He really seems genuine to me and I don't mind helping him if thats the case, but I don't want to get myself in one of those nightmare situations you read about.  I thought maybe getting input from other people more familar with this country's culture could give me some insight. 

Posted: at 7-11-2009 07:46 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
- Toks-E at 7-11-2009 08:13 AM (15 years ago)
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ur case is complicated

go nd ask the computer

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:13 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Pires07 at 7-11-2009 09:12 AM (15 years ago)
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u sound like an African.

Posted: at 7-11-2009 09:12 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- xter at 7-11-2009 09:26 AM (15 years ago)
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u're not an American in anyway......i can bet u're African with ur english

Posted: at 7-11-2009 09:26 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- humblej at 7-11-2009 10:53 AM (15 years ago)
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Sure, this his/her story is not constructive, so I would advise him/her to make a constructive story before seeking advice from other ppl

Posted: at 7-11-2009 10:53 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- xter at 7-11-2009 10:57 AM (15 years ago)
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lol

Posted: at 7-11-2009 10:57 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- missy1234 at 7-11-2009 08:25 PM (15 years ago)
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Why would an african be asking this question to begin with?
Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:25 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- missy1234 at 7-11-2009 08:26 PM (15 years ago)
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ok, I see I'm not going to get any help here, thanks alot for nothing!
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- xter at 7-11-2009 08:30 PM (15 years ago)
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ok wait...........contact me fro proper counselling....

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:30 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- PreetyInstinct at 7-11-2009 08:33 PM (15 years ago)
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Abeg abeg

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:33 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- xter at 7-11-2009 08:35 PM (15 years ago)
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no beg no beg

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:35 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- PreetyInstinct at 7-11-2009 08:36 PM (15 years ago)
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Shut up shut up

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:36 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- xter at 7-11-2009 08:38 PM (15 years ago)
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gerrout gerrout

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:38 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- PreetyInstinct at 7-11-2009 08:42 PM (15 years ago)
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Kiss me Kiss me  Cheesy

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:42 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- xter at 7-11-2009 08:50 PM (15 years ago)
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ur mouth dey smell dey smell

Posted: at 7-11-2009 08:50 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- PreetyInstinct at 7-11-2009 09:29 PM (15 years ago)
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 Grin F*ck u F*ck u  Angry

Posted: at 7-11-2009 09:29 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- xter at 7-11-2009 09:30 PM (15 years ago)
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slap u slap u

Posted: at 7-11-2009 09:30 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Kennee at 7-11-2009 09:32 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: missy1234 on  7-11-2009 07:46 AM
What should an american woman know about dating a nigerian man, wouldn't he prefer to be with someone who is familar with his own culture?  He tends to avoid other nigerians in general and says that women were he is from are alot of trouble if you bring them to a country like the U.S.  This sounds ridiculous to me.
Just looking for advice.  I have never known a nigerian man before, but I have been dating one for almost a year now.  Initially he told me he already had his papers or green card, but recently he fessed up and told me it was all still up in the air(he is here legally sponsered by his employer).  Then he talks about being home sick and wanting to go back, if this is the case then why bother becoming a U.S. resident?  He has been asking me if I would want to visit or possible relocate there at some point in the future because his parents are getting old.  I'm really confused, he says he only came here to get his master's degree, but while in school he applied for asylum. Should I be concerned about his intentions as far as trying to get me out of the country?  Is he using me to get his green card?  He really seems genuine to me and I don't mind helping him if thats the case, but I don't want to get myself in one of those nightmare situations you read about.  I thought maybe getting input from other people more familar with this country's culture could give me some insight. 

Hhm! Dat Guy is Desperate

Posted: at 7-11-2009 09:32 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- PreetyInstinct at 7-11-2009 09:36 PM (15 years ago)
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You should never marry a nigerian man because the majority of dem are married already. . . Lips Sealed

Posted: at 7-11-2009 09:36 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- Kennee at 7-11-2009 09:45 PM (15 years ago)
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Depends on da Age

Posted: at 7-11-2009 09:45 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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