I live abroad and i'm planing on having a traditional wedding but worried about the safety of my husband, he is a foreigner white and is not safe for him going to Rivers State Port-harcourt.
So i was thinking if it is possible for us to do it here without both of us being present in Nigeria but my father said no, so i came up with another idea of doing the traditional mariage in lagos or abuja cos it is safer but expensive to transport everyone down there.
My dad said it will be better to do it in the village or Port-harcourt what should i do?
We already did court and white wedding here in his country and now we like to do the traditional mariage very soon but i am worried about his safety to port harcourt, my family told me that traditional mariage is the most important thing in married life.
Should we forget about the traditional mariage? And what is so important about traditional mariage?
I just need an advice on how to go with this or to make it work and how to convince my dad to accept it, traditional mariage is very expensive in River state and once they discover my husband is white they might double the bride price, so we are only preparing for it and how we can go about it, we are legally married but i still want my traditional wedding so that i can be recognised as a married woman in my family according to custom or tradition. Your advice will be appreciated.
Posted: at 17-05-2010 11:12 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
mallorca at 17-05-2010 11:56 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: bians on 17-05-2010 11:12 PM
I live abroad and i'm planing on having a traditional wedding but worried about the safety of my husband, he is a foreigner white and is not safe for him going to Rivers State Port-harcourt.
So i was thinking if it is possible for us to do it here without both of us being present in Nigeria but my father said no, so i came up with another idea of doing the traditional mariage in lagos or abuja cos it is safer but expensive to transport everyone down there.
My dad said it will be better to do it in the village or Port-harcourt what should i do?
We already did court and white wedding here in his country and now we like to do the traditional mariage very soon but i am worried about his safety to port harcourt, my family told me that traditional mariage is the most important thing in married life.
Should we forget about the traditional mariage? And what is so important about traditional mariage?
I just need an advice on how to go with this or to make it work and how to convince my dad to accept it, traditional mariage is very expensive in River state and once they discover my husband is white they might double the bride price, so we are only preparing for it and how we can go about it, we are legally married but i still want my traditional wedding so that i can be recognised as a married woman in my family according to custom or tradition. Your advice will be appreciated.
you mean that my own and only one treasure base of the nation is now Danger Zone? i disagree with you unless there is still more things you need us to know about your ex life.
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Posted: at 17-05-2010 11:56 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
stillmalachy at 18-05-2010 12:22 AM (13 years ago) (m)
i thing you shuld talk things out wit ur dad again nd if he doesnt agree then 4get it....ur husband's safety is important here since u guys are married already....most Naija guys are too desperate nd can do anything bcos of money....
Posted: at 18-05-2010 12:22 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
myragonza at 18-05-2010 08:28 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: bians on 17-05-2010 11:12 PM
I live abroad and i'm planing on having a traditional wedding but worried about the safety of my husband, he is a foreigner white and is not safe for him going to Rivers State Port-harcourt.
So i was thinking if it is possible for us to do it here without both of us being present in Nigeria but my father said no, so i came up with another idea of doing the traditional mariage in lagos or abuja cos it is safer but expensive to transport everyone down there.
My dad said it will be better to do it in the village or Port-harcourt what should i do?
We already did court and white wedding here in his country and now we like to do the traditional mariage very soon but i am worried about his safety to port harcourt, my family told me that traditional mariage is the most important thing in married life.
Should we forget about the traditional mariage? And what is so important about traditional mariage?
I just need an advice on how to go with this or to make it work and how to convince my dad to accept it, traditional mariage is very expensive in River state and once they discover my husband is white they might double the bride price, so we are only preparing for it and how we can go about it, we are legally married but i still want my traditional wedding so that i can be recognised as a married woman in my family according to custom or tradition. Your advice will be appreciated.
take a flight straight to PH and drive in an unconspicuous transport straight to the village without any stopovers....
docreala at 18-05-2010 08:36 AM (13 years ago) (m)
send dem money to do the traditional for village while u & ur husband go dey abuja dey respond via satellite. if e no do dem,den just continue to dey enjoy ur sef traditional no be by force. Na tru all those things wahala dey take enter sef.
Posted: at 18-05-2010 08:36 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
I live abroad and i'm planing on having a traditional wedding but worried about the safety of my husband, he is a foreigner white and is not safe for him going to Rivers State Port-harcourt.
So i was thinking if it is possible for us to do it here without both of us being present in Nigeria but my father said no, so i came up with another idea of doing the traditional mariage in lagos or abuja cos it is safer but expensive to transport everyone down there.
My dad said it will be better to do it in the village or Port-harcourt what should i do?
We already did court and white wedding here in his country and now we like to do the traditional mariage very soon but i am worried about his safety to port harcourt, my family told me that traditional mariage is the most important thing in married life.
Should we forget about the traditional mariage? And what is so important about traditional mariage?
I just need an advice on how to go with this or to make it work and how to convince my dad to accept it, traditional mariage is very expensive in River state and once they discover my husband is white they might double the bride price, so we are only preparing for it and how we can go about it, we are legally married but i still want my traditional wedding so that i can be recognised as a married woman in my family according to custom or tradition. Your advice will be appreciated.
Quote from: mallorca on 17-05-2010 11:56 PM
Quote from: bians on 17-05-2010 11:12 PM
I live abroad and i'm planing on having a traditional wedding but worried about the safety of my husband, he is a foreigner white and is not safe for him going to Rivers State Port-harcourt.
So i was thinking if it is possible for us to do it here without both of us being present in Nigeria but my father said no, so i came up with another idea of doing the traditional mariage in lagos or abuja cos it is safer but expensive to transport everyone down there.
My dad said it will be better to do it in the village or Port-harcourt what should i do?
We already did court and white wedding here in his country and now we like to do the traditional mariage very soon but i am worried about his safety to port harcourt, my family told me that traditional mariage is the most important thing in married life.
Should we forget about the traditional mariage? And what is so important about traditional mariage?
I just need an advice on how to go with this or to make it work and how to convince my dad to accept it, traditional mariage is very expensive in River state and once they discover my husband is white they might double the bride price, so we are only preparing for it and how we can go about it, we are legally married but i still want my traditional wedding so that i can be recognised as a married woman in my family according to custom or tradition. Your advice will be appreciated.
you mean that my own and only one treasure base of the nation is now Danger Zone? i disagree with you unless there is still more things you need us to know about your ex life.
Posted: at 18-05-2010 08:55 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
chrisphemy at 18-05-2010 10:00 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Am giving u go ahead 2 enta river state and proceed with ur traditional weddin,nothin wil happen.As 4 d bride price,let it be tripled and allow ur whity 2 pay,it shows ur quality and standard.HAPI MARRIED LIFE.
Posted: at 18-05-2010 10:00 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
Now this is a tyt spot U are in. U are married already but the traditional rites like U rightly pointed out the recognition is important.
Sorry but I don't trust Ur dad cos of his insistence in wanting Ur hubby, being white and American, to come to a village in Rivers state considering the present insecurity facing the foreigners there.
My advice is to put off the traditional rites if Ur daddy doesnt bulge on having it done on safer grounds like Abj and U all don't have any well armed security forces to provide service to U and Ur husband while u are around, is to defer the occasion to a later date. Maybe years after if U can be comfortable with that.
As for the double bride price and all that stuff, U are the one that'l talk to them to behave themselves otherwise U and Ur husband will leave the ceremony.
Posted: at 18-05-2010 10:22 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
dirtykid at 18-05-2010 11:02 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: bians on 17-05-2010 11:12 PM
I live abroad and i'm planing on having a traditional wedding but worried about the safety of my husband, he is a foreigner white and is not safe for him going to Rivers State Port-harcourt.
So i was thinking if it is possible for us to do it here without both of us being present in Nigeria but my father said no, so i came up with another idea of doing the traditional mariage in lagos or abuja cos it is safer but expensive to transport everyone down there.
My dad said it will be better to do it in the village or Port-harcourt what should i do?
We already did court and white wedding here in his country and now we like to do the traditional mariage very soon but i am worried about his safety to port harcourt, my family told me that traditional mariage is the most important thing in married life.
Should we forget about the traditional mariage? And what is so important about traditional mariage?
I just need an advice on how to go with this or to make it work and how to convince my dad to accept it, traditional mariage is very expensive in River state and once they discover my husband is white they might double the bride price, so we are only preparing for it and how we can go about it, we are legally married but i still want my traditional wedding so that i can be recognised as a married woman in my family according to custom or tradition. Your advice will be appreciated.
If ur dad will not consider the fact that ur husband is not safe... Cancel the traditional marriage, send them the money to make it there without ur presence. what kind of tradition shit is that.. that u have to risk it all. Na waoo for some parents, that cant understand their children.
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Posted: at 18-05-2010 11:02 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
stop!!! all these things you fear about is just inconsequential just come home do your thing and go back nobody is going to bite you or your whity husband or you can hire a black person to represent your husband then give them one excuse,you may tell them your husband tight schedule in the office did not allow him to come down and that he sends his apology, we even do that in Nigeria here.
Posted: at 18-05-2010 11:18 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
I live abroad and i'm planing on having a traditional wedding but worried about the safety of my husband, he is a foreigner white and is not safe for him going to Rivers State Port-harcourt.
So i was thinking if it is possible for us to do it here without both of us being present in Nigeria but my father said no, so i came up with another idea of doing the traditional mariage in lagos or abuja cos it is safer but expensive to transport everyone down there.
My dad said it will be better to do it in the village or Port-harcourt what should i do?
We already did court and white wedding here in his country and now we like to do the traditional mariage very soon but i am worried about his safety to port harcourt, my family told me that traditional mariage is the most important thing in married life.
Should we forget about the traditional mariage? And what is so important about traditional mariage?
I just need an advice on how to go with this or to make it work and how to convince my dad to accept it, traditional mariage is very expensive in River state and once they discover my husband is white they might double the bride price, so we are only preparing for it and how we can go about it, we are legally married but i still want my traditional wedding so that i can be recognised as a married woman in my family according to custom or tradition. Your advice will be appreciated.
take a flight straight to PH and drive in an unconspicuous transport straight to the village without any stopovers....
Sorry
The Dad will definitely want the Whole town to know his Daughter is Marrying a White Man, so there'll be nothing hidden eventually.
And even if he Doesn't, other family members or elders will spread the word
It's gonna be Risky no matter what
Unless the Dad is influential
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Posted: at 18-05-2010 08:34 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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