Even in this modern day and age, many parents are often embarrassed to talk to their kids about love and sex when their kid reaches the age of puberty. To most parents, the fear of talking to their kid(s) about sex is worse than the fear of death itself. Some Nigerian parents (especially in the old days) have come up with several absurd ways to tell their kid(s), particularly their daughters, about love and sex.
Here are some outrageously ridiculous things parents in the old days tell their daughters about love and sex:
Menstrual Cycle In the old days, it is believed that when a girl starts menstruating, she has begun to have sex. The reason why many people thought this way was because women in the olden days got married at very tender ages (14-16 years) and many of them started their menstrual periods after they had gotten married.
Some parents told their daughters in the old days that they can only start their periods after they had gotten married. Some girls were thoroughly beaten because they saw their periods without being married!
After the introduction of formal education by the British colonial masters, everyone learned that all women start menstruating when they get to the age of puberty.
Some parents, all in a bid to keep their teenage daughters away from boys, tell their daughters never to sit, talk or touch boys. Because if they do, they will automatically get pregnant!
this is kinda funny... There was a story of a teenage girl in the early 80's who ran home to tell her parents that she was pregnant. After her father and mother gave a good beating, they asked her who was responsible for her pregnancy; she said she really didn't know because a group of boys "sat" next to her while she was riding the bus home from school and they totally ignored her when she told them to get up. Her father (who was obviously confused) asked her, "how on earth could that get you pregnant?" she said that her mother warned her (on the day she had her first period) never to sit near "any boy" because she would get pregnant if she does. Pathetic huh?
SO my questions to np girls....what did your parents told you when you was a young girl ? to the young teen girls on np....still tell us what your mama told you not to do?
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:17 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
hmmmmmmmm My love,this question is greater than me... since de question was referred to de ladies, i guess i should step aside and read ladies comments
CHILDREN ARE BORN BUT MEN ARE MADE;THE GOLD THAT WILL BE REFINED MUST PASS THROUGH THE FURNACE.WORDS
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:21 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
hmmmmmmmm My love,this question is greater than me... since de question was referred to de ladies, i guess i should step aside and read ladies comments
my luv...my bad i didn't ask the men question but you can still tells us what you over heard you ma'ma told your young sister or what you were told by your dad...dont say pa'pa didn't advise you to zip your pant?
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:24 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Well,my mum used to say "dont listen to their sweet words cos they just want tht thing in blw ur leg".and apart from tht I had to learn and figure out sum things myself.cos when I was younger I used to see the way sum girls do act and I learnt sum postive things from them though.Mostly my big sister.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:32 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
Well,my mum used to say "dont listen to their sweet words cos they just want tht thing in blw ur leg".and apart from tht I had to learn and figure out sum things myself.cos when I was younger I used to see the way sum girls do act and I learnt sum postive things from them though.Mostly my big sister.
hmm interesting so what are those you learnt from other girls?
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:34 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
i did nt inform my mum wen i saw my first period, so wen she found out dat i had started menstruating without her knowledge, she accused me of having a boyfriend and engaging in sex.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:34 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
i did nt inform my mum wen i saw my first period, so wen she found out dat i had started menstruating without her knowledge, she accused me of having a boyfriend and engaging in sex.
hmmmm....are you serious?
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:38 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Well,my mum used to say "dont listen to their sweet words cos they just want tht thing in blw ur leg".and apart from tht I had to learn and figure out sum things myself.cos when I was younger I used to see the way sum girls do act and I learnt sum postive things from them though.Mostly my big sister.
hmm interesting so what are those you learnt from other girls?
You know "being focused in life and ur studies " tht's when you are in secondary.but once you are out of secondary ,i mean heading to university,you strting thinking of a relationship.cos then you are much more mature.once you are 18yrs ,then you are an adult.But still no sex till you met a man tht you can trust ooooooooo.no be the one waa go give you belle ,come run ooooooooo or deny you.and I guess the church as well,played a significant role.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:44 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
i did nt inform my mum wen i saw my first period, so wen she found out dat i had started menstruating without her knowledge, she accused me of having a boyfriend and engaging in sex.
wow.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:46 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
Well,my mum used to say "dont listen to their sweet words cos they just want tht thing in blw ur leg".and apart from tht I had to learn and figure out sum things myself.cos when I was younger I used to see the way sum girls do act and I learnt sum postive things from them though.Mostly my big sister.
hmm interesting so what are those you learnt from other girls?
You know "being focused in life and ur studies " tht's when you are in secondary.but once you are out of secondary ,i mean heading to university,you strting thinking of a relationship.cos then you are much more mature.once you are 18yrs ,then you are an adult.But still no sex till you met a man tht you can trust ooooooooo.no be the one waa go give you belle ,come run ooooooooo or deny you.and I guess the church as well,played a significant role.
you are right..not like some guys we have on np..e.g..waco,kennee,esonu and the bad one xter and many more.
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:48 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Well,my mum used to say "dont listen to their sweet words cos they just want tht thing in blw ur leg".and apart from tht I had to learn and figure out sum things myself.cos when I was younger I used to see the way sum girls do act and I learnt sum postive things from them though.Mostly my big sister.
hmm interesting so what are those you learnt from other girls?
You know "being focused in life and ur studies " tht's when you are in secondary.but once you are out of secondary ,i mean heading to university,you strting thinking of a relationship.cos then you are much more mature.once you are 18yrs ,then you are an adult.But still no sex till you met a man tht you can trust ooooooooo.no be the one waa go give you belle ,come run ooooooooo or deny you.and I guess the church as well,played a significant role.
you are right..not like some guys we have on np..e.g..waco,kennee,esonu and the bad one xter and many more.
lol.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 07:53 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
shabajulie at 10-08-2010 08:01 PM (14 years ago) (f)
wat my mum said was dat,,, dnt go klose to boys dat by so doing u'l get pregnant...and also wen ifu missed my period in a month,,,u shuld consider urself dead cos ur pegnant..so wen i fell sick i lost my period for a month and i was so scared..having this thought dat wuld sombody hav drugged and raped me,,,,i got to my aunts who made me understand dat i missed my period bcos of stress and so on,,she also made me understand dat,,u'l can only get pregnant wen u'v been sexed by a boy unprotected...wit the help of magazines,novels i gained so much more on sex issues
Posted: at 10-08-2010 08:01 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
wat my mum said was dat,,, dnt go klose to boys dat by so doing u'l get pregnant...and also wen ifu missed my period in a month,,,u shuld consider urself dead cos ur pegnant..so wen i fell sick i lost my period for a month and i was so scared..having this thought dat wuld sombody hav drugged and raped me,,,,i got to my aunts who made me understand dat i missed my period bcos of
little bit confuesd here.stress and so on,,she also made me understand dat,,u'l can only get pregnant wen u'v been sexed by a boy unprotected...wit the help of magazines,novels i gained so much more on sex issues
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 08:03 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
ifeyemi5 at 10-08-2010 10:35 PM (14 years ago) (f)
i actually saw some talk shows in america,about some parents that don't know how to talk to there kids about sex.so i think most parents are shy or embrassed to talk to there kids about sex.which does not suppose to be so.as a christian you can use bible to teach children at age 7-10.before thier peers start telling them.they will come home and ask one day,that whats sex.have heard 5 yrs olds talk about sex.they grow so fast in this country.you just have to find a way of explaining to them the right way for them to understand.nice post.
Posted: at 10-08-2010 10:35 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
diplomatik at 10-08-2010 10:56 PM (14 years ago) (f)
hey sweety...
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Posted: at 10-08-2010 10:56 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero