I don't write in order to make me confident in my realtionship, but to receive another view at things . Im in relationship with Nigerian man and Im from Europe: sometimes I don't understand his bexaviour, although I love him, sometimes his attitude and seeing things make me consider if he truely respect me or not. What is the culture of relationship in Nigeria? What is important for naija man? Regards, God bless you all !
Posted: at 12-08-2010 10:25 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
divineproject at 12-08-2010 10:27 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Most Nigerian men like to DOMINATE.........am sure you dont like dat!
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 12-08-2010 10:27 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
FlyMamacita at 12-08-2010 10:45 AM (14 years ago) (f)
I like this topic kinda...Cuz when i started my relationship i was thinkin nooo d culture differences is nothin, is not gonna b a problem...
But after some months i found out is not true Even i had many Nigerian friends, but now is d first one i have a relationship with and u rily have to understand each other, compromise, and communicate !!
Now u can think it is not easy for u to always understand ur man, but it is not easy for him 2 ! Here in Europe we expect those loving, kissing, hugging, even in public, d way we do our thins on family is totaly different, our view on raising kids is different, daily activity even.... but when u find balance and u put equaly from u and him in d relationship it works out !
Posted: at 12-08-2010 10:45 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Most Nigerian men like to DOMINATE.........am sure you dont like dat!
It's not that I don't like that: I respect that and I'm sure that it's good for relationship when man is full of wisdom . It's also easy to say that love can overcome differences -- it's good reason to learn how to overcome, because everyday living is down-to-earth and these small things built life. Sometimes my Man says that I don't respect him, although I do respect him...! What is for naija men a sign of no-respect...?
Posted: at 12-08-2010 10:51 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
I hope . I know that relationship is relationship and it's not easy even between two people from the same city , everything can be made but understanding and love, however -- we live at distance (my Man lives in another, further city) what makes bigger problem, cause we have never had enough time for enough talk . Everything is crazy.
Posted: at 12-08-2010 10:58 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
solojaro at 12-08-2010 11:00 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Evve on 12-08-2010 10:51 AM
Quote from: divineproject on 12-08-2010 10:27 AM
Most Nigerian men like to DOMINATE.........am sure you dont like dat!
It's not that I don't like that: I respect that and I'm sure that it's good for relationship when man is full of wisdom . It's also easy to say that love can overcome differences -- it's good reason to learn how to overcome, because everyday living is down-to-earth and these small things built life. Sometimes my Man says that I don't respect him, although I do respect him...! What is for naija men a sign of no-respect...?
Listen to whatever he says, obey him first, then later you can let him know of your own idea. and don't try to give him an order.
Posted: at 12-08-2010 11:00 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bittersweet at 12-08-2010 11:03 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: solojaro on 12-08-2010 11:00 AM
Quote from: Evve on 12-08-2010 10:51 AM
Quote from: divineproject on 12-08-2010 10:27 AM
Most Nigerian men like to DOMINATE.........am sure you dont like dat!
It's not that I don't like that: I respect that and I'm sure that it's good for relationship when man is full of wisdom . It's also easy to say that love can overcome differences -- it's good reason to learn how to overcome, because everyday living is down-to-earth and these small things built life. Sometimes my Man says that I don't respect him, although I do respect him...! What is for naija men a sign of no-respect...?
Listen to whatever he says, obey him first, then later you can let him know of your own idea. and don't try to give him an order.
And why she can't be listened first? If it's about something which concerns her,about her life or body,why she should obey him,if she has another opinion?
Live and let live!
Posted: at 12-08-2010 11:03 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
Ok, but how can I recognize if he respects me or not...? It's diffucult for me, cause in my country I can easily say what is what with men, what their behaviour say abt them, but Nigerian men? It's in my mind..., I really believe that respect is the base.
Posted: at 12-08-2010 11:11 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
solojaro at 12-08-2010 11:19 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: bittersweet on 12-08-2010 11:03 AM
Quote from: solojaro on 12-08-2010 11:00 AM
Quote from: Evve on 12-08-2010 10:51 AM
Quote from: divineproject on 12-08-2010 10:27 AM
Most Nigerian men like to DOMINATE.........am sure you dont like dat!
It's not that I don't like that: I respect that and I'm sure that it's good for relationship when man is full of wisdom . It's also easy to say that love can overcome differences -- it's good reason to learn how to overcome, because everyday living is down-to-earth and these small things built life. Sometimes my Man says that I don't respect him, although I do respect him...! What is for naija men a sign of no-respect...?
Listen to whatever he says, obey him first, then later you can let him know of your own idea. and don't try to give him an order.
And why she can't be listened first? If it's about something which concerns her,about her life or body,why she should obey him,if she has another opinion?
That is a difference case, she must let the man knows what concerns her, both life and body. but with repect to the man , and he also will listen to her with respect.
Posted: at 12-08-2010 11:19 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bittersweet at 12-08-2010 11:22 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: solojaro on 12-08-2010 11:19 AM
Quote from: bittersweet on 12-08-2010 11:03 AM
Quote from: solojaro on 12-08-2010 11:00 AM
Quote from: Evve on 12-08-2010 10:51 AM
Quote from: divineproject on 12-08-2010 10:27 AM
Most Nigerian men like to DOMINATE.........am sure you dont like dat!
It's not that I don't like that: I respect that and I'm sure that it's good for relationship when man is full of wisdom . It's also easy to say that love can overcome differences -- it's good reason to learn how to overcome, because everyday living is down-to-earth and these small things built life. Sometimes my Man says that I don't respect him, although I do respect him...! What is for naija men a sign of no-respect...?
Listen to whatever he says, obey him first, then later you can let him know of your own idea. and don't try to give him an order.
And why she can't be listened first? If it's about something which concerns her,about her life or body,why she should obey him,if she has another opinion?
That is a difference case, she must let the man knows what concerns her, both life and body. but with repect to the man , and he also will listen to her with respect.
Aha! When u say "with respect to the man",what do u mean by that? I mean, of course that she would let him know in a calm tone, but just informing him,bcz the decision is taken by her already!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 12-08-2010 11:22 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
solojaro at 12-08-2010 11:25 AM (14 years ago) (m)
He can never talk bad about you in public, can not abuse you, and can never call a third party in between two of you what ever the problem that is between two of you and can never never beat you. He will always ask of your opinion after his.
Posted: at 12-08-2010 11:25 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Most Nigerian men like to DOMINATE.........am sure you dont like dat!
I have to really disagree with you on this one - thats 100% wrong.
Very much not all (naija) people are same but on a rough scale the average Naija man doesn't want to be ridden over, at most decisions should be made together and that doesn't in anyway translate into wanting to dominate you - Nada
as its said respect is reciprocal - sometimes things get flared up, depends on the dude temperament - it could turn funny and everyone waiting for an apology - more like clash of egos .... what id say is, show him nuff love and see what he gives back.
please do not distract and keep discussions along line of topic - make proper use of capit
Posted: at 12-08-2010 11:27 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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. Im in relationship with Nigerian man and Im from Europe: sometimes I don't understand his bexaviour, although I love him, sometimes his attitude and seeing things make me consider if he truely respect me or not. 
Even i had many Nigerian friends, but now is d first one i have a relationship with and u rily have to understand each other, compromise, and communicate !!
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