![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 12-08-2010 12:06 PM (14 years ago)  (m) Family up bringing have a very big role to play in this kind of issue, here in Nigeria we have different traditions. Which doesn't support a man to intermediate a woman in the name of tradition. @Evve, your man have to understand that there is not Nigeria, the culture there is different, he should be considerate knowing that you both are different individuals coming together to make something out of your relationship. Though it would be very hard for you two to understand yourselves better, but only time will make things fall in shape. Good communication is the key and compromise to make the relationship a good. I wish you good luck!  Thank you  . He is really wonderful and smart Man, I couldnt say something wrong about his ways, I'm not perfect, so how could I criticise him also. I just consider sometimes his behaviour towards me. Welcome! You can awalys confront or seek for explanation from him whenever you don't understand any of his behaviour. Do that softly, you know that soft words softens a hard mind. As I said, it's not easy at all. I know that we had problem with communication, because of distance -- when we met, it's never been enough time to talk about everything or all issues that exists in our heads. Well, In that case you don't expect everything to be okay when distance is there as a barrier! Do you think that this kind of relationship has got a chance....?
Yes, Only if you two would do something about the distance. Making out time to be together, at least once in a while untill you two finally decide to move in together (if need be)
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:06 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 12-08-2010 12:09 PM (14 years ago) (f) there r different culturwe and tradition in naija...wich tribe ya man came from??
if u love him u accept it..indeed respect such man who still follow the culture and tradition in a foreign land...
He's from south Nigeria. i mean tribe like ibo,yoruba,calabar,hausa,,, Im sorry, I didn't know the word "tribe", thanks for explaining. Ibo. Do you see...? This is the meaning of different culture, it's not enough to say abt country  . In my country there are no tribes . yeh i know m from europe as well :)m married to a calabar man...u can get a lot information from google as well...but its not sure ya husby follow all the traditions and culture the way u see it write it down on paper...the best way if u sit down and talk with him and show ya interest to know more about his culture,traditon and language....just imagine how lonely he can feel himself in a foreign land??..if he can talk about it or teach u some things about it...can makes him happy a lil bit check out thi9s page...good luck and no forget communication is the key http://www.africaguide.com/culture/tribes/ibo.htm
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:09 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 12:23 PM (14 years ago) (f) Talking, talking, talking... . I know it's important, but I also wanted to know how naijarian people see it and more. What is important for naijirian man in relationship, how should that relationship functions..., I know it's not smart question, but Im interested in that views. | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:23 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 12-08-2010 12:26 PM (14 years ago) (f) Talking, talking, talking... . I know it's important, but I also wanted to know how naijarian people see it and more. What is important for naijirian man in relationship, how should that relationship functions..., I know it's not smart question, but Im interested in that views. naija man...like to be a man always...i mean he needs a lot respect,understanding,care, love..just like others...dey r men as well so not much different ...and also is not bad if u can cook some naija food:-P
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:26 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 12:30 PM (14 years ago) (f) Talking, talking, talking... . I know it's important, but I also wanted to know how naijarian people see it and more. What is important for naijirian man in relationship, how should that relationship functions..., I know it's not smart question, but Im interested in that views. naija man...like to be a man always...i mean he needs a lot respect,understanding,care, love..just like others...dey r men as well so not much different ...and also is not bad if u can cook some naija food:-P You see -- I like that mens features... and maybe it is strange for me, cause these mens features I saw first time, when I started relationship with my man . How they behave when they don't respect woman, is there something special, that loving MAN could never do (abt his behaviour towards his woman). | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:30 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 12-08-2010 12:33 PM (14 years ago) (f) Talking, talking, talking... . I know it's important, but I also wanted to know how naijarian people see it and more. What is important for naijirian man in relationship, how should that relationship functions..., I know it's not smart question, but Im interested in that views. naija man...like to be a man always...i mean he needs a lot respect,understanding,care, love..just like others...dey r men as well so not much different ...and also is not bad if u can cook some naija food:-P You see -- I like that mens features... and maybe it is strange for me, cause these mens features I saw first time, when I started relationship with my man . How they behave when they don't respect woman, is there something special, that loving MAN could never do (abt his behaviour towards his woman). my dear i cant define that...each men r different..there r no fix characters on that....but u must feel it if u r not respected...
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:33 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 12:39 PM (14 years ago) (f) Hmm... Im affraid that my personality is that I can take as a disrepect something what is not disrespect . I hope that naijirian men dont feel bad with my questions, I dont look at them as "specials", but I mean culture. | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:39 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 12-08-2010 12:42 PM (14 years ago) (f) say an example what he does to u...let us see..maybe is disrespect or not
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:42 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 12:44 PM (14 years ago) (f) when we had argue, then he refuse to talk with me, he didnt pick up telephone for two weeks (good example? ) | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:44 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 12-08-2010 12:45 PM (14 years ago) (f) when we had argue, then he refuse to talk with me, he didnt pick up telephone for two weeks (good example? ) hehehe thats simple childish...  indeed funny..just leave him to come down...r u guys married??
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:45 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 12-08-2010 12:46 PM (14 years ago) (f) First of all respect is the key word to a Nigerian man Secondly a Nigerian man dont take shit and doesnt want to be ride in other words he maintain his pride and ego where ever he finds himself | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:46 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 12:48 PM (14 years ago) (f) Sometimes Im affraid that if I wouldnt call him and make him talk, he would be silent and will never call me back . We are not married. | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:48 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 12:49 PM (14 years ago) (f) First of all respect is the key word to a Nigerian man
Secondly a Nigerian man dont take shit and doesnt want to be ride
in other words he maintain his pride and ego where ever he finds himself
I think so , but: if it is not hard for women? | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:49 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 12:58 PM (14 years ago) (f) Thank you all for discusing and everything you said . Wish you all the best! | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:58 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 12-08-2010 12:58 PM (14 years ago) (f) Sometimes Im affraid that if I wouldnt call him and make him talk, he would be silent and will never call me back . We are not married. aww ok.what can i say on that...
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 12-08-2010 12:58 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 12-08-2010 01:02 PM (14 years ago) (f) First of all respect is the key word to a Nigerian man
Secondly a Nigerian man dont take shit and doesnt want to be ride
in other words he maintain his pride and ego where ever he finds himself
I think so , but: if it is not hard for women? All this the women knows and had tried to abide wit it just that civilization is crawling in by d dawning of each day that y is not as tidious as it was b4 | Posted: at 12-08-2010 01:02 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 12-08-2010 01:03 PM (14 years ago) (f) i cant hold it o....if u guys not married and he didnt answear ya call for 2 weeks awww girl wake up...
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 12-08-2010 01:03 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Evve") Evve at 12-08-2010 01:06 PM (14 years ago) (f) i cant hold it o....if u guys not married and he didnt answear ya call for 2 weeks awww girl wake up...
Hmm... I know, although... whatever, I decided to be friends for us, no matter what he says. Im just interested in this kind of issue (theory): relationship with naija man. | Posted: at 12-08-2010 01:06 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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I hope . I know that relationship is relationship and it's not easy even between two people from the same city , everything can be made but understanding and love, however -- we live at distance (my Man lives in another, further city) what makes bigger problem, cause we have never had enough time for enough talk . Everything is crazy.
U asked abt culture differences.... do u notice any problems abt tht ? | Posted: at 12-08-2010 04:48 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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i cant hold it o....if u guys not married and he didnt answear ya call for 2 weeks awww girl wake up...
mmm 2 weeks is not small...depends on d argue also, mayb he need to cool down | Posted: at 12-08-2010 04:59 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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