There are many causes for not just arguments, after all we argue even with our siblings and sometimes parents, but in marriage, there are bound to be misunderstandings and the bad foundation laid at the beginning cause a marriage to turn sour.
The main issue is IMPATIENCE.
If we can apply the same patience we do to any other relationship, such as jobs, casual relationships, church relationships, etc, maybe, marriages will last longer. But we tend to believe there are certain things we shouldn't tolerate from our partners, then we throw the bath water out with the babies. Its terrible to think of how much effort some people put into getting into a marriage relationship but when inside it, they cannot put in a third of such effort to maintain it.
We all want something beautiful, but we have problems thinking beyond getting that beautiful thing. We have problems planning to MAINTAIN our relationships, no matter what we have professed before getting it. :'(
If only we can look beyond the stone and see the diamond, the pure gem in our partners, life, marriage will be worth all the efforts.
I will leave you with this verse of the Bible that reads "Man that is in honor, and understandeth not, is like the beasts that perish" Psalm 49:20.
Any time you ask for anything from God, make sure you are ready to pay the price to make good use of it. After all in the same Bible, we read that " a man that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor of God". Do you think the favor of God comes cheap? You have to pay a price to maintain that favor. You have to show God that you appreciate that favor, you have to prove that you are worth the favor.
If you are married, I thank God for you but if you are looking for a partner, consider well, if you are able to prove the favor is not wasted on you.
God bless.
Posted: at 14-09-2010 09:37 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie |
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