Why do most women always go back to an abusive relationship? (Page 6)

a great bang and kicking and lots of abusive words was rained on her and she swore she would never return....... weeks after she was sighted again with d guy laughing all d way and that same night of reconciliation she was abused again.... yet she keeps on coming back.... so i wonder.... WHAT IS IT THAT ALWAYS BRING HER BACK.....WHAT DOES HE  HAVE THAT MAKES HER ALWAYS COME BACK TO HIM??

its love.

>>>>>>>>>>>>KENNE  each time i approach she is always swearing never to go back again, she claims she always find herself always going back.... she even confuse of how she was beaten to coma..... she is equally confuse and needs help.... millions are out there and needs our help.

agreed that most of them have learnt love the wrong way... but what abt giving a trial elsewhere for comparism sake.

 I think some of these women were never truly taught what real love is, and to gain the affection they never had they feel they have to put up with those crap,because their definition of love is struggle and pain.Coming from an abusive home and culture,where most of the men treat their women most of the time like shit, i have decided i will never marry or get in a relationship where a man will control or even think he has the control. So it might not truly be their faults, thats why God and a psychiatrist are always available.

There is always an issue of dependence, just not economical. It could be social, physical or emotional. There is always a degree of psychology behind any issue whether they are conscious or unconscious. The mind is very intricate and to fully understand it is nearly impossible. We can't know what we simply don't know and there are many things we feel we may have a grasp on and really do not. She could be working class but have the mindset that having a relationship is better than not. Especially with my experience in the culture..just witnessing several different circumstances, that view that marriage and relationships "looks" better than being single has trapped so many people in nonsensical and destructive situations. I have seen people die in them as well. So..there are so many levels to the argument..not just one viewpoint.

In most case, people in such  situation either boys or girls, are victim of low self esteem..This psychological problem is as a result of lack of self love..It has less to do with abuse,money, education, love and religion but most as a result of lack of enough information in accepting and understanding oneself..

Most Africans women, even with the exposure and education still have some degree of dependency on the male counterpart either consciously or unconsciously, emotionally, financially and most inportantly segxwally. They have a mindset that pulling thru abusive relationships is synonymous to the endurance n perseverance that is needed for every marriage to work. it is very unfortunate that most women still have inferiority complexes...most belive they arent gud enof for their men. i believe this is one of d major reasons most of them kip going back to d abusive partner even if they are tired of it.