marriage in 9ja

Does it surprise you to read this in a country where people only care about themselves and their families as if they live in a vacuum? Where churches are springing up at every corner to collect money from the innocent and poor people; where pastors preach that having sex with their members is a form of purification; where we have self made, self claimed Bishopwood heading some night "churches"; where people think that Jesus or God live in the world today; We need more mental Health institutes where people can start receiving treatments so that they can be re-oriented to life before they convert or convince people to think that their warped or thwarted ways are the best for the vulnerable and oppressed. A young struggling woman, mother of three and married to an unemployed man, once told me that a woman of God told her that her helpers are rich married men and so she should get the help when they come....I wonder if she meant that the woman can have sex with them for money but that is what the young woman from a poor family got out of it; and the woman of god told her not to pay rent to her landlord because the owner of the house is a wizard whose attempts to kill her has failed and to perform some rituals to stop the landlord from coming after her. Now, is that woman from God or hell? Decipher this. I think she will create a dangerous situation forcing the hands of the bad Landlord. Now which one is from the river, the landlord or the so-called woman of God? Are they married and having children? Yes. Are the children future husbands from hell? Possibly yes, unless God intervenes.

Now trending: Gay men are having street sex too. Who is picking them up? Some people laugh out of ignorance, impatience or misunderstanding. The fact remains that sex will always be a form of business (1) as long as the devil remains in the world, (2) as long as money is a form of exchange, (3) as long as men and women have genitals, (4) as long as Nigerian remains dominantly poor, (5) as long as the rich continue to abuse the poor, undermine their integrity, and the government do not give a "flying leap" about the other 97% of the their population (the middle class being 2% and the rich being about 1% or less). Nigeria embraced western civilization before they were prepared for it. As long as we continue to delude ourselves that we can drive N8,000,000 to N10,000,000 vehicles, build and live N100,000,000 houses, fly out our children to other countries and pay N12,000,000 for each of our children to go to school in USA and EUROPE, keep 4 to 5 girlfriends in different houses since it is unfashionable to marry them and have two or more wives, the other village or poorer girls will hit to streets for resources. Now, the poor and ugly hearted mothers, who are too old to run the streets or are ex-street runners themselves, throw on the children's faces making comparisons about how the other girls that are the same age range as their children are making it; and encourage them to find out how and do the same. The ladies who trust their mother's opinion go out and find other lose girls who beat them first to get out of their customer's space, and then start the informal education by telling them that they should "try it because it does not kill", "there is no commitment", "it pays hourly", and "after a second or third try, they will become numb to morals or morality", and "mom will be proud of their new found source of wealth". I will address these later. The irony of this lifestyle and source of income is that, these naive young elementary school and secondary school or university students and drop outs; unemployed secondary school or university graduates; formerly or currently abused wives; single mothers; or ex-cons who just dropped through the cracks; dope and/or crack heads; and the children from Satan himself (remember some are direct gifts from the devil to women who asked the juju, sun or river gods to bless them with children) and some formerly good, clean, young women; do not know that sex really kills via untreated or un-managed herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV, AIDS, E-Coli and Staphylococcus Aureus ingestion, Tetanus from infected needles and nails on the streets, ulcer from hours of starvation while waiting for clients/jons/patrons. They do not know that there is an unwritten commitment to all the men they sleep with which manifests into life-long depressive states (often manic depressive conditions or psychosis), it does not pay hourly because the pimps or madams that brought them to Lagos collect 80% of their pay in exchange for a small salary, filthy, roach infested living environments, varicose veins from long hours of standing, health risks from going in and out of strange people's cars. Let us attempt to track the missing girls who are sold to sex slavery at home and overseas instead of blaming them. It is dangerous because they are sold to have sex with drug-heads, boys, other household members, household pets (dogs, cats, pigs and horses) by perverts in Nigeria and other countries. We are responsible for our girl and and women. They are later thrown out to die on the streets when they become too old to serve after years or re-conditioning. Yes, slavery is still going on on blacks. Blacks are still selling blacks and whites are still using them as trash whenever feasible or perpetuated. These street workers are often raped and sodomized even when the girls realize that they are in the company of monsters, devils, impotent and cult men and thrown back into the street with bruises, cuts, infections, and homelessness and a lifelong mental illness from the trauma. Now know this: the crime of sex out there, polluting your innocent children, and our neighborhoods is not the fault of these women alone. They are having sex with men and lesbian women. Rape and illicit sex often leads to abortion, planned or not. Some spontaneous abortion by forced sex or underground forced abortion, and ectopic sex from random implantation of fertilized ovum, often lead to traumatic death. The government and those of you who find it hilarious, should go after those enabling it and you may begin to find a solution or minimization of the street sex problem. The roach hotels that encourage it should be busted and closed. For the girls on this forum: morality is something you learn during your developmental years. It does not leave you. When the glamor of flashy lifestyle leaves you (because you do not have the resources to manage the acquired wealth), you will soon be faced with no friends, no respectful husband if any, no money and a different kind of poverty - a regretful one because you have tasted wealth but it was a false wealth. Did you know that young men are joining the prostitution ring in Nigeria now. It is still practiced mostly under the table but it is out there. The imbalance is that they are paid better because they are hired mostly by rich women, and gay men who pay highly to keep it hush-hush. Every year, more young men join the ring. There will soon be an explosion if you do not start picking them off the streets. If you find a well dressed man standing by the roadside at 12am, believe me, he is not waiting for a bus or selling pure water. They are waiting for sugar daddies or sugar mommies or sex patron as well. For all of you who have read so far, according to proverbs, wealth acquired fast or from the wrong source is never or hardly sustainable. Who sustains you is one who made you in the first place. Go back to God and ask Him to guide, protect and provide for you through all your trials in life. Go in peace

Posted: at 25-01-2011 06:19 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

na wetin, the tory too much abeg! U for try summarize

e wooooo, no be small thing

Posted: at 31-01-2011 12:02 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

reasonable culture are fading away

Posted: at 2-09-2015 11:41 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming

post too much well marriage is a thing of the mind so be prepare

Posted: at 3-03-2016 09:36 PM (8 years ago) | Hero