
Why is it such a prevailing tendency among the average Nigerian to point fingers at the woman when a relationship or marriage encounters difficulties?

Every corner I turn these days seems to echo with tales of the Alakijas' separation.
As I delved into the narratives surrounding their split, my initial thoughts gravitated towards a recent incident involving Mr. Modupe Alakija, who was reportedly suspended from Ikoyi Club for an altercation with another member. I couldn't help but wonder if that same temper had manifested itself at home.
Let me be clear: I am not absolving the man of responsibility, nor am I advocating for blind support of the woman. My concern lies in the prevalent tendency within Nigerian society to solely blame women when marriages or relationships falter.
There exist numerous factors to ponder when dissecting a relationship that has soured.
Dear Nigerian men, it's crucial to recognize that it takes two to tango.
Had Sinachi, the singer, decided to leave her husband and marriage, perhaps she would still be with us today.
Must we blame a woman for running away from a toxic marriage or relationship?
Some said Folorunsho Alakija is a marriage counselor and that they thought she would keep her home.
And so what?
Are you for real?
Are you saying a woman should stay even if the marriage might lead to her demise?
Come on now!
And these people have been married for over 30 years.
Give her a break, please!
She’s a human being, for God’s sake.
And it’s a separation at this moment. Who says that they can’t patch whatever they’re going through?
And if it ends in divorce, how is that your problem?
Are you saying because she’s the richest woman in Nigeria and she’s a pastor or whatever it means she should take every bad thing that comes her way and say okay to it?
Dear Naija men, please stop this nonsense of blaming the women alone.
We men too have our faults, and we are sometimes the catalyst for the separation or divorce.
Let’s stop the blame game and work on our differences so as to have better relationships and marriages.
Peace and Love to y’all.
– Adex Show
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