![-]( "truenaija2") truenaija2 at 1-03-2011 11:01 PM (13 years ago)  (f)  | Posted: at 1-03-2011 11:01 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "Kennee") Kennee at 1-03-2011 11:20 PM (13 years ago) (m) She loves him, he claims to love her. They have been together for less than three months n so far so good.
She found out recently that he has immigration prbs n his best option is to marry an EU citizen. She is really confused now. From what she noes about him, she likes but is that the real him or was it just a ploy to get stay in the country but she only ever want to get married once. She has seen people in similar situation but they have been in such relationship for years so it wasnt a big jump.
Personally, I think getting married shud b a lifetime union between two people n they havent known each other long enuf for her to start making such sacrifices (I havent told her this). She is prepared to move with him to naij after studies if he is really serious but he doesnt want to go back to naija. Pals what do you think? Is he using her? I think that whatever her decision, there will be repercussions, I just hope that it can be shortlived and minimised.
3months is wayyyy too Early
WHEN YU DIE YU TAKE NOTHING WITH YU, SO PLS PUT A SMILE ON YUR NEIGHBOR'S FACE | Posted: at 1-03-2011 11:20 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "ILOVEIT") ILOVEIT at 1-03-2011 11:26 PM (13 years ago) (m) hmm is not easy ooo,the heart of man cannot be predict most of the time
i can't really tell the guy intention,but one thing for sure the guy has an immigration issue,
and he want/needs to solve it..hmm 3months ain't enough to know somebody naa!.
who knows,maybe he really loves her.but the girl needs some concrete satisfaction b4 jumping into marrying him.
 funny u..but am serious oo sounds like a good prescription....just what the doctor ordered . will pass yur message on
The difference between GENIUS and STUPIDITY is that, genius has it limits.. | Posted: at 1-03-2011 11:26 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "truenaija2") truenaija2 at 1-03-2011 11:37 PM (13 years ago) (f) tell her to thread carefully make she watch out for part two of dat guy  let him solve his immigration problem n come back to the girl den she wont need any doubts | Posted: at 1-03-2011 11:37 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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thx true naija and kennee- I will pass it on,...hope she makes the rite decision PS- I like the "watch out for part 2", | Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:21 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 2-03-2011 01:25 AM (13 years ago) (m) hmmmm complicated issue. what kind of Immigration problems he has? Any ideas ?
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 2-03-2011 01:25 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Too little time for talking about marriage!
He must solve his problems before anything, and without her help!
So,no,she should NOT marry him NOW!
thats what I think....what happens wen he asks her to help him stay in the country how can she say no w/o appearing mean + unhelpful
so he should be reasonable! Moreover, it's his chance now to prove his real love by solving
his issues by his himself !
But if he will still ask her help,they must sit down and talk seriously! She must reason well (too soon and so on),
and he should understand her!
If he will make a scene from this.....sorry, but she should reconsider that relationship!
Live and let live! | Posted: at 2-03-2011 08:53 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "pholake") pholake at 2-03-2011 11:12 AM (13 years ago) (f) I love ur title! To the issue, and as a matter of personal opinion, I think it's too early for the lady to make huge sacrifices for the guy. Moreso, it appears he thinks about himselt too much in this matter...after solving his immigration problems, what next? | Posted: at 2-03-2011 11:12 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "olumbareal") olumbareal at 2-03-2011 11:32 AM (13 years ago) (m) I love ur title!
To the issue, and as a matter of personal opinion, I think it's too early for the lady to make huge sacrifices for the guy. Moreso, it appears he thinks about himselt too much in this matter...after solving his immigration problems, what next?
Well said and supported. | Posted: at 2-03-2011 11:32 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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hmmmm complicated issue. what kind of Immigration problems he has? Any ideas ?
just tougher laws in the UK. for example, there is a new points system. To qualify most people have to be earning 40k and above to meet the criteria. It used to be around 20k. | Posted: at 2-03-2011 11:48 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Too little time for talking about marriage!
He must solve his problems before anything, and without her help!
So,no,she should NOT marry him NOW!
thats what I think....what happens wen he asks her to help him stay in the country how can she say no w/o appearing mean + unhelpful
so he should be reasonable! Moreover, it's his chance now to prove his real love by solving his issues by his himself !
But if he will still ask her help,they must sit down and talk seriously! She must reason well (too soon and so on),
and he should understand her!
If he will make a scene from this.....sorry, but she should reconsider that relationship! He hasnt asked her personally but his frns av been hinting n putting pressure by saying if she love him she shud do it. She also claims that he has been distant recently n she doesnt know if it is cuz he is trying to resolve his issue or ..... | Posted: at 2-03-2011 11:51 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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I love ur title!
To the issue, and as a matter of personal opinion, I think it's too early for the lady to make huge sacrifices for the guy. Moreso, it appears he thinks about himselt too much in this matter...after solving his immigration problems, what next?
Well said and supported. thx to both of yu! | Posted: at 2-03-2011 11:52 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 2-03-2011 11:52 AM (13 years ago) (f) hmm is not easy ooo,the heart of man cannot be predict most of the time
i can't really tell the guy intention,but one thing for sure the guy has an immigration issue,
and he want/needs to solve it..hmm 3months ain't enough to know somebody naa!.
who knows,maybe he really loves her.but the girl needs some concrete satisfaction b4 jumping into marrying him.
i go wif this...let d girl give him more time to really know who dis man is | Posted: at 2-03-2011 11:52 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Too little time for talking about marriage!
He must solve his problems before anything, and without her help!
So,no,she should NOT marry him NOW!
thats what I think....what happens wen he asks her to help him stay in the country how can she say no w/o appearing mean + unhelpful
so he should be reasonable! Moreover, it's his chance now to prove his real love by solving his issues by his himself !
But if he will still ask her help,they must sit down and talk seriously! She must reason well (too soon and so on),
and he should understand her!
If he will make a scene from this.....sorry, but she should reconsider that relationship! He hasnt asked her personally but his frns av been hinting n putting pressure by saying if she love him she shud do it. She also claims that he has been distant recently n she doesnt know if it is cuz he is trying to resolve his issue or .....
Live and let live! | Posted: at 2-03-2011 11:54 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Too little time for talking about marriage!
He must solve his problems before anything, and without her help!
So,no,she should NOT marry him NOW!
thats what I think....what happens wen he asks her to help him stay in the country how can she say no w/o appearing mean + unhelpful
so he should be reasonable! Moreover, it's his chance now to prove his real love by solving his issues by his himself !
But if he will still ask her help,they must sit down and talk seriously! She must reason well (too soon and so on),
and he should understand her!
If he will make a scene from this.....sorry, but she should reconsider that relationship! He hasnt asked her personally but his frns av been hinting n putting pressure by saying if she love him she shud do it. She also claims that he has been distant recently n she doesnt know if it is cuz he is trying to resolve his issue or ..... she is a smart gal, and from my conversation with her she noes watsup but I think she is struggling with her decision. I have to try n be there for her n I hope she doesnt make the wrong decision. All these immgration drama is such a drag | Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:22 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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hmm is not easy ooo,the heart of man cannot be predict most of the time
i can't really tell the guy intention,but one thing for sure the guy has an immigration issue,
and he want/needs to solve it..hmm 3months ain't enough to know somebody naa!.
who knows,maybe he really loves her.but the girl needs some concrete satisfaction b4 jumping into marrying him.
i go wif this...let d girl give him more time to really know who dis man is thx ble. | Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:23 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Too little time for talking about marriage!
He must solve his problems before anything, and without her help!
So,no,she should NOT marry him NOW!
thats what I think....what happens wen he asks her to help him stay in the country how can she say no w/o appearing mean + unhelpful
so he should be reasonable! Moreover, it's his chance now to prove his real love by solving his issues by his himself !
But if he will still ask her help,they must sit down and talk seriously! She must reason well (too soon and so on),
and he should understand her!
If he will make a scene from this.....sorry, but she should reconsider that relationship! He hasnt asked her personally but his frns av been hinting n putting pressure by saying if she love him she shud do it. She also claims that he has been distant recently n she doesnt know if it is cuz he is trying to resolve his issue or ..... she is a smart gal, and from my conversation with her she noes watsup but I think she is struggling with her decision. I have to try n be there for her n I hope she doesnt make the wrong decision. All these immgration drama is such a drag
I hope she'll not make a wrong decision!
Live and let live! | Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:27 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 2-03-2011 12:29 PM (13 years ago) (m) hmmmm complicated issue. what kind of Immigration problems he has? Any ideas ?
just tougher laws in the UK. for example, there is a new points system. To qualify most people have to be earning 40k and above to meet the criteria. It used to be around 20k. really? | Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:29 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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hmmm 3 months is too soon to talk of marriage...but if she rily wanna help him
there r oda ways now...wey she dey for Europe??
My personal opinion wud b, to check d guy out if he is serious or not...and helpin him get paper is not
d smartest idea to do dat | Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:36 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Yes SBI- they have raised the points to 100, so even if you pass other areas, you will need 20-25 points from earnings....unless yu have a PHD http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/workingintheuk/tier1/general/eligibility/pointsassessment/earnings/ | Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:40 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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