Talk To The Hands (The Silent Treatment)............ (Page 2)

That means women can get more attention by using the silent treatment than by shouting and crying?

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:06 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

hahaha...i guex its just a rude way of avoiding/stopping arguments from escalating....

Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:08 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Ooops, is that the kinda Silent you mean ? I got it the other way round,

Well in that case, i will take it a sign, it means she is tired of all the romance shyts we're having, everyone got his/her way of handling some personal matters. if such happened and i tried to keep in touch and she decline by been silent, I will also go silent about the matter and forget her, there's one thing, let me address it this way, is bad side of men, Most Men got this, if they will be honest, Once a man lost interest in a woman due to one thing or the other, is very very difficult to make that man come back again to the normal him in that relationship, even if he still maintain to be with the girl, He's not there anymore, he's some where outside the girl's world.

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:12 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

The silent treatment DOES NOT work. It will worsen the argument and create a hostile environment for the household and everyone in it. If u love your partner and have a commitment to the marriage/relationship, there should be nothing that stops u from communicating with your partner. The saying goes, when you've stopped talking, you've stopped trying!

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:15 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

What about when it is the man that is keeping silent now, what message is he passing across?

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:17 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

BS, what does the person at the receiving end do, especially when the relationship hasnt been sealed

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:21 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

Ble, there may or may not be an argument before he/she stops communicating.  Take for instance, the other party is in another area and the only way to communicate is through phone, you have tried to call, your call isnt being picked, you sent text, no reply and yet the person wont get across to you especially when you arent even aware of any problem btw the two of you.......

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:26 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

How can u "women" be silent when you dont know when and how to open yr mouth

Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:31 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

My Say To Dp's Question is this

The silent treatment is an extremely malignant pattern of behavior meant to convey anger, hurt, and rage. The recipients of this are often unclear about why they are being singled out for this. Often times, the reason are petty. This is malignant because it creates tension, guilt and even paranoia within the relationship.

Many times the person who uses stonewalling learned it during childhood. Its learned within a family system that did the same thing. Often, its a power play, designed to get others to "apologize" for the supposed offense. In the power play, there is a struggle within the mind of the individual using stonewalling, to see who can hold out the longest. This is ridiculous and damaging to relationships.

let them be. If you want, you can make one more attempt to communicate but, assuming the person still refuses, leave him/her to his/her own turmoil. Don't make this your problem.

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:33 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Thank you Sophie..............but this means that each time this happens, a relationship is about to hit the rock..........so sad

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Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:37 PM (13 years ago) | Hero