A friend of mine told me this: ‘THE LOUD VOICE OF A MAN MAY SHOCK AND THREATEN A WOMAN, BUT HER SILENCE SENDS SHIVERS UP HIS SPINE’. In other words, most men are not comfortable when the woman gives them the mute treatment. How true is this?
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Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:27 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
dirtykid at 25-03-2011 12:30 PM (14 years ago) (m)
hmmm for me, i don't see that as anything, is better to keep silent when when i'm little upset than hearing from the other side, someone shouting or talking something, even if is meaningful but at that point is meaningless to me as long as i'm in a wrong mood, I can only listen well once my mood is deactivated.
So i don't see silent as any threat.
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Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:30 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 25-03-2011 12:44 PM (14 years ago) (f)
The silent treatment or "stonewalling" refers to someone who is letting you know that something is wrong without telling you why. If you ask if anything is wrong, you are met with silence. There is no explanation, no response of any kind, only stony silence.
Too many people, within the context of their intimate relationship, seem to believe that their partner can read their mind. In other words, there is an incorrect notion that you should know why he or she is upset. Most often, the recipient of the silence is left with feelings of confusion and exasperation as they try to resolve the problem. However, how can someone resolve a problem when they do not know what is wrong?
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:44 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
divineproject at 25-03-2011 12:46 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: dirtykid on 25-03-2011 12:30 PM
hmmm for me, i don't see that as anything, is better to keep silent when when i'm little upset than hearing from the other side, someone shouting or talking something, even if is meaningful but at that point is meaningless to me as long as i'm in a wrong mood, I can only listen well once my mood is deactivated.
So i don't see silent as any threat.
Dorti Pikin, I mean if you are having a little problem with your baby for instance and she decides not to get in touch or make any move to make things fine, would that get to you?
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:46 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 25-03-2011 12:48 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 25-03-2011 12:44 PM
The silent treatment or "stonewalling" refers to someone who is letting you know that something is wrong without telling you why. If you ask if anything is wrong, you are met with silence. There is no explanation, no response of any kind, only stony silence.
Too many people, within the context of their intimate relationship, seem to believe that their partner can read their mind. In other words, there is an incorrect notion that you should know why he or she is upset. Most often, the recipient of the silence is left with feelings of confusion and exasperation as they try to resolve the problem. However, how can someone resolve a problem when they do not know what is wrong?
Oh sophie, filled with wisdom........this is so cool and insightful........
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:48 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 25-03-2011 12:48 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 25-03-2011 12:44 PM
The silent treatment or "stonewalling" refers to someone who is letting you know that something is wrong without telling you why. If you ask if anything is wrong, you are met with silence. There is no explanation, no response of any kind, only stony silence.
Too many people, within the context of their intimate relationship, seem to believe that their partner can read their mind. In other words, there is an incorrect notion that you should know why he or she is upset. Most often, the recipient of the silence is left with feelings of confusion and exasperation as they try to resolve the problem. However, how can someone resolve a problem when they do not know what is wrong?
In other words! what am trying to say in essence is: The paradox in this situation is that ultimately gets provoked is anger that then leads to a very loud argument.
Because the use of this passive aggressive weapon is so damaging to relationships it is important that the couple seek marriage counseling. Stonewalling does not promote intimacy, trust or marital and relational happiness.
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:48 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
blessedme at 25-03-2011 12:50 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 25-03-2011 12:44 PM
The silent treatment or "stonewalling" refers to someone who is letting you know that something is wrong without telling you why. If you ask if anything is wrong, you are met with silence. There is no explanation, no response of any kind, only stony silence.
Too many people, within the context of their intimate relationship, seem to believe that their partner can read their mind. In other words, there is an incorrect notion that you should know why he or she is upset. Most often, the recipient of the silence is left with feelings of confusion and exasperation as they try to resolve the problem. However, how can someone resolve a problem when they do not know what is wrong?
this is cool and nice
Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:50 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 25-03-2011 12:53 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 25-03-2011 12:48 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 25-03-2011 12:44 PM
The silent treatment or "stonewalling" refers to someone who is letting you know that something is wrong without telling you why. If you ask if anything is wrong, you are met with silence. There is no explanation, no response of any kind, only stony silence.
Too many people, within the context of their intimate relationship, seem to believe that their partner can read their mind. In other words, there is an incorrect notion that you should know why he or she is upset. Most often, the recipient of the silence is left with feelings of confusion and exasperation as they try to resolve the problem. However, how can someone resolve a problem when they do not know what is wrong?
In other words! what am trying to say in essence is: The paradox in this situation is that ultimately gets provoked is anger that then leads to a very loud argument.
Because the use of this passive aggressive weapon is so damaging to relationships it is important that the couple seek marriage counseling. Stonewalling does not promote intimacy, trust or marital and relational happiness.
Sophie, what about when this happens in a relationship that hasnt been sealed yet? like courtship?.......what do the hurting party do or rather how should dis be resolved?
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:53 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 25-03-2011 12:55 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: dirtykid on 25-03-2011 12:30 PM
hmmm for me, i don't see that as anything, is better to keep silent when when i'm little upset than hearing from the other side, someone shouting or talking something, even if is meaningful but at that point is meaningless to me as long as i'm in a wrong mood, I can only listen well once my mood is deactivated.
So i don't see silent as any threat.
Do you know that The silent treatment is one of the most damaging relationship problems?
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 25-03-2011 12:55 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
sophiebaby at 25-03-2011 01:01 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: divineproject on 25-03-2011 12:53 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 25-03-2011 12:48 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 25-03-2011 12:44 PM
The silent treatment or "stonewalling" refers to someone who is letting you know that something is wrong without telling you why. If you ask if anything is wrong, you are met with silence. There is no explanation, no response of any kind, only stony silence.
Too many people, within the context of their intimate relationship, seem to believe that their partner can read their mind. In other words, there is an incorrect notion that you should know why he or she is upset. Most often, the recipient of the silence is left with feelings of confusion and exasperation as they try to resolve the problem. However, how can someone resolve a problem when they do not know what is wrong?
In other words! what am trying to say in essence is: The paradox in this situation is that ultimately gets provoked is anger that then leads to a very loud argument.
Because the use of this passive aggressive weapon is so damaging to relationships it is important that the couple seek marriage counseling. Stonewalling does not promote intimacy, trust or marital and relational happiness.
Sophie, what about when this happens in a relationship that hasnt been sealed yet? like courtship?.......what do the hurting party do or rather how should dis be resolved?
how can someone resolve a problem when they do not know what is wrong? The ultimate goal of the strategy is to win. The silent partner is expressing rage in a way that is passive aggressive. This is designed to get attention and to provoke feelings of guilt.
By the way, there are those parents who use this weapon on their children, refusing to talk to or acknowledge them until they have apologized for some mysterious affront they have allegedly committed.
Apology is needed From the heart of the partner
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 25-03-2011 01:01 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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