My good friend Anna came to see me yesterday with a problem. Pals, please help solve this riddle for her. This is the story told in her own words: “Three times now I’ve caught her virtually devouring him. He complains she goes round to his flat when I’m not there.
I don’t like this and he swears that he does nothing to encourage her but she won’t accept she’s doing anything wrong.
The other evening he rang me and hissed: “She’s here again.” I got in the car and whizzed round. I found her dressed in a short skirt and high heels.
She was pouring him a glass of wine. She’d brought a rom-com DVD and was talking about calling in a takeaway food (pizza). When I asked her what the hell she was playing at, she looked at me all innocently and said: “I thought you were dyeing your sister’s hair.”
I said I was, but that didn’t give her the right to move in on my man. But she just didn’t get it. She couldn’t understand why I was upset. I think she genuinely believes that everything of mine also belongs to her.
If I’m truthful, she has always taken advantage of my easy-going nature. I’ve never bothered to argue when she’s borrowed my clothes without asking or “accidentally” left her purse at home on mad nights out.
I’ve always taken the view that friendship is all about compromise. The plus side is that she’s great fun. She’s very upbeat and always keen for a laugh.
I’ve had some of the best holidays and nights out of my life with her. But this latest stuff with my boyfriend is really getting to me, because he’s really special.
We’re deeply in love and he could even be the one. For the first time ever I’m beginning to worry that my dear girlfriend is not as loyal or trustworthy as I thought she was.
She’s actually a very selfish, manipulative little madam who is only interested in what she can get and doesn’t give stuff for me. Where do I go from here?”
Posted: at 2-10-2011 10:09 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
livingday at 2-10-2011 10:12 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Some best friends!
Posted: at 2-10-2011 10:12 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
danpatrick at 2-10-2011 03:30 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Clearly the scales have started to fall from your eyes. For ages you’ve allowed your friend to walk all over you. You’ve put up with her selfish behaviour because you thought she was worth it.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 03:30 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
livingday at 2-10-2011 04:03 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: danpatrick on 2-10-2011 03:30 PM
Clearly the scales have started to fall from your eyes. For ages you’ve allowed your friend to walk all over you. You’ve put up with her selfish behaviour because you thought she was worth it.
Good observation
Posted: at 2-10-2011 04:03 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Most Girls are Guilty of always showing off their boyfriends like a new car or a prize Bull to their friends so they can be the source of Envy among their friends. This is notable in a situation where the man is rich and good-looking or influential. Don't be surprised when you find Flies on your food if you display it too much. Some times you have to watch the kind of friends you make. You're extremely lucky to have a man who would not cheat on you. Most men would have slept with your friend and lied to you about the whole time. This is a lesson to watch the kind of friends you expose your lover to
Posted: at 2-10-2011 04:18 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
smithengal at 2-10-2011 05:15 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: katung44 on 2-10-2011 04:18 PM
Most Girls are Guilty of always showing off their boyfriends like a new car or a prize Bull to their friends so they can be the source of Envy among their friends. This is notable in a situation where the man is rich and good-looking or influential. Don't be surprised when you find Flies on your food if you display it too much. Some times you have to watch the kind of friends you make. You're extremely lucky to have a man who would not cheat on you. Most men would have slept with your friend and lied to you about the whole time. This is a lesson to watch the kind of friends you expose your lover to
Nice comments, my dear.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 05:15 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
tundamartin at 2-10-2011 05:42 PM (13 years ago) (m)
You’ve allowed all the little niggles to go unchallenged for the sake of friendship. But now you’ve got someone you’re really serious and passionate about and it’s a whole new ball game.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 05:42 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
tarakhanali at 2-10-2011 07:26 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: tundamartin on 2-10-2011 05:42 PM
You’ve allowed all the little niggles to go unchallenged for the sake of friendship. But now you’ve got someone you’re really serious and passionate about and it’s a whole new ball game.
Suddenly your friend’s quirky ways aren’t so endearing. In fact, they’re downright annoying. I’m in no doubt at all that this woman is as sharp as a razor.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 07:26 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
giftmurphy at 2-10-2011 07:48 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: tarakhanali on 2-10-2011 07:26 PM
Quote from: tundamartin on 2-10-2011 05:42 PM
You’ve allowed all the little niggles to go unchallenged for the sake of friendship. But now you’ve got someone you’re really serious and passionate about and it’s a whole new ball game.
Suddenly your friend’s quirky ways aren’t so endearing. In fact, they’re downright annoying. I’m in no doubt at all that this woman is as sharp as a razor.
true
Posted: at 2-10-2011 07:48 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
You’ve allowed all the little niggles to go unchallenged for the sake of friendship. But now you’ve got someone you’re really serious and passionate about and it’s a whole new ball game.
Suddenly your friend’s quirky ways aren’t so endearing. In fact, they’re downright annoying. I’m in no doubt at all that this woman is as sharp as a razor.
true
Razor sharp friends? Count me out!
Posted: at 2-10-2011 07:57 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
brendivas at 2-10-2011 08:19 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: bigbonecrusher on 2-10-2011 07:57 PM
Quote from: giftmurphy on 2-10-2011 07:48 PM
Quote from: tarakhanali on 2-10-2011 07:26 PM
Quote from: tundamartin on 2-10-2011 05:42 PM
You’ve allowed all the little niggles to go unchallenged for the sake of friendship. But now you’ve got someone you’re really serious and passionate about and it’s a whole new ball game.
Suddenly your friend’s quirky ways aren’t so endearing. In fact, they’re downright annoying. I’m in no doubt at all that this woman is as sharp as a razor.
true
Razor sharp friends? Count me out!
She knows exactly what she’s doing and, at the moment, she’s going after your man. It could be that she doesn’t even fancy him at all.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 08:19 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
jennypriceson at 2-10-2011 08:58 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: brendivas on 2-10-2011 08:19 PM
Quote from: bigbonecrusher on 2-10-2011 07:57 PM
Quote from: giftmurphy on 2-10-2011 07:48 PM
Quote from: tarakhanali on 2-10-2011 07:26 PM
Quote from: tundamartin on 2-10-2011 05:42 PM
You’ve allowed all the little niggles to go unchallenged for the sake of friendship. But now you’ve got someone you’re really serious and passionate about and it’s a whole new ball game.
Suddenly your friend’s quirky ways aren’t so endearing. In fact, they’re downright annoying. I’m in no doubt at all that this woman is as sharp as a razor.
true
Razor sharp friends? Count me out!
She knows exactly what she’s doing and, at the moment, she’s going after your man. It could be that she doesn’t even fancy him at all.
This is no best friend at all. She wants what you have just for the fun of it.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 08:58 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
Most Girls are Guilty of always showing off their boyfriends like a new car or a prize Bull to their friends so they can be the source of Envy among their friends. This is notable in a situation where the man is rich and good-looking or influential. Don't be surprised when you find Flies on your food if you display it too much. Some times you have to watch the kind of friends you make. You're extremely lucky to have a man who would not cheat on you. Most men would have slept with your friend and lied to you about the whole time. This is a lesson to watch the kind of friends you expose your lover to
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1daful Is a Blessed Child..
Posted: at 2-10-2011 09:28 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
In d world we r now, nobody can say exactly what may befall d mighty, so that's y we need to let our eyes be single 4 us to awake on time from our slumber.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 10:10 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
Allen-jones at 3-10-2011 02:44 AM (13 years ago) (m)
If she can’t be trusted and grown-up enough to accept that you have a man – and he’s not for sharing – then maybe this friendship no longer has a future.
Posted: at 3-10-2011 02:44 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
Josseyjessy at 3-10-2011 03:13 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Allen-jones on 3-10-2011 02:44 AM
If she can’t be trusted and grown-up enough to accept that you have a man – and he’s not for sharing – then maybe this friendship no longer has a future.
She's not grown-up at all. Imagine sharing everything including your fiance!
Posted: at 3-10-2011 03:13 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming